If you had an argument with your partner and he physically stopped you from exiting a room, how would you feel?
2007-10-06 12:06:09 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
...and if you pushed and lashed out to get him out of your way, and then found yourself on the floor, then what????
He didn't hit me but I grew up seeing my mum abused and this has really disturbed me. It's just happened and I don't know what to do.
2007-10-06 12:12:35 · update #1
I would feel like it was time for me to not only leave the room but leave the relationship. No one ever has the right to physically stop you from leaving the room. It is a subtle sign of abuse that will only progress over time.
2007-10-06 12:09:40 · answer #1 · answered by Deevah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust Me, I've been there and it wasn't pleasant at all. I know how you feel afraid and wondering maybe this is the only and last time he'll ever hit me. Wrong my grandmother always told me " If a man hits you once, prepare for the second one it's on it's way" Even tho he hasn't harmed you in any way but your frightened of him i suggest you leave before anything serious happens. I know it's hard tell your family and friends about it they can help you. Leave before it's to late. Be wise about it don't hesitate one bit about leaving because abuse is no way to live.
2007-10-06 19:17:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband can be a bit like that when he feels threatened i.e. that I don't love him anymore. Its a scared person's tactics - I would be wondering how bad they have to feel to do something so pathetic. As in all things woman are generally far more insightful. Men don't always realise why they do controlling things but in my experience, its the frightened ones that do it most. I now blast mine down with love. If he gets a bit uppity and looks like he is going to get physical, I tell him I love him very much and want him to sort things out with me. I then sit down and stay quiet. He goes all quiet too and the next day, he does what I want. He just needs reassurance. Its odd because when they are behaving like twits, you usually don't want to be nice to them which fuels the situation to the limit!
2007-10-06 19:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there...I couldn't leave, and when I tryed he'd block the door and push me back. Luckily his parents were asleep upstairs and heard me crying an came down. He was after drink that night so I let it go but not long later another issue arose and we broke up. I don't think men like this can be ever trusted. You need to leave him! You never know what will happen the next time ye argue!
2007-10-06 19:11:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This once happened to me, and i felt very angry and powerless, and i lost alot of respect for him and his 'love' for me,
i remember thinking at the time.....how dare he...who does he think he is??
i think that some men like to test their ability to control you, and if you back down and let him get away with it then you are allowing him to do it again...... I understand that at the time you feel threatened so are reluctant to 'fight' back, but when you have both calmed down i suggest you have a serious talk, and make it clear that his behaviour is not something you are prepared to accept!
2007-10-07 07:04:55 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Honesty ♥.•´ `*.¸ ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just dump him, hes insecure, a bully, a wannabe control freak and youve even witnessed this rubbish in your life, you know it will only get worse
2007-10-07 06:04:36 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ Glitterbomb ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
watch out...there could be more "physical" manifestations and that is not good. if this happens regularly when you are arguing, first talk to him about it but if you sense that it cannot be changed, get out or you will end up black & blue someday.
2007-10-06 19:12:38 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he stepped in front of me to prevent me from leaving.....I would be angry but I'd get over it.
If he put his hands on me in anger for any reason...we would have a big problem.
2007-10-06 19:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is abuse. Tell him now that if it does not stop you will move out...and report it. If it continues, then do what you have said.
2007-10-07 03:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh that's a no no in my book, he may of done it because he wanted you to hear him out but if done for any other reason its bad..talk to him tell him that's not really on but do agree if you can on a way to listen to each other..good luck
2007-10-06 19:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Redmuppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋