I have tons of friends and family, but no one has mentioned a baby shower. Everyone keeps asking me when its going to be and I just politely say, "I'm not sure anyone is planning one, so I guess I'll be throwing it myself.", and everyone is like "Okay!". Every baby shower that I've been to has been thrown by a friend or family member of the mom-to-be. I don't mind planning my own...just wondering if that was waaaaay out of the norm.
2007-10-06 03:43:01 · 20 answers · asked by Fire Side Water Side 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Everyone wants to go to a baby shower but no one wants to be responsible for it. It sucks but it's true. I threw my own for my daughter. I invited like 50 people and 30 showed up. I got everything I needed and more! It was a great time with wonderful memories I will never forget. You can make your baby shower what you want it to be. I made people pick up things for me since I was busy with work and getting ready myself. They had no problems with picking up the cake and helping me decorate. They just didn't want to pony up the dough to do it themselves but loved being involved. I didn't care. I wanted that memory and was determined to get it no matter how "tacky" it might be! Throw one! You won't regret it!
2007-10-06 03:53:17 · answer #1 · answered by April K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how the others will respond. But remember, this is JMO.
I see it as if someone is hosting their own shower (whether baby or bridal) it may be viewed as 'fishing for gifts'. Now I am sure that is NOT how you feel at all! Of course it is nice to receive gifts for the new baby. Maybe no one stepped up to the plate due to lack of finances, or lack of space to throw a party (small apartment). Maybe your friends are simply waiting for the baby to be born to give you a baby gift. You never said how far along you are. Typically, a shower is thrown 6-8 weeks before the estimated due date. This is in the event the baby arrives early (like in my situation).
Even though this is my opinion, I certainly would attend a shower hosted by the expectant mom. I do believe every baby deserves to be showered.
I have personally never been to a shower hosted by the expectent mom or future bride. But I guess these days anything goes! I also believe an older generation sees this situation as tacky, while a younger generation sees it as normal.
All the very best to you :-)
2007-10-06 04:03:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon F 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think it's tacky. I just had my second son and he's 20 months younger than my first. We are reusing whatever we can from my first, and buying anything else we need. We've received gifts, mainly clothing and diapers, and have been asked if we'll be having a shower. I wasn't comfortable with the idea of having another shower for a second baby of the same gender so close together. I think it just looks like you're being greedy or gift grabbing, even if you actually need the stuff. Even further, I think it looks really bad to throw a shower for yourself. If someone offers to throw one or throws one as a surprise, that's a bit different because they're choosing to do it for you rather than being pressured into it. I do think all babies should be celebrated, but I don't think gifts should be a requirement for attendance at that celebration. I would probably still attend a shower for someone who is throwing it for herself but I still don't like the idea.
2016-05-17 08:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not tacky, I planned my own. And never expected anyone to "throw" me one. Mine was more of a family occasion because they all live far away. So I got the benefits of a family gathering plus the baby shower! I don't care what anyone says, it wouldn't be considered out of the norm in my book because why would it matter so much?
Edit: If you have true friends I think they would know that you wouldn't by all means be saying come everyone and bring my gifts. I mean isn't it all about sharing, having fun and support? If your family and friends know who you truly are they wouldn't even consider that your just asking for hand outs. It's a time of love, laughter and togetherness. Where's everyone's logic?
2007-10-06 04:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by hopewishdream 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope its not.
i threw my own
i had help from my mom and sister
but i pretty much planned
and did it myself, i dont see why it would be tacky, i guess because it sounds like your askin for gifts, but you shouldnt have to miss out on the celebration and yes get the oppurtunity to get gifts, like everyone else, maybe your friends or family do not have the money or think they are up to it, so if you are i dont think there is anything wrong with it. I actually liked it because everything was done my way, and everything was the way i wanted so it turned out perfect! I know some of these answers are asking you to have someone throw it for you,well whats the difference between asking for a party or a gift? Dont listen to them, throw a shower if you want, its your life and your new baby congrats! ♥
2007-10-06 10:58:49 · answer #5 · answered by ♥ Stephanie Louise♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I do think it's tacky. If no one gives you a shower, you just won't have a shower. Chances are people will give you gifts anyway when the baby is born. I wouldn't particularly want to go to a shower that is thrown by the person herself, and I am not a stickler for that kind of thing. I just think it's a little too close to saying, "Come on everyone, bring me your presents!" I taught my children not to do that at their 3rd birthday.
2007-10-06 05:38:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it isn't. No matter what people say or do those baby showers help mommies- to-be out alot. All of the stuff they get really makes a difference. So if that what it leads up to, throw your own baby shower.
2007-10-06 04:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by ~Love...Peace...Happiness~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times baby showers are a surprise, that may be why no one has mentioned anything to you. I'm sure one of your friends or family members will give you one.
2007-10-06 03:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by sanibrasil0428 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife has never had a baby shower but I would say that if she did want one she would like for it to be organised by family etc. Sometimes you need to drop hints so I suggest that you do just that. Or tell your friends and family when they next ask that you would really have liked for someone to organise it for you and your new baby...there is nothing wrong with pushing people in the right direction...
2007-10-06 04:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by thedaddy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really dont think it matters who throws the shower i dont know if im even gonna have one i dont think its "tacky" go for it and make it one to remember at least u can take the credit for an awesome baby shower and everyone that attends will prolly feel rather stupid bask in your glory!!
2007-10-06 03:54:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋