Is it wrong to not talk to someone who helped a marriage fail?

Question

I used to work in a very small office. Apparently my only other female co-worker had been sleeping with our older boss for the past 2 years. He was married for those 2 years and another 5 years prior to that. She ended up getting pregnant and he ended up not leaving his wife until my ex co-worker actually had the baby. Now they live together and he still hasn't divorced his wife... I just get sick over it everytime my ex co-worker calls... I never pick up the phone or return e-mails or calls. Is this wrong? Is there another way to address this? (It hits home because my Dad left my Mom a little while back for a co-worker he had met when I was a young girl)...

Answer 1

Everyone has to accept the consequences of their actions - in this case, this girl decided to have a relationship with a man she knew was married. She then split up that home and probably hurt a lot of people in the process. If some people want nothing to do with her because of this, then so be it. She has to take it. I dumped a friend of mine because she was going with a married bloke. She had even met his wife and kids and spoken to them. I couldn't believe that anyone could be that nasty. I don't want to know people who do this sort of thing. Clearly I am not alone. Well done to you. I wish more people would stand up for what they believe in.

Answer 2

Apparently, the woman and your ex-boss both helped the marraige fail. But since SHE is the one calling you, she is the problem.
If her conduct bothers you, or goes against your moral clause, then don't be friends with her. Please tell her why, in person, a letter, or an email. [ try to be nice as you can - let her know how close she hit to home. ]
Good luck.

Answer 3

No it is not wrong. You seem to be conflicted in this matter due to feelings you have about your dad's past relationships.
If you feel this strong about talking or not talking to someone who " resembles " your dad's past conduct you must separate your feelings from them both.

If you choose to have contact with the person who is the subject of this question....then set the boundries of your contact / relationship and stick to those boundries that you feel most comfortable with.

Answer 4

i can understand that the past is affecting the present. bad memories. If you want to ignore her then that is your choice, no one elses. i think that what they have both done is very wrong indeed. do not let it get to your head. do your job and live your life but most important, dont make that mistake and learn from the others you make.

Answer 5

Is she calling and e-mailing YOU? If she is, it's not wrong of you not to respond.

If, however, she's writing someone else (her current partner, your boss) or calling him, it is wrong of you not to pass these various messages on, regardless of your personal feelings (although, I have a hard time understanding why she'd e-mail him at work).

Answer 6

I don't think it's wrong. You're morally disappointed in your co-worker. I think you're doing the right thing.

Answer 7

yes you ignore the mariage rwecker what the dozy tart doesnt realise what hes done wiver behind wifes bk hell do to her so revel in that as an when

Answer 8

You simply cannot condone this behavior. You probably never will.

There doesn't seem to be any reason you should interact with people who lie, cheat, or steal.

Answer 9

NO....You do not have to accept wrongs of others as an act of friendship

Answer 10

I don't think I would change much of what you are doing. You owe here no explanation........ If you want to dissociate yourself from her than do it.