do women become feminists because they've had bad experiances with men?

Question

For me, i admit this is why I myself am a feminist. I struggle sometimes with the sense that all people should be equal and my hurt feelings over men in my past.

oh and btw i'm not just talking about one guy in my life that has dissapointed me. there have been a fair few.

ok look. i think some people think i am trying to push my own agenda. let me prove this isnt true.

1.) women have less pay than men
2.) most men who rape women and are reported never go to jail
3.) Domestic violence doesnt have significant consequences legally for men
4.) women's role in society is downplayed. Can anyone name any famous women artists??? I cant... same goes for other fields.
5.)women are seen as assistants rather than bosses

look i know maybe my own personal experiances have colored my view towards men. but i feel as though i can see the aspects of society where women are less equal than men and i'd like it changed. Perhaps i just get angier than i need to over these topics.

Answer 1

I as a Woman, believe in fairness, no matter what gender, age or status. Fair is fair. But I wouldn't become a Feminist because I was dumped by a Man or my feelings were hurt by a Man.

You know the saddest thing? Some People give Feminism a bad reputation. If we as society can come to terms and listen to what People are saying, instead of jumping the gun or joining a witch hunt, then maybe we, as society, will be able to hear what is needed by the People and act upon it. Do what is Humanly right and fair for ALL.

Answer 2

In the past, I think some people became feminists because of anger, but it's a very destructive way to deal with your anger and pain. Some men become involved in the masculinst and father-rights groups for the same reason, and ultimately it doesn't help them or their cause.

I started out a feminist since I dislike being told what to do, period. And many people, both women and men, felt they had a right to tell me what I should do, act, feel, or think just because I was a woman. It was a stupid reason then, and is a stupid reason now.

The only time I went through an angry period was after I was attacked. But since I love my brothers and loved my ex-husband, it was ridiculous to blame the actions of one onto anyone else. And I wasn't very angry after I got divorced, more sad than anything else.

I suggest you talk with someone about your negative experiences, or attend workshops about loss or pain, or see a therapist, or read books and talk with others about your feelings who are supportive. Dumping on random men is not fair or helpful to you or anyone else. You need to figure out how to deal with the ones who hurt you.

Answer 3

Let's see: I have a great relationship with my dad, most of my favorite teachers were men, and I'm with the same guy that I've been with since I was 16. One of the earliest important men in my life was my grandfather, he died when I was 5, and I miss that wonderful guy to this day.

I don't know, I think men have treated me pretty well in my life. I've never felt physically threatened by a man, mentally threatened by a man, and I don't feel that a man has ever told me that I "can't" do something. So, no, it doesn't take bad experiences with men to turn someone into a feminist.

Good experiences with men certainly help some women become masculinists, though! =D

Answer 4

Uh, no.

My conviction that I am a human being and not property has nothing to do with bad experiences with men. Far from it.

The father who raised me raised me as a human being. By and large, I've had experiences with men ranging from good to great (with very few, minor, bad experiences -- until I started coming here and seeing what pigs there still are in the world, and how many clueless women).

If what you've said about yourself is true, that's too bad.

It shouldn't have taken bad experiences with men to convince you that you are a human being.

Be that as it may, do NOT generalize to all the other feminists -- especially the feminists who are men. They are not feminists because of bad experiences with themselves!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

The first thing you need to do is dump your current source of ‘information’ because the information you are getting is propaganda-filled garbage.
1) It is illegal to pay women less than men. Women who do the same job with the same qualifications are paid the same as men.
2) Most rape claims are false; sentences for rape are quite lengthy.
3) Charges of domestic violence are more often than not, false and punishment is adequate. I would be curious as to what you feel the consequences should be.
4) Women in society is based on women; if it is downplayed, it is BY women.
5) Women in business are viewed according to the job they do. If they ARE assistants, they will be viewed as assistants, as one would think.

You seem to have a pathological hatred for men and seem to need counseling, not feeding the hatred by immersing yourself in anti-male hatred: feminism.

Answer 7

That's one of the reasons actually. It's trivial however. Most feminists would like to find the most common reason for their activities. I am an egalitarian, unique perspective of equality. Women have been maltreated since the genesis! :-) Man has traded his chivalry for power. He would have himself believe that He is supreme of all Creation. This notion has been established over the generations by the rule of Kings and Emperors.
Relationships are filled with hurt and pain. Men go through it too. However, his pride will lead you to believe that he isn't hurt at all! But men hurt too! And some even cry... It's just his resilience and stubborn arrogance that depicts otherwise.
Women need to stand up against their counterparts. But not under the pretext of "equality". Thats just an excuse to get even!
Women need to establish themselves to the position designed for them: Mother of the World. She has the sole responsibility to nurture this world. Her onus is beyond any false pride that any man might mistakenly boast of. She is burdened with the task to give life and continue the legacy of humanity. Women need to realize their worth and use this as leverage to overpower men, ;-)
Hope I've answered your query.
Thank you for the opportunity.

Answer 8

Not necessary, generally people that want a better world for everybody, will tend to be anti-racism, anti-homophobic and pro feminism, as these are causes that promote respect for all and are against any social injustice or abuse to human beings of either gender.
There is a big confusion with feminism, as some people think that it is about bossy women wanting to control men, that is a very narrow view, as radical feminists are very few and there are many other branches of feminism. Feminism is a global issue, that will exist while there is rape, children being trafficked for prostitution, children forced to combat in wars, countries where women are second citizens, honour deaths and many other horrors :-(

Answer 9

I became a feminist so that my daughters and sons could exist in a world that recognizes and celebrates diversity. I want them to grow up with equality between not only men and women but also races, religions, abilities, socioeconomic backgrounds, sexual orientation, elderly etc.
Why should some be given opportunities while others have none?

Answer 10

No. Feminism isn't anti-male therapy and the ridiculous answers from people who say we're unable to "get anybody" are pure bullsh!t. I am a feminist because I can see the imbalances in society and want to correct them. True feminism encompasses men as well as women. It's positive action, not negative.