how do i stop over controlling parents?

Question

just trust me-they're bad. for example, i got grounded for my last report card that was 6 A's and one B+. they even admit to "controlling me". and they tell me that they do certain things for the sole purpose of "controlling me". i try to tell them that i don't want to be controlled. that i deserve to make my own decisionss. they always say that the only reason they control me is because i dont tell them enough about my own life, but no way i would ever tell them about my life, even though i have nothing really to hide. its just that i really am starting to hate them. if they find anything out about my life that they dont like, they'll just do something to make it the way they want. and also, ive never been able to talk to them about anything, and i dont want to. all they do is preach to me about what i should do, and i HATE THAT! i have no clue how to just have some independance from them! and no, i havent done anything bad in the past, so they dont have a reason not 2 trust me

oh and i've tried yelling
ive had a grudge against them for a few years
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doesnt work
maybe i should just show them i can control myself and go move in with a friend.. even though im only 15 and none of my friends have their own places.. i can always make new friends?

Answer 1

Every teenager just about thinks their parents are too controlling.

Trust is earned but perhaps from their own past your parents were teenagers who did not earn trust or their parents never learned to trust them. But silence will only cause them to seek more control in their apparent need to make sure you are safe, a parental responsibility.

Give them simple information, nothing serious or sensitive. Maybe a little will help them realize you are growing into the responsible adult they are trying to raise.

How do you stop your controlling parents? You grow into a healthy, independent, happy and responsible person who at age eighteen can move out, get a job and live independently.

Answer 2

First and foremost: you cannot stop them from controlling you or anyone else. You can only control what you say and do, not what someone else says or does (unless you are a parent since parents are responsible for their children and their childrens actions until they are 18, at which time they are considered adults in the USA).

Second, family counseling might be a good idea, if your parents are up to doing so. Ask them about it in a grownup manner and they may say they will think about it. If you demand it, they will probably refuse. It's worth a try!

Answer 3

Have a talk with them where you shout. Then go cry in your room and hold a grudge against them forever. They'll give in.

Answer 4

thats bad.

get family counciling