He is my husband and father of my kids but he had other woman when I was out and it almost ruined our family.
2007-10-06 09:02:45 · 22 answers · asked by Azer M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Think of something good things he did to you. Oops, I am only 17 and how can I say. Maybe its right or its wrong. Don't know
2007-10-06 09:07:38 · answer #1 · answered by Faheem 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor girl! No one should have to deal with this problem.
Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting what they did or not feeling any pain over it. It doesn't mean shifting the blame to yourself, the other woman or away from the adulterer, your husband.
Forgiving is a process. It is the courage to stand up to the future and say you won't be obsessed with your victimhood nor seek revenge. It is the courage to look at your husband and say that IF he is remorseful AND re-commits himself to his family, you are going to give him the opportunity to earn your trust back.
G-d bless you and your children and may He give your husband the strength he needs to be a good father and spouse.
2007-10-06 16:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. You will never totally forgive him or forget what he has done. The question is, can you live with it? Can you keep your marriage together knowing he had sex with another woman, or do you even want to? Only you can answer these questions.
2007-10-06 16:42:11 · answer #3 · answered by countrygent07 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, it is difficult to answer this question without seeing the whole picture. here is my opinion: the husband who made one mistake and is sincerely sorry for it and will most likely not stray in the future, deserves to be forgiven. It may not be easy to trust him again, but if you want a life together, you have to have trust and learn to live with it.
you need to know what went wrong, why he strayed. in your mind there is no reason good enough to explain why he did what he did. as true as that may be, you still need to know what caused him to cheat. you need the answers for yourself and to know if the problem can be fixed. during the anger period you won’t really care if anything is resolved, but when things quiet down you’ll want some answers.
i have had to forgive my spouse for certain things, not necessarily "cheating". i can tell you that It takes a long time to even begin to trust again. not trusting becomes exhausting and in due time you learn to get over it and get on with life.
2007-10-06 16:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To forgive someone, it has to come from the bottom of your heart but as long as you are with that person, you cannot its kind hard to forget. you will keep on remembering time after time, day after day, months...Its always like a flash back memories hopping you won't face it again and if happen you still continue to remember.
2007-10-06 16:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know You are Probably Much older then me. I am only in the tenth grade and dont know anything bout marriage yet. but my mom Has been divorced before and i ahve stepparents the whole nine yards..... she taught me that the key is to Forgive... but dont foget. Because Memories are a life time. even if they are good are bad. they are what make you.. you. and U wouldnt want to forget becuase if it is bad then you wana make sure u kno it so then the next time you try to move on it wont happen again.... You just be strong suck it up and move on.
2007-10-06 16:06:54 · answer #6 · answered by PandaLuvr 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Give it TIME. Try to remember that love should be unconditional, that was the "for better or for worse part". Talk to him, TELL HIM you're having a difficult time forgiving him-ask for some space and/or time. The man you love is still there-REMEMBER THAT. And lastly, be thankful you used the word "almost" in your question.
2007-10-06 16:09:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ouch! people have been doing this for ages but no one ever cares, because it's not them. but i think the best thing to do is forgive hi. it lets the burden, pain, agony, and the very event of it happen a little better. why? by forgiving him you've said to yourself this is over, by not keep this hate in my heart I have already moved on with my life.
2007-10-06 16:08:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ravenn themad Dogg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its up to you on what you should do. If you still love him, just try and forget the whole situation by thinking of all the good times you two had. If you can't forget it, and it's really bothering you, then just tell him you'd rather be friends because he really hurt you.
2007-10-06 16:07:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive - only by the grace of God!
Forget - never and don't have to.
That's a super tough thing to go through! Remember he chose to cheat and it's not your fault!
2007-10-06 16:05:41 · answer #10 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"he's my husband and father of my kids"?!
that sounds really stupid...
well....I dont know if thats true or u just imaginated this case but the answer is:
u should try to forgive him couse they are no better ways to live I mean if u dont,u will run away with ure kids and live without a husband and thats really hard...so just try to forgive him(I dint know how to forgive him),u dont need to forgot that.
2007-10-06 16:16:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋