ok. there are some questions that need to be answered before I will even consider having sex with him....
1. can the doctors tell
2. im not on birthcontrol.;.... ????
3. my momwants me to take cervical cancer shots...she siad i cant have sesx beofer the shots or during the shots which take a year and a half....
4. adn this is completly ridiciolous but whats about the cherry pop???
5. will it hurt
i know im stupid. im not ready buit I still habve questions
if there is anythi8ng else I should know PLEASE help me.....
2007-10-06 06:47:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
1. unless you had sex within 48 hours from the appointment, they can't tell.
2. get on some now or use condoms.
3. NO do NOT do that... there are NO long term studies done regarding this vaccine, it may NOT protect you from what it says it will, and it does not protect against all forms. There are too many unknowns.
4. Cherry pop? Either meaning your virginity or your hymen. Your hymen, btw, can break with any type of vigorous activity and not just sex.
5. It might. It didn't hurt me but it does hurt some.
DO NOT have sex if you are not ready. DO NOT have sex if you are not ready to take care of a baby. DO NOT have sex if you and your b/f cannot take responsibility of a baby.
Just remember NO contraceptive is 100%. You can get pregnant any time you have sex.
2007-10-06 06:56:00 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if you are not ready then DON'T do it!!! That is the main reason not do do it. If your BF loves you, he will understand and not make you feel pressured. As for your questions: 1) Doctors can sometimes tell, but only through a pelvic exam. 2) If you are not on birth control, that is another reason not to do it - even if he tells you he's a virgin you will never know for sure if he's telling the truth and you do not want to risk your health or a pregnancy. 3) There is now a vaccine that prevents the HPV virus (an STD). It is important because if you contract this virus (transmitted through any type of sex) you as a girl have a much greater risk of getting cervical cancer!! Even if you decide not to have sex right now, it would be a good idea to get it so you don't have to worry about it later (your mom IS looking out for you!!) 4) The hymen or "cherry" is a membrane (skin) that can be almost non existent or very prevalent depending on the girl. It may have already been broken by riding a bike, horseback riding, or other like activity. 5) You will not know until you actually have sex whether it will hurt and you may bleed. You are not ridiculous or stupid. In fact, you are very smart for asking these questions. One more thing, sex may sound great, but can be very scary for the first time and it can also change your life in many different ways. Examples: pregnancy, contracting and STD that you will have for the rest of your life, and it may also change your relationship you and your BF have. Please think about what YOU want and stand up for your beliefs!!!
2007-10-06 14:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by muchluv4pets 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK There are a few things going on here.You say you are not ready for sex, then you ask all these questions. Before i start I'll say guys always want sex, if you feel you are not ready say no-end of story. All these questions are just red herrings, however I shall endeavour to answer. 1 doctors cant usually tell. 2 Before you have sex you need to sort out the type of birth control you wish to use. 3cervical cancer shots are a good idea. 4 chances are your cherry has already popped if you use tampons or you have put your fingers in your vagina. 5 Sex should not hurt provided you do it correctly. The main thing before you have sex is to be sure you are ready, both physically and mentally.
2007-10-06 14:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
1. The doctors won't have to know, unless you go to an OB-GYN to get a pap smear (when you are 18 years or older) or get examined down there. They may ask you; however, they won't tell your parents, if you are worried about that.
2. Even if you aren't on birth control, there are plenty of ways to prevent pregnancy. Buying condoms, and there are other things, but for your age, stick with condoms. Also, you can go to your local Health Department to get birth control, it's free, and your parents won't know. Be Safe though!!
3. I am not sure about the cancer cervical shots, you may have to talk to your mom about that, and research it and make sure what you're doing is going to be okay.
4. Your "cherry" will pop, but it could already be. It can through exercising, playing sports, or even masturbating.
5. It can, all women are different. It did for me, even for the first few times. It just depends on the person.
My best advice would be to wait. I wish I would have saved it for marriage. There are so many emotional aspects to sex as well. The right person, religious values, and other things. There are so many better things in life to look forward to, besides losing your virginity to your boyfriend you may not even be dating in a few months. But if you must, please be safe!!! Talk to your boyfriend and use a condom, always! Hope everything works out for you and I hope I helped!
2007-10-06 14:12:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The above have already answered your questions correctly. what i want to say is your boyfriend saying your both ready for sex is not right he may feel ready for sex but you can't talk for you only you can say if your ready or not. By reading this question i feel your not quite ready or feel comfortable about having sex. Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex if your not ready tell your boyfriend and he will wait if he truly cares.
Don't do anything that you might regret. If you are ready then make sure he wears a condom even if your on the pill as the pill sometimes isn't 100% protective and remember the pill only helps to protect against pregnancy not any sexual infection so better of wearing a condom. Keep as relaxed as you can as it will be easier and use lubricant if you need to.
2007-10-06 14:04:30 · answer #5 · answered by Crazy girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say dont do it until your ready to do it.. cause if its not something your ready for you may regret it.. its your choice but to answer your questions
1. some can but they dont always know its from sex
2. use condoms just get a good kind so they dont break
3. i have never heard of the shot that you can have sex on if you find out a name look it up and ask questions about it.
4. make sure this is the guy you want it to happen with.. but some bleed some dont some hurt some dont
5. it may your first time you can never tell by looking at someone
but please dont do it if your not ready cause i was not ready and i have some regrets and thats something you dont wanna have to live with
2007-10-06 14:14:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Not usually, no.
2. Birth Control is a must and the best advice I can give you is see a doctor and discuss it with her. Some people are allergic to latex condoms and they can split.
3. Have the shots - very important. I think your mother is misinformed, but your doctor will give you the correct advice.
4. No need to worry.
5. Not much, if at all, if you are relaxed, lubricated and happy!
Good luck!
2007-10-06 14:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by janniel 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. doctors cant tell unless youre gievn a gyna inspection, they might be able to tell due to the hymen being broken.
2. use condoms :) best to use condoms on the pill anyway incase of infections.
3. never heard of that one. think she might be trying to scare you
4. the cherry pop is the hymen which is the piece of skin. may hurt or may not, may bleed may not. everyone different
5. maybe hurt maybe not, make sure your relaxed, lubricant and happy :)
2007-10-06 13:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by Natasha G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't ready for sex, then that is up to you. Don't allow him or anyone to pressure you into something you don't want to do. Is this relationship one of LOVE or do you think this is LUST on his part. If it isn't love with long term plans for marrying and spending the rest of your lives together, it may be something you would regret.
2007-10-06 14:54:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't feel ready then tell him. Don't let him pressure you into it. You will regret it if you let him.
Doctors can tell if you have been sexually active (a GYN) and yes hymen breaking usually hurts but its not the worst pain ever.
Virginity is a wonderful thing and you should value it.
2007-10-06 13:58:26 · answer #10 · answered by Killy 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋