I recently found out that my best friend (and her b/f) are jealous of me b/c I want to pursue grad. school... I've written a letter in hopes of calming down and asking for their support but haven't received a reply.
But I don't get it.. I've gone through this more than enough times in my life.. every time I try to move "up" or do something progressive, like others have shot me down or call me names, try to brag in front of me, make phony accusations about my life, etc. I've been active in a disability organization and actually have been sent hate letters for being "opinionated," "different" and such when I try to speak out.
Do other people get this? I try to live humbly, I'm nice to everyone (and I'm shy a lot too!), I sometimes think I'm even a dork or a geek. I'm a tiny 4' little person, so I don't think I'm a threat to anyone. My parents tell me it's b/c others are jealous of my accomplishments or whatnot, but I don't know how to deal with this anymore.
2007-10-06 04:45:05 · 3 answers · asked by two_design_kitties 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Oh, boy, is this familiar! Unfortunately, when people achieve, some people do not react well to it. You can call it what you like, but they don't handle it well. Unless you want to sink into mediocrity in order to keep certain friends (I sure hope you don't!) you'll just have to accept this and move on. I once asked a woman what she did and had to literally drag it out of her. Turns out she has a very good job; and she finds that she often gets a bad reaction when she talks about it. Isn't that sad??
Of course, you don't want to be a braggart, but you've worked hard, and you have a right to enjoy it! If your friends can't deal with it, get new friends. I'm sure there are a lot of people out there who would love your company.
2007-10-06 04:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Terri J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a test for you. Burn the hate letters, get rid of any of the so called "friends" who are causing negativity in your life (because a real friend will push and encourage you do your best), keep doing your thing. They see you as a threat because of your intelligence. Perhaps they are afraid you will become famous for something and forget about them. So if you do don't forget about them.
2007-10-06 04:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by meow? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-06 04:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by MAN OF STEEL, 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋