2007-10-06 06:03:48 · 9 answers · asked by I don't know 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sorry.
And sorry that every answer, except megalomaniac's, is suggesting to undo the heartbreak with the tricks of mind. But tell me, has the heart ever listened to the mind?
From my original experience(s), you cannot deal with the heartbreak! You can only save yourself from the unbearable pain it causes.
You let the time pass and be a witness to your own heart...broken, wounded, weeping...! Don't be a party to it. See yourself suffering the unspeakable agony from a distance. Don't share that. Don't try to trick or fool yourself into doing or believeing something which isn't. Don't run from the reality. Let it affect you fully, play fully on you. Don't try to resist it. Just see it calmly happening to you as a third person.
And you will be surprised that though it is all happening, the heartbreak is still there, but you are not affected by it! And with the passing time the whole process will vanish and the wound will disappear!!
2007-10-06 09:18:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kapil 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Distract yourself: go out with your friends, watch a movie, and just have fun! Eating lots of chocolate can also help you feel better! :) Since you don't have your ex pulling you down all the time, you might as well use that extra time you have to spoil yourself a bit! Try and enjoy the freedom of being single while it last.
2007-10-06 13:14:17 · answer #2 · answered by Vampiress 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just keep moving forward. I can't change the other person, I can't rescue the other person I can only help myself get through the feelings I am having. I write about it and keep doing the things i need to do to get through this struggle. Don't let the stresses in your life keep you from the goals in your life. Fix what you can, release what you need to and move on. Good Luck!
2007-10-06 13:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by Walking on Sunshine 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Boy I sure wish I knew how to deal with it better. I wish I could forget and as much as my brain is screaming for me to do so, my heart won't let me. Its been almost 5 years now and it still hurts and I've tried everything under the sun. (and a few things that aren't) Let me know when you know 'I don't know', but then again who really knows what I know? Yeah, I know...
2007-10-06 14:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Decide to be one of the people who doesn't care. Hanging on to relationships is a box. Dissolve the box.
Get new perspectives. here's a site that might give you perspective on perspectives, http://www.erhardsculpt.net
2007-10-06 15:02:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run in the opposite direction. I wish I was strong enough to handle it, but I'm not.
2007-10-06 15:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by Crazy and Lovin It 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay busy to keep my mind off it. Go out with other guys. There are billions of guys out there. There's bound to be another one that can make me fall head over heels again.
2007-10-06 13:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Rita 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
just deal...there is more fish in the sea...mr. or mrs. right is out there...my mr. Right was 4500 miles away in England...I wasin Philadelphia...met on-line...We are happily married for 21/2 yrs...
2007-10-06 13:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by michele h 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Quite frankly? "forget it" or the stress of it WILL KILL YOU.
2007-10-06 13:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by schmidt50401 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋