I read criticisms negatively. Do you?

Question

When I read forums and messages I interpret them to be negative. When you read things, you usually can't tell the tone of the message. But for some reason, I always read it to be the negative. When I read video comments on YouTube or even answers to questions here on Y!Answers, unless they are worded precisely to sound positive, I take them to be negative.

This also goes for correction and criticism. For example, when I write a paper for a class, the professor grades it and hands it back. And when I read his/her comments, I always immediately take it to be an attack of some sort. They may disagree with my reasoning on some subject, and I feel anger towards them for critiquing my work. The thing is, though, I am rarely angry about things and I always try to keep an open mind. But my natural reaction to a criticism is always the negative.

I was just wondering if others are similar or maybe have some comments on the subject. I appreciate it!

-Rich

Answer 1

I think it's a natural reaction to feel a bit less than happy about criticism. And a lot of it is in the way the criticism is done. But being told that you haven't done as good a job as someone else thinks that you should have is going to rub anybody the wrong way. The trick is to try and learn from it so that next time you'll do better.
An old Physics Prof. of mine once claimed that 95% of all human advancement could be traced to someone, somewhere, at some time, saying, "I'll show those sons-of-bitches." ☺

Doug

Answer 2

well, the best way to correct or cretique someone, is to give them somthing positive about what they have done, then tell them the negative, then a positive. this way they feel as if you are trying to help them rather than hurt them.
=)
if you read enough of what certain people type, you will beable to tell what is an attack and what is not.

also, just try to think of the person as trying to help. he wouldnt even criticize you if he didnt care.

Answer 3

in reality, i think of that each and one and all human beings prefer perfection. now and returned, human beings accord perfection to specific politicians just to assuage fears. on the finished, i've got no longer been happy the administration via fact that i became unsleeping to renowned there became a Vietnam conflict happening. As an entire, human beings understand what they like, and that they like it performed awesome now. the awesome now never happens, and unhappiness edges into critisism. perhaps Liberals take great factor approximately our awesome to unfastened speech, and conservatives have too plenty faith in politicians.

Answer 4

no not really.
ok sometimes you can tell if people are being..mean, you know? and you can tell it is meant negatively.
but sometimes you just can't go around the fact that it is positive, or maybe I'm just hoping that they'll react positive, so I immediately think of them as positive.

Answer 5

Thats not Rich

You see your cup as half empty
You need to see your cup as half full

It is your attitude to life, it must have a "prove to me, negative, I don't believe anything good", bent to it.

You need to change your attitude.
Rich means endowed with all that is good.
Doesn't it.

Answer 6

No ... I don't do that. Most criticism is genuinely meant to help you in some way, even if that effort is misguided.

Answer 7

This is a personality thing; folks would say that you are immature.