My friends are driving me insane!!! One of them, who I thought was my best friend, is suddenly constantly contradicting me. I know she has all her own opinions and stuff, but it's like she's not even bothering to see my side and what I think. She just tells me that I'm wrong, or I'm stupid, and "corrects" me. One of my other friends seems obsessed with whacking people. Hard. I can't go a day without her hitting my should at least five times, or poking me all through the class I sit next to her in. Another one of my friends makes fun of me a lot. I mean, it's all joking, but she does it constantly and still thinks that I should be laughing about it. Then some of my other friends just recently started ignoring me.
I know what you're thinking, why are these people my friends in the first place, go find new friends...It's not that easy. In my school, you're stuck with the people you made friends with. You have no choice. And otherwise, my friends were really nice.
2007-10-06 14:28:52 · 10 answers · asked by asdfjkl; 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I want to talk to them, but I wouldn't know what to say, and I know that some of them simply wouldn't understand that there's a problem. I hate this situation so much. Do you have any advice for the girl who wants new friends (and please don't say join a club or activity or something; I'm already in all the clubs my school has to offer and it's doing nothing for me).
Thanks...I really need your help.
2007-10-06 14:30:51 · update #1
K, I know EXACTLY what you're going through, I've gone through ALL the same things so LISTEN.
You need to talk to your friends individually and address them. Friend 1: "Yeah...I see your point, but I think {whatever}." If that doesn't work, she tunes you out or whatever say. "I know you have an opinion but I have one too and I think [whatever].
Friend 2: Whack her back. If that doesn't work say "Hey, I don't want to sound wimpy, but can you please just stop?"
Friend 3: You gotta make fun of this girl back. Nothing major, 'cause that'll cause more drama. But next time she cracks at you, give hr a comeback that'll make her shut up, then confront her and tell her you don't think EVERYTHING she says is funny.
The people ignoring you. Ignore 'em back. They'll get it.
All this crap is going to happen to you a lot. You just can't be all, "poor me, no one gets me" and take it (not to sound harsh) like a woman. Show 'em you are awesome and they are Lucky they are your friend.
2007-10-06 14:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its NOT ok to have friends whacking you on the shoulder or immediately correcting your ideas they are:
1. Mentally obsessed about hitting people
2. Too crazy about their own thoughts
Heres some ways to "cure" them.
1. Tell the friends that whack you why they are whacking you, they WILL be out of ideas and that's your chance to speak some sense into them.
2. Keep on correcting your friend back. Soon she will get the point.
Or you can always show them Bible Verses.
If nothing works, sorry, but you need new friends...
2007-10-06 14:44:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her, that you have a right to voice your opinion like she does, and you will voice it whether she likes it or not. Tell the other girl you want to know when it became necessary to use you as a punching bag, and you wish she would stop it. When the other girl makes fun of you, make fun of her back, and see how she likes it. When she gets mad, and she will, tell her it was ok for her to make fun of her, so you thought it was just fine to make fun of her. If these are the only friends you have, maybe you should be without friends for a while. You will be surprised what new friends you will make when you are not around these girls. They might learn to appreciate you if you aren't around them all the time.
2007-10-06 14:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
High School friend groups can be brutal..especially when girls gang up and decide to "pick on" one friend..I am willing to bet that your friends have decided to make that one person you. Try ignoring them and see if they come running back to you..acting more normal.
Ive dealt with the friend that "pokes" or "hits" just to be cute and its VERY annoying..I feel your pain..Next time she touches you tell her to remove her hands from your body. It seems to me you need to be more assertive in your friendships. Sometimes people in groups will sniff out the weaker person and torment them just like dogs do in packs, just to establish a pecking order. Your friends may not like your new found assertiveness but at least you will have some pride in yourself even if you are alone.
You will find new friends best by being yourself and responding to people with kindness and confidence.
I know you are stuck around the same people everyday but you do not have to be the door mat either. Step up and be assertive and never let anyone pick on you or talk bad to your face ..You have one life to live its best to learn to be in control of it at this age of your life. You wont regret it..
GOOD LUCK
TRINITY
2007-10-06 14:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by Trinity 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ERG! I had the same problem in school! What I did is starting talking to more people in my classes and old friends and acquaintances (from say primary school) eventually I ended up meeting and befriending their friends.
Try talking to your current friends though, Im sure they will understand and not take offence.
2007-10-06 14:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. its like once your with a group of friends, you cant really go any where else b/c everyone else is already with their friends. I no this is prob what u dont wana hear but talks to them about it. tell them their being annoying and its gettin on ur nerves... its either that or u put up with it for a while.
2007-10-06 14:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by <C0nSPirAcY> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the one that always calling you stupid and telling you that you are wrong. Just say "it cuts both ways". You can be wrong just as good as I can." For the one who are hitting you on your shoulder just say " would you mind not doing that?" and lastly for the one who is making fun of you tell her "you are no longer funny and I am not amused. Please stop it.
2007-10-06 14:41:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nicely purely tell her whats up thats my belongings you haven't any longer have been given any awesome to touch it and if she nonetheless does tell her that she relatively desires 2 end then on the bottum line is dont be her frined or act like u very own her homestead
2016-10-10 10:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to them and make them listen. If they don't care enough about you to listen to what you have to say and how you feel...then i am sorry but i think it is time to let them go
2007-10-06 14:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl you need to get some different friends then
2007-10-06 14:31:45 · answer #10 · answered by chrystalbryeans 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋