To understand my question, first read my previous question. Today, I embraced him lovely and told him that I am not angry of him at all. When I asked him why he did that, he told me that he wished to suck before I bore my second baby because he saw our neighbour sucking at 4 years old and blamed me why I didn't breastfeed him until the age of 4. He asked me to allow him to suck one time every week for 1 year to respond to his desire. When I told him that it is very bad, he started to cry loudly and say: You don't like me. Will you be tired if you allow me to suck even once ?
2007-10-06 12:17:16 · 8 answers · asked by Worrying mother 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I breastfed both of my children exclusivly until they were a year old, then I weaned them off within a month after that. I would have never concidered breastfeeding for years, and I certainly don't think that once you have weaned the child they should be allowed to resume.
That being said I will tell you that I encountered a young woman who breast fed her daughter until she was 7!!! My intial thought was, that is wrong, but I will tell you this little girl was so very bright, she excelled in school, and to this day is one of the smartest children I have ever met.
I couldn't do it that long, but studies have been shown that the longer you do it for the more benificial.
But I really think that once they have been weaned, they should not be allowed to resume. This is just him regressing his behavior, just be sure to do special things with just him after the baby is born, so that he understands that you will always love him, and he will not be replaced with the baby.
2007-10-06 15:07:13 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ ~Isabelle's mommy~ ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this true......your previous posters are wrong.....a child nursing at 4 years of age is not only healthy but biologically normal
my daughter who was 4 years at the time of my last pregnancy asked the same thing....she nursed for over 2 years and asked me if when the baby arrived if she could nurse again....i told her of course she could
i got some good advice from extended breastfeeders here that it was important to her that i agree and allow her to try it....but that she most likely wouldn't like the milk
they were right.......when my second daughter was born 3 months ago my newly turned 5 year old wanted to nurse also......i let her and she never asked again! haaaa....once she got a taste of the milk she pulled off and said no thanks
but what was important is that i let her try.....and she still associated nursing with love and comfort.....and that is a beautiful thing
tell him he can nurse too when the baby is here....he needs to hear that and it's only weird in the USA.....everywhere else children nurse for several years
good luck
2007-10-06 20:12:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its quite normal really. He feels that you did not do what other mothers do. He feels left out in the sense that he did not go through what his neighbour went. You should explain to him, that you cannot allow him to suck on your breast, and its not because that you dont love him, only because that you have grown up to a big boy. If he still does not change his mind then i suggest you talk to your family doctor, he/she will have some suggestions.
2007-10-06 20:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by God Of War 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that nursing is for little babies. He should understand because older kids don't want to be babies anymore.
I'm pregnant with my second. I plan on nursing for a year. My first son will be 18 months old when this one is born, and I've been worried that he'll feel left out or unloved when he realizes that he isn't allowed to nurse. I'm just going to explain to him that he's a big boy and nursing is for little babies.
Hopefully all goes well with you and yours.
2007-10-06 19:22:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You asked before about your son exhibiting inappropriate behavior - and I am suspicious of sexual abuse done to your son. This is not okay, not by a long shot. There are some boundary issues that are being ignored here - you are not making it clear that this is inappropriate and your son is not understanding. Its obvious you are uncomfortable with his recent behavior, and the continuing entreaties by him. Or it excites you and want permission... but that is just my impression.
Regardless, your son, and you, need help. Ideally before your new child is born.
2007-10-06 20:25:48 · answer #5 · answered by Ethel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The boy has been weaned, and has been for a while. He is way too old to nurse or resume nursing.
He is being manipulative and a showing a lot of control issues here. I am afraid if people find out that you let him, you will be reported to Children's Services.
Tell your husband what is going on, and both of you need to talk to him in a supportive way. If behavior does not improve, seek counseling for him, and the family.
2007-10-06 19:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 6⤊ 2⤋
It's a jealousy issue. He wants to be the baby and knows he won't be anymore.
2007-10-06 19:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Maintenance 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding?
2007-10-06 19:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jenni 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋