Ok. I have this friend whose mom is really crazy. Ive known her for years and her mom gets mad at her for everything. She has 3 older sisters that got pregnant at either 14, 15, and 17. My friend is 15 now and she also has a younger sister who is 5 years old. The mom has a drinking problem and her sisters all make her watch kids and shes in school and everything she hardly does anything. Her mom just broke her tv and phone for NOTHING....just because she was sleeping and her little sister came in the room and started making lots of noise and her mother took her little sisters side. I wanna go to like social services but I feel like its not in my part. Shes scared to talk to someone because the rest of her family will call her a b*tch or a brat which shes not. I dont know what to do because she is like my best friend and shes a good person who doesnt nothing but watch other peoples kids. Can you help me please?
2007-10-06 13:33:42 · 4 answers · asked by ♥ I Love Lamp 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yes! The thing is, is that she is waaaay different than her sisters and her mother doesnt even see that. She hasnt even had sex and all her sisters have at that age. Shes on the AB honor roll which hers sisters werent and shes into extra cirucular activities at school. Shes great but no one sees that. Shes always stuck at home watching kids while her mom yells at her for no reason and she makes her do a whole bunch of chores rather then do her homework and if she does it wrong she gets hit. Shes just scared to talk to people because she doesnt want people to know her situation and her family is VERY VERY judemental and she feels like her mother would get even MORE mad at her and God knows what she would do.
2007-10-06 13:59:55 · update #1
Talk it over with your parents, or someone cool from the staff at school. Your idea is right, but you could use the help of an adult who can help pull things in the right direction.
I admire your guts and interest in helping!!! We need more people like you around! :)
2007-10-06 13:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should report them to social services. The sisters who became pregnant probably did that in hopes of having a man who would help them escape from the mother and unless something is done, your 15 year old friend as well as even the 5 year old daughter will eventually get pregnant at an early age as well. She - you're friend - would be better off in a foster home than to continue in the same situation and the 5 year old will be better off as well. You didn't mention anything about her father but perhaps he would be in a position to take the two youngest kids and get them out of that situation. I hope things work out for her but do call social services and tell someone about the situation.
2007-10-06 20:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in the end, she is going to have to testify herself. So maybe suggest that you go with her and be her mental support? Tell her that you will be there through thick and thin. You could go to the school counselor together. If she doesn't want to do it, then you being her best friend must go to the counselor yourself and explain that she is scared to speak up but you know what's going on. You don't want something bad to happen to her because nothing was ever said.
2007-10-06 21:04:43 · answer #3 · answered by Paula Christine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as you said it's not your part to go to social services but i think that you should encourage her to talk to her teachers or counselors about this abuse and discourage her from following her sisters footsteps. If she won't do it for herself tell her to do it for her younger sis, i know she would hate for her to grow up in a family of abuse.
2007-10-06 20:51:17 · answer #4 · answered by smarty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋