Why is it almost always the guy who has to get fixed?

Question

Usually if couple has reached their kid limit why is it usually the guy who has to get a vesectomy. Why doesn't the woman who will actually be the one getting pregnant and having the kids just get their tubes tied. Or are women really just so paranoid that they just have to keep tabs on their man and make sure they don't get some floozy pregnant? I know it's not really reversible for women but still i often wonder.

Ashley h: if you show me some proof then i might change my outlook however i wont simply take your word for it just because your experience was different doesn't mean that its the norm :P

Besides there are still contraceptives that would work just as well as tubular ligation with less risk and are still reversible.

not the procedure the fact the more women get tubular ligation then men get vasectomys

Answer 1

For me, it's like this... If I'm the one having to go through the torture of pregnancy and childbearing, he can suffer with swollen balls for a couple days. And if he got someone else pregnant? Well, I guess either way he'd have swollen balls for a few days.

Answer 2

Although the procedure has been improved, with laproscopy, in the past, the man did it simply because the risk and recovery time were less.

It's quite a bit easier for most men to kick back with an ice bag on their crotch for a few days, than it is for a woman to have to lay flat or move VERY slowly for several weeks (when the tubal ligation is done via abdominal incision). Even with laproscopy, a woman's range of motion and ability is severly limited for a week or two.

Also, a vasectomy is CHEAPER. A vasectomy can be done without general anesthesia, in a doctor's office. A tubal ligation involves an operating room, the doctor, a couple of nurses, an anethesiologist, maybe even an overnight hospital stay. Much bigger deal.

Answer 3

I don't understand why more men aren't willing to get a vasectomy. It's cheaper, less invasive, and can be done in a doctor's office. Also, there isn't the problem of age and children like so many women face when they want a tubal ligation done. Many doctors will not perform a tubal ligation on a woman especially if she's under the age of 30 or she has no children. On the other hand, I know of men who got vasectomies when they were in their early 20s, no questions asked. These men did it because they were sure they didn't want to father any children and didn't want to take chances.

Answer 4

Uhhhhh-

Having your tubes tied, is major surgery. Having a vasectomy is not. It's out patient. It just seems like that would be an easier option for everyone involved.

And just wondering-why the attitude? If a couple are in a long term marriage/relationship, why is..... Oh never mind, I'm getting irritated.

Wikipedia:

The rate of vasectomies to tubal ligations worldwide is extremely variable, and the statistics are mostly based on questionnaire studies rather than actual counts of procedures performed. In the U.S. in 2005, the CDC published state by state details of birth control usage by method and age group.

[4] Overall, tubal ligation is ahead of vasectomy but not by a large factor.
In Britain vasectomy is more popular than tubal ligation, though this statistic may be as a result of the data-gathering methodology.

Couples who opt for tubal ligation do so for a number of reasons, including:

Convenience of coupling the procedure with delivery at a hospital
Fear of side effects in the man

Couples who choose vasectomy are motivated by, among other factors:[5]

The lower cost and simplicity of vasectomy
The lower mortality of vasectomy
Fear of surgery in the woman

Answer 5

Convenience. A vasectomy is a quick and near painless procedure. Tubal ligation is not. Vasectomies are much easier to reverse-not always 100%, but definitely achievable. My mother had a tubal ligation in 89' after my brother. She left my idiot father a few years later and remarried. Once we were all older, my stepdad was nearing empty nest and they decided to try and have a child. $15,000 and 30 pounds later, they decided to give up. Back in the 80s they used to cut and burn only. They knew the chances were low, but wanted to try. They were never able to get pregnant. They are considering adoption, but my stepfather will never have a biological child. He loves the three of us like his own, but was never able to experience the pregnancy, childbirth, and raising of a child (the youngest was 4 when they met). I had thought about getting one after our next child. After thinking about it, and talking to my mom, it will NEVER happen. I saw what they went through, and it was painful. I know many couples who have reversed vasectomies for various reasons, and they have all been successful. That is a HUGE part in why more men are stepping up and getting it done. It's better for everyone involved, physically, emotionally, and every which way in between.

Answer 6

for most couples the idea of any permanent contraceptive surgery is not considered lightly

most couples will discuss the pros and cons of all sides of the possibility of one of them becoming sterile before making any decision

its more common these days for the guy to have a vasectomy because 1. its easier to perform/ less invasive surgery and 2. it can be reversed more easily and with less complications than a woman having a tubal ligation.

Of all the couples I know who have had some form of surgical contraception in about 80% of the couples it was the WOMAN who had the surgery so I'm not sure what statistics you are basing your comment on?

I speak for myself too my husband was too chicken and more or less avoided the responsibility for any decision I made years ago when I had a tubal done.Of course I wish I had never done it now because I cant find a Dr to reverse it for me its too dangerous for me with my health probs.

I have not heard of anyone forcing their male partner/husband to get a snip OR ELSE .....just because of the risk of him impregnating some other woman??? If that was the reason maybe their relationship has bigger issues than just kids!

Answer 7

The main reason is that a vasectomy is a vastly more simple procedure than a tubal ligation. A vasectomy is done via local anaesthesia. However, a tubal is not all that complicated and if a woman is done having babies it's my opinion that that's the best way to go. That way you're not depending on somebody else to prevent the pregnancy.

Answer 8

Yes, it is reversible for a woman. I have two friends who have had it done for their second husbands to share a child with them. But, you are taking this procedure to a global level...ALL guys is a global statement in irrational thinking. Have you met ALL men? I think not. But to the issue at hand...getting their tubes tied is more of an operation than a man getting a vacectomy. One is a 'snip, snip' and the other is cutting into the woman's belly to get to the tubes and if she has children, she then must go home and take care of husband and child. A lot of men don't want anyone cutting on their "jewels". My husband passed out, and thought he had lost his sexual prowess. I'm in the medical field, and cringe when a man says "I won't have that operation". Where is the love for the woman, in asking her to undergo a more serious operation to satisfy his fears of losing his manhood?
I'm curious as to why you think so poorly of women, thinking we are paranoid that we have to keep tabs on a man, who might get a floozy pregnant. I know of no floozies, but lovely women and mothers. What crowd do you run with? You must be a man, and if not, you need to know where your anger is coming from. Woman aren't tramps, floozies, and all of the other things you are calling them....men and women are lovely people who need love and appreciation, not condemnation. Have a good day, and be happy. Peace

Answer 9

The surgery for a vasectomy is straightforward and low-risk. In addition, it's non-invasive. The surgery for an elective tubal litigation carries more risk and is invasive - even when done laproscopically. The only times the risk is really mitigated is during a c-section (the doctor is already right at the fallopian tubes, so sniping them isn't a huge big deal).

In addition, a tubal litigation is far more expensive and has a much longer recovery time than a vasectomy.

Most couples look at the facts and realize that it's easier, cheaper, and less risky to get the vasectomy, because they work as a unit, not as two selfish individuals.

That said, I got a tubal litigation instead of my husband getting a vasectomy. I had extremely generous sick leave at the time and had wonderful insurance, so I didn't have to pay one cent for the litigation and had plenty of time off to recover. We would've had to pay for ALL of his vasectomy.

For most couples though, it's not that way. If it had been cheaper and easier for him than for me, he'd've gotten the vasectomy, no question about it.

Answer 10

The procedure, a vasectomy, is a lot less invasive than a tubal ligation or hysterectomy. The normal vasectomy takes approximately 15 to 20 minutes and can be done on an outpatient procedure. Whereas, the tubal or hysterectomy entails cutting through muscles in the woman's abdomen(though they can now perform hysterectomies vaginally) and the procedures take more time and mean recovery in the hospital.

Answer 11

Tubal ligation and hysterectomy are more invasive procedures and some couples may also consider this to "make up" for it having been her responsibility to take the Pill for years.

Reversibility for men is hit or miss too, btw.

I doubt most women are trying to be controlling here.

And Ashley is correct. While vasectomies are on the rise, more couples use tubal ligation than vasectomy.

EDIT

Complications can occur with both procedures, but the need for general anaesthesia alone makes tubal ligation MUCH riskier.

(I experienced very painful complications, but I am still glad I did it.)