Do you have absolute control over your own life ......?

Question

or are you simply pleasing others ......
without truly being yourself .......
do you feel like they have control over you & your life ......
if you are very young / I am not talking about your parents

Answer 1

i think i have control over the decisions i make. but ultimately other people have control over our lives. you live to serve others. you serve your boss.. you take care of your families and kids.. your money comes and goes to others. the government controls us. thats a tricky question. when we make a decision to do or not to do something there is always another person it effects.

Answer 2

I know what you're asking. You're not even necessarily just referring to yourself, just inquiring in general: "Do parents get to be boss forever and control what children do and don't do? Do they forever have the right to act overprotective?" I'll try to sound as unbiased as possible. If the child/ren are presently dependant on the parents, as long as that's the case, then the answer to all of the above is yes. If they live at home with them, that's dependant on them. If the parents pay all, or most of the expenses, that counts as dependant on them. As long as those, either of those are the case, they will continue to have leverage on the child, and there is nothing the child can do, except both move out, and support themselves independently of their parents' money. From birth to age 18, the parents have pretty much absolute power. It is a myth that the parents' power ends when the child turns 18. Even when the child is 18 and beyond, their power will still remain as long as the above two are the case, living at home and them supporting the child. Only difference is, at 18, the child now has the legal right to move out if they choose. Simply turning 18 merely gives the child the legal right to move out. The age itself does not end the parents' power on the child. Only when the child actually does move out, does the parents' power/control end. Otherwise, (again) as long as either, or both of the above two are the case, they can do that (boss/control/overprotect/veto).

Answer 3

I have some control over my life. You automatically lose some of that when you get married and become a parent. It just comes with the job!

Answer 4

I thought I was on my way to change. I realize that I have very little control over my life. I think I still tend to live my life to please everyone around me. Getting over guilt is different from letting go of it and everyone knows that the way to get me to do things is to accuse me of being selfish because I strive so hard not to be

Answer 5

I please a lot of people, even people I don't really like. I feel though I have some control over my life, but I need to do better. I have to quit of what other people of thinking about me.

Answer 6

I have a lot of responsibilities, and sometimes I do feel like my life is not my own, but what all I do is choices I have made and will stick by them.

Answer 7

I don't, I live in a society goverened by laws. I must obey them or pay the consequences, which I am unwilling to do.

Answer 8

I think most of the time i am trying to please others. I feel like i have no control

Answer 9

I always have control over everything I do.

Answer 10

I have complete control. I don't look to make others happy. In essence, I just "do me."