Ok I was with this man for 7 long years, we have 3 children. Our relationship has been over emotionaly for a while he was a abuser and a drug user.We moved out of state in March My children & I were there 6 weeks he made no atempt to get us a house or find a job, this was the last straw for him to get his act together.Well when I came home I was 5 months pregnant.Two and half weeks after I was home he called and said he was a man and he had needs and need to have sex so he didn't want to be together.Well any way a month or so went by and his brother and I started getting close he was helping me wtih my kids and just being there for me.(I have known his brother longer than I have known him)!Well now we are seeing each other about 5 months.I am getting close to him and same with him we just don't know what to do about my ex.He dosn't even live in the same town as us.Any insite?He gave me up and still wants to run my life.I have never been in a situation like this with brothers.
2007-10-06 04:47:22 · 7 answers · asked by DUTCH 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel like you have every right to have someone who will support you emotionally right now. You and children deserve better and obviously although it may be unfortunate, it's his brother. So what, tell the ex who didn't need you when he was a "man" and needed "sex" from a random that he can get over it. A real man stays at home when he's needed and never needs a random when he has children and a wife/girlfriend. If his brother has known you for some time and is taken over the "man" job your ex(his bro) should've done, then let him and stop letting him run your life. The only reason he has now to be around is for the kids, not you. I say go for it and if it causes issues which I'm sure it will, then just take it one day at a time, but just follow your heart and do what YOU feel is best for you and your children.
2007-10-06 04:58:01 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not going to touch this one
as i am afraid of what i am going to say
an none of it will be favorable advice to you
but of all if critical about you and your life choices
what are you some drama queen?
you must be to have 3 kids
with a bad guy
and YES it's your fault
own up to at least that much
as early one you KNEW your ex was a bad guy
and you liked it that way
and now that he is spun out of control
you cry sour grapes
and now seek relief in his brother
you are taylor made for the Jerry Springer show
the other girl was right
you obviously lack self respect
and low self esteem
last straw...?
that's indicative of how low you went before you bailed on your ex
it never should have went that far
there should have never been 3 kids
and then to get pregnant once last time
what is wrong with you?
as not much is right with you
leave his poor ( and probably a good guy ) out of it and him alone
2007-10-06 12:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just take it easy for a while after your separation. Jumping into another relationship just isn't wise right now. I have no problem with it being the brother as he is probably the better man. Keep him as a friend for now - as I've said it is too early to be getting committed to someone again.
2007-10-06 11:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in your situation, but if the brother treats you the way you deserve to be treated.. I say who cares what the ex says. He should have treated you better, tried to get a job and support you and the kids. Sometimes life can really throw us some big ol messes.. hang in there, you will be fine. Oh yeah, and dont listen to anything the ex has to say.. e had his chance and blew it!
2007-10-06 11:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by jeffsgal69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brother, cousins or friends. Just make sure it is over with one and start with the other. Just because you cannot live with the one does not mean the other will not be good and work out.
2007-10-06 11:53:04 · answer #5 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Springer.
2007-10-06 11:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by belle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for which ever one makes you happy don't worry about your ex and him being brothers
2007-10-06 11:58:21 · answer #7 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋