I have a little boy and I want to try so hard to teach him not to disrespect girls. To not play them. Is that even possible? Can I actually make a differnence? Do you think the fathers of boys change all that the mother tries to avoid. Or can he contribute and really make a difference. I just see young men who act like idiots treating women like crap and I wonder where did the mothers fail.
2007-10-06 16:58:49 · 6 answers · asked by Lordes Skye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
A lot of it is based on how the father behaves. A boy's father is his role model for how to act and treat people. if a boy grows up with a married mother and father that get along, then the boy will probably grow up with that as his model for relationships. If the parents are separated and the father dates various other women and doesn't get along with the mother, then that's what the boy sees as a model for how to be in life.
Also, popular culture these days is very much into glorifying the player lifestyle. Rap and R&B music are always talking about being a player and a "pimp" and they frequently express an attitude that women are just dumb b*tches that are only good for f*cking. And that attitude is kind of spread all over popular culture, on TV and in movies.
I don't really know how you can avoid that inflience because it's everywhere and you DON'T want to be one of those over-protective mothers that doesn't let your kid listen to the music that's popular. Maybe you can try somehow to find posative male rolemodels for him, whether it's in real life or maybe in older movies that are still cool. Or you could show him posative examples of respectable females from history, like Rosa Parks so he knows that women deserve respect. Or you could just talk with him on a regular basis in a serious manner, explaining to him that he should respect women. And make sure he knows that the life style expressed in music and movies isn't meant to be taken seriously.
2007-10-06 17:12:33 · answer #1 · answered by egn18s 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a little boy too! He just turned 2. You know what? Keep POSITIVE men in your life (you didn't say if you were married or not). As a Mom, you have soo much power to instill respect for women in your son. I actually found a great man, who treats me and all women with respect. He is a wonderful father. So YES LADIES..good men are still out there!!! Find good role models to surround your son and always demand him to show respect to everyone.
2007-10-07 00:05:34 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids model adult behavior-especially those who have the most influence over them--males, and females alike model their behavior after their parents and the relationships they have with one another. My daughter has my same mannerism and at first I didn't notice how closely she models my behavior and then other people ( my friends, family, coworkers, etc..) have all quickly pointed out how she is so much like me- even though she is the spitting image of her dad- i have to be extra careful in how I deal with others both in and outside my family because she is always watching -- even small interactions like shopping at the market , going to the mall, how i react to people who are rude or don't hold doors, my verbal as well as non verbal responses are being "recorded" by her. She imitates this often and I catch her mimicking this behavior in another situation with her peers-kinda spooky how small things teach your children- so if you want him to treat women right -make sure the man/men in your life are always showing u respect or show him the consequences of dis respecting women, namely you. Good luck sista........
2007-10-07 00:08:33 · answer #3 · answered by DJA30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all guys treat women poorly. I think mothers teaching your boys to respect girls is important, but ultimately, little boys are like sponges who treat women the way their father treats you. If you husband treats you with respect, then your son will know thats how to treat women when he gets older.
2007-10-07 00:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by bluechick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This often has to do with the environment that the boy grows up in or what he see's on T.V or even music that he listens to.. the modern world often potray females as on a lower level..less than human kind and often show us disrespect..
2007-10-07 01:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by 08Chic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they may not have even had mothers. my dad's mother died when he was little, so he 's not an emotional person, & he's not easy to get close to.
2007-10-07 00:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by Yotepha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋