Hey all i am 17 and pregnant. I already know that I am going to keep my baby no matter what. For the father on the other hand he knows I am pregnant but doesn't know what to think. He won't even talk to me about our child that is growing inside of me. And how am I suppose to tell my parents? I don't live with them I live with my best friend. In a complete different state. What do i do and how do I tell my parents? I am so scared they are going to kill me. HELP PLEASE!!!!!!!
2007-10-06 14:28:32 · 13 answers · asked by bronco_chick16 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Hey everyone else is giving such good advice (especially the lady who's speaking from experience) I agree with every one when they say your parents aren't going to kill you. I think they want us to think so during our teen years so we wont get in the situation but once we do, since they went through all the troubles of bringing us up, they wouldn't stop now.
Anyway I just decided to give my support (being a seventeen year old girl myself) and i hope everything works out for the best. Don't let anyone trample you down and hold your head up high! Keep on keeping on!
2007-10-06 14:50:43 · answer #1 · answered by ... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello 17 and pregnant. I have been in your shoes before. I got pregnant at 17, and hid it from the world. Trust me on this.. don't keep it in.. it will be the longest and hardest pregnancy ever. You will need the support... emotionally and maybe financially. You are better to talk to your parents as soon as you can. I know it will be hard but if you are straight up with them right away everything will work out better for you. I waited until my mother asked me (that was at 7 months). I only waited because I was scared and thought they would hate me, but you know what.. I was wrong. They were in shock yes, and it took a bit for them to come around but they said "everything happens for a reason" and they were right.
As for the father.. he is young and is probably just as scared as you are. He'll come around!!
Just for some reassurance.. I am 34 now... my son is 16... the son I had at 17. We did just fine. He has grown into a fine young man. I did it on my own WITH the support and love of my parents. He changed all of our lives in such a positive way.
I know you must be scared and feeling alone, but hang in there... you aren't the first to be going down this road at this age, and you certainly won't be the last. Do the right thing for YOU and tell your parents. Perhaps call them this weekend. Tell them you need to talk to them and it's very important... don't beat around the bush.. tell them you are pregnant and keeping the baby, and you are scared and are hoping that they will be supportive to your new situation.
I wish you all the best!
2007-10-06 14:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by webchick 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're 17, living with a friend in a different state than your parents, pregnant by a guy who isn't sure he wants to be a daddy yet. What you're folks will think and how they'll react is the least of your problems. Yes, I believe they should be told; if possible, in person--they're more likely to believe that you'll make a good mother if they can "see" that you're willing to take full responsibility for your actions up to this point.
As for the father...if you're truly in love, hopefully he'll come around and want to be a daddy. If he's not truely in love with you, or otherwise chooses not to be an active part of your child's life; I would advise that you don't try to force him into it. Forced daddy-hood rarely turns out good for anyone. Keep in mind however, that your state may be able to force him into helping you financially (via Child Support). I wouldn't use it as a threat to keep him in a relationship he doesn't want; but it may be worth looking into if/when you need money to help raise your child.
Best of luck!
2007-10-06 14:49:58 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant at this time can take a turn for better or worse. Im 17 and when my bf found out i was pregnant boy was he pissed off and scared. You need to think if youre ready for this type of challenge and if you are , then remember that theres all types of places and people to help you out. Clothing, vitamins, second hand stuff, labour support, ect almost everything can be found if the dad doesnt want to be there. Plus my mom has told me all throughout my pregnancy that no matter what there will ALWAYS be a man out there that will want to be with you and your baby.
2007-10-06 15:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents aren't going to kill you. Yes, they'll be upset because you're 17. However, no matter how angry they seem, they still love you and will love the baby. Congratulations, btw.
When I opened your question, I was afraid you were going to ask something about abortion. I'm glad to see you're keeping your baby.
I realize this has to be a hard situation and I can't really tell you that I know how it feels because I'm 29 and a male. However, I will say that God will help you if you ask. Just be patient.
2007-10-06 16:19:35 · answer #5 · answered by Evan S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, please don't put yourself in a stressful situation it is bad for the babies health and your health. You shouldn't be scared, you should be happy that you chose an answer. Now, If you are keeping the baby try to prepare yourself. Don't worry if your parents are going to get mad, they are your parents. Your boyfriend is probably in complete shock. If he is one of the good ones, he won't run away. Just give him time to come around. And if he takes too long for you, forget about him and just tell your parents. Find people who will support you.
I wish you great luck with your baby!
2007-10-06 14:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Idealist Dreamer Realist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Calm down would be the first thing to do. Your parents aren't going to kill you, they might be a little upset and angry but there's nothing you can do about that. As for the boyfriend, you can't force him to be a father and if he decided he doesn't want to be a part of your babies life then you are better off without him.
2007-10-06 14:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
they won't kill you they will have to travel far if they wanted to.
the best thing to do is when you tell them let them know that you are being responsible they will respect that alot more than hearing i got pregnant and the babys dad isn't with me. they will respect you and be more sensitive to the fact that you made the choice to keep it and you are doing it all by yourself right now. i hope the baby's father does a little thinking and decides to stay with you and the baby.
2007-10-06 14:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your parents aren't going to kill you. They are there to help you whether you realize it or not. Secondly, If the father of the baby doesn't wanna talk to you or talk about the baby, he doesn't deserve to be a father. I wouldn't worry. As long as you know how to take care of your child or have someone around who can help you, you'll be fine.
2007-10-06 14:34:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm happy for you that your going to keep your baby, you need to call your parents they might went to to kill you but they wont, hay my be they will say come home, i hope the best for you and your baby,
2007-10-06 14:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by QUEENS 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋