What do/will you teach your daughter(s) about men?

Question

ΛתŧĩмĩŝãתŊřŷ: Your daughers sound too precious!

Re thumbs down: what does it have to do with feminism? If your response is "...." (blank) what do you want people to rate it as? lol

Answer 1

Great question. First I believe my daughter will learn a lot and form opinions about men just by having her Dad in her life. He is a very involved and hands on Dad, who thrills in her creativity and intelligence, and promotes these things while also taking a lot of time to snuggle and cuddle. She's the youngest of 4 for him, and he's trying to squeeze every last drop of childhood out of her!

Anyway, I digress. She will also learn by watching how I treat her father and her brothers and other men in our lives. My attitude towards men in general is a positive one, and I take great pride in taking care of them, but I also balance that out with other things, so I hope she learns a balanced attitude as well. She already shows signs of being a care taker and being a bit bossy, so running a family and home of her own will probably be very natural for her. OR she could take those tendencies and do very well in a career, or perhaps both.

I will teach my daughter that BOYS (not men) for the most part are only thinking with their hormones, and that LOVE is an adult feeling. The desire to have a boyfriend and relationships while still a teenager are normal and fun and exciting, but should not be a priority in her life until she is older and can handle the consequences of such relationships. I will teach her that even GOOD BOYS will do bad things and make poor decisions in an effort to get intimate with a girl, as they are dealing with many hormone changes. The character of the boy will determine just how far he will go or how low he will stoop.

(mind you, in all of this I have a son who's only two years older who I have to teach as well, so I walk a fine line here!)

I will encourage her to not have sex and intimacy at a young age, hopefully to wait till she's married, but if not, then to at least pick and chose carefully, and to ALWAYS USE PROTECTION.

I want to be the practical and rational type of Mom who can help my daughter see men on an individual basis and not just as a group. Most of the men in my daughter's life are very good men, and I am very thankful for that.

I want my daughter to realize that men have feelings too, and the key to a happy relationship is to never underestimate them, and to take what they say at face value. They usually mean what they say, it's the women who dismiss it and later pay the price.

In a nutshell, if I teach my daughter to determine a person's character, male or female, and to be responsible for her own decisions and actions, then I believe that will serve her well.

Answer 2

it is not so straightforward as coaching a toddler karate will remedy all his bullying issues. What if the youngster is two times his length? What if the different guy or woman has a gun? What if this is in school and he faces automatic suspension if he hits yet another pupil for any reason? Violence isn't the respond. people are not animals. Bullying is so risky using emotional harm it does to little ones. Depo is likewise not the answer to the hassle of young people and sexuality. one million/2 the hassle isn't in basic terms the undesirable being pregnant however the AIDS, hepatitis, etc. Plus you do not want a 15 365 days previous female discovering that casual intercourse is a huge relaxing interest to do with strangers... it incredibly is like condoning her to grow to be a prostitute or a **** who does it for interest. the wear it does to a youthful female emotionally & bodily would desire to be monstrous. intercourse isn't a interest or a toy. Depo is likewise not for each guy or woman and not without area consequences. it could consequence is considerable melancholy and/or weight benefit for some people. i attempted it and it made me VERY ill for months. It took probable 6 months for the experts to be certain why i grew to become into so ill. and because depo photos take 3+ months to positioned on off, I had to go through by way of greater months of it with not something i'd desire to do. i'd in no way stress a youngster to take it! Why not prepare them self esteem, people skills, duty, long-term making plans, values/morals, and in basic terms commonly being a solid guy or woman? it incredibly is nicely worth lots greater desirable than a karate type and a condom.

Answer 3

I will mostly teach my daughter(s) about People.

I of course will teach her about obvious differences between men and woman and try to explain some relationship stuff but I really will want her to think of men as people and to deal with them that way.

She will see that some of my friends are men and some of my friends are women and that some people I don't like or don't trust are men and some are women. And she will know that good men don't think she is less human because she is a woman. And she will know that the same is true for good women.

Answer 4

Provided I have children (no wife, as of yet, so babies will hafta wait) and at least one is a daughter, I will teach them to be independent, and earn things for themselves. Specifically in reference to men, that means that they must earn their own position in life, not waiting for the 'right person' to 'complete them.'

She will be taught that she is complete, in herself, and capable of achieving things for herself (as opposed to, 'you can have anything if you want, as long as you try hard, since that is just fluffy foolishness.) What I mean by that is, there is a big difference between goals and fantasies, and she should learn that difference early. Even among boys... sure, he might play for the Yankees, but, chances are, he'll never be a pro athlete.

I will also try to teach her responsibility for herself as it applies to her actions, consequences, the effects of/on those around her, and the difference between politeness and permissiveness.

However, I would like to say that I will teach her about people, not one gender or another, and by doing so without the difference, impress the idea that all people should be looked at the same: given the benefit of the doubt, while establishing boundaries to protect her from people who would try to take advantage of her, in whatever way might apply.

I don't think creating a separation there backs the idea of gender equality. She needs to learn that people, all people, are potential liars, cheats, and no-goods, but deserve a little room to prove themselves, as most people really are basically good. The problems begin when we assume that one person's goodness equals benefit to ourselves.

The idea of 'men do this, women do that,' is largely defunct. Aren't the gender things we gripe about really just the masculine to feminine versions of the same things? No no, better to teach her about people. When you learn how to successfully interact with people as a whole, then romantic interaction becomes much clearer, as you have established the groundwork for respect and admiration, and also how to recognize people who's interaction with you will be truly good for both of you.

Now, as has happened to many other fathers, that could all go out the window the first time a boy mounts my porch, but that's my story, for now!

Answer 5

To always give respect and always demand respect.

Edit: LOL -How is it that I said exactly the same thing as celtish and I got a thumbs down and celtish didn't? I guess I've pizzed someone off along the way :)

Edit2: Actually, I didn't suspect you celtish -I was thinking along the same lines as Mattewssh (sp?), but you are probably right about the demand. Oh well.

Lioness -you should give Matthewssh the best answer.

Answer 6

Every thing they need to know. The very important things, why they should never go without sex, to always be kind and gracious, explain that when they go to their caves they still love them; just need time to think, etc. You know like this:
I have a son who takes this certain medication that requires milk; we have no milk, no money hubby works out-of-town; called him on the phone said I am going to sound like a nag, yet I am worried about our son he needs milk for his medication and we have none. I have no idea how I am going to solve this problem do you have any ideas? So hubby he says to me I'll drive into town and I said thank you that is greatly appreciated.
Providing he's not too tired I'll do a "favor" for him.

Answer 7

If I had a daughter, I would teach her not to treat all men the same way, for they're all different. I would teach her that she should never feel like she needs a man in her life to be happy. I would teach her that a man who makes her act in a way that she doesn't want to act is the wrong man for her.

Answer 8

A father teaching his daughter by how he lives is the most effective. So, set the best possible example and they will know what they should expect and deserve.

Answer 9

The basics of a relationship when they are old enough. Trust, honesty, respect and love. Also some tolerance and patience of others.

To be careful before placing full trust in another before they earn it, and after it has been abused. What abuse is, and what sort of manipulation men may use to fulfill lust and not love.

Lastly, when old enough what sex is and safe sex.

Answer 10

I'll tell anything she'll asks about ;) of course depending on her age. I won't tell a 4 year old about sex, but a 10 year old, why not. It'd be better for her to get to know about all this from her mother than from friends or stupid magazines, wouldn't it?