Should the wife contact all family members who gave gifts after a wedding?

Question

My husband and I went away to Hawaii, and we worked there for 3 months. Most family was aware of our stay in Hawaii during the wedding. We are now sending out the Thank You cards (even though it is late). My mother thinks this is cold hearted and that I should have contacted everyone personally to keep in touch with them.

Answer 1

A thank you card is all u need to send and u put a message in the card, I've never heard of calling them or seeing them personally and thanking them... U gotta figure u thanked them personally at the wedding, right?

Oh and the hubby should write out his side and u ur side, in my opinion

Answer 2

I think Mom's wrong. You should send an appropriate thank you note (personalized as much as possible). I would even give a brief description of why you were in Hawaii so long, and apologize for the delay in thanking them. Obviously, there will be some people that you will stay in contact with, either by phone, or email, or personal visits, but there should be a thank you note for everyone who gave a gift, regardless. Some brides go so far as thanking everyone who signed the guest registry, but I think that's over the top.

Answer 3

Better late than never. I don't think you have to contact them personally. It would be nice if maybe you did a letter along with the thank you cards. A letter telling them how your lives have been doing while in Hawaii, this would just make it personal in it's own way and I'm sure all would appreciate it. They probably wondered about the both of you.

Answer 4

Absolutely !!! Where's the warmth? Anyone who's decided to give you a gift for your wedding absolutely deserves a personal "thank you" from the bride and/or groom. It not only shows your appreciation, but lets' them know that they are a true friend or family member to you.
Yes, you may be a little late, but late is always better than never. And if you're a little shy about calling late, just tell them,
" Hey, I just used that fabulous toaster you sent me and it's works wonderfully!

Congrats!

Answer 5

yes, you should send a card or contact everyone. Especially sinc eyou were away for so long. You do need to make sure you keep in touch with everyone.. congrats on the marriage..

Answer 6

Yeah, you should contact everyone you got a gift from, a phone call is nice, and a simple thank you. Yes your mom is right on this one. Send the cards and a phone call.

Answer 7

Ok, it sounds to me like you are a little pissed. Your son is of age and if he wanted to elope, then fine. Maybe YOU wanted a family event, but he, obviously, did not. With that being said, she is being a bit tacky. A party or reception isnt out of line here, but her EXPECTING gifts and even telling people what they could get them is beyond tacky. Its up to you whether or not to gift. Just go to the party and have fun. Try not to think about the betrayal you feel you have endured and help your son celebrate his new life

Answer 8

I think you need to call everyone and thank them personally being that you have waited 3 months to get thank you cards....there is no excuse for not sending them out before now....

Answer 9

Dear,

Of course you and your wife to contact everybody that attended your wedding. A letter of thanks to be out immediately to each and everybody thanking them in attending your marriages. In the letter to be stated the giving of gifts and the attending of the marriage ceremony. These is call etiquette.

Answer 10

I think that's fine. Your still giving your appreciation. Just mention about the stay or something so they won't think you forgot about them. Maybe phone them to. Just to make sure they get the letter. (Just another suggestion)