I will just go ahead and say, i know to take a test. I am waiting another 3 days before doing so. I also understand I should be on birth control, so please don't think I don't understand that. Here is the question:
I am now 4 days late. I am starting to freak out. here is why:
I found out a few months ago my husband of 2 years had been cheating for a few months, so i moved out. The relationship had been going downhill for over a year, it was more like an extra push on out the door for me. Well since then I have found a wonderful man. The relationship is going wonderfully.
I know at this point a baby isn't a great thing for the relationship. We had every intention of taking it slow (expecially due to the fact I am waiting on seperation papers). I really have no clue how he will take it if i am pregnant. He doesn't seem like the type guy whom would just take off and not have anything to do with me or the baby. If I am how do I tell him?????
2007-10-06 03:19:10 · 17 answers · asked by BP 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
4 days late is not a big deal. People can be weeks late... and the more you stress about it the later you will be. Some pregnancy tests cant even detect it that early. I would wait two weeks... and if it still hasnt shown up, then you can start to be concerned.
Otherwise, you are not the only person who has gone through something like this... It will work out just fine! Dont worry too much if you are pregnant it will also stress out your baby. If your new man takes off, then you dont need him anyway.
Keep your chin up and try to be a little more careful in the future.
And know that God makes babies for a very good reason and has everything under control. OR if you dont believe in God... well, everything still happens for a reason.
2007-10-06 03:33:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i would tell him before u take the test let him know there might be a possibility u never know how he will react sounds like he would prolly be supportive. He is as much as a part of it as you are right now it is just a scare until u do take the test and honestly i would rather find out his reaction to a scare than to umm hunny im pregnant at least this way here i know what im in for i think u should tell him that you are late and you are going to take a test but you want to talk to him about it before you take it so you guys can figure out what you are going to do depending on the result if it be preparing for baby or taking extra precautions when being intimate
2007-10-06 10:36:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's truly as wonderful as you say he is then he will take this well and if he doesn't and you come to realize that he isn't so wonderful...wouldn't you rather find out now instead of awhile down the road when he's gone and you have to regret having an abortion or something to hold onto him as well? He's not more important than you're child...you're a mother now and this child will give you more joy and fulfillment than any relationship that may not stand the test of time. Good luck and it will all work out...God has a plan. This is meant to be.
2007-10-06 10:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First calm down, the test may be negative. You seem old enough to know that it takes two. He knew what he did and he doesn't seem like you describe him to be a man that would just leave. The best thing to do is take that test first. If it is positive sit him down at the right time and tell him. But don't wait too long. The sooner the better. Good luck!
2007-10-06 10:43:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait until after the test and if you are pregnant you will have to be honest with him. You might be surprised at how supportive he is but dont count on it. I'm sure it will be a shocker so dont let his first reaction put you off. It may take a little while for him to get over the initial surprise and then make a rational decision of how to go from there.
2007-10-06 10:28:34 · answer #5 · answered by Diane M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you would be take the test and wait a while to see how YOU feel about it. You may not be ready to bring a child into your uncertain world at the moment. Although many people disagree with terminations sometimes it can be the for the best as far as all (including baby) are concerned.
When you know how you feel about the situation go to your new partner and be honest and open. If you relationship is meant to be - it will be!
My thoughts and prayers are with you xXx
2007-10-06 10:33:54 · answer #6 · answered by ♥*´M`*♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough question. I would take the test though because it might not be that you are even pregnant. You could just be stressed from everything that is going on with the ex. If you are indeed pregnant, the only option you really have is to tell him. You have to just deal with what happens and hopefully he is a standup guy.
2007-10-06 10:24:44 · answer #7 · answered by janeannpat 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try not to stress out about it. Take a test and cross that bridge when you come to it. If you are pregnant, say a prayer for all the women out there who are married to sterile men and have been denied motherhood and will NEVER be in your enviable position.
2007-10-10 08:25:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be honest with him.
I don't blame your for separating, but you should be on BC, as you know.
But, no more preaches. Just tell him that you are pregnant, that it definitely is his child, and that you are committed to him and the child. If he is not prepared to take responsibility, at least you know where you stand right from the get-go. Otherwise if he is, you know you've got a gem and hold on to him!!
Good luck!
2007-10-06 10:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by Ethan-Mikyle's Mommy! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the thing is your dont need to worry until you take the test, because its just silly to do that before your need to. why worry twice when you only need to worry once, if at all!! If you are then just tell him, thats all i can say, if you both are aware of the fact you have had unprotected sex he will understand. good luck
2007-10-06 10:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋