i dont understand whats wrong with her. she thinks because i dont believe in catholicism that im pessimistic about everything. its true that im depressed. i have social anxiety she knows that, but she always acts as though i have no heart. its not helping. she does cre about me, but i cant take it anymore. im 18 and in college, the dorming is limited, but i dont know what to do. i HAVE to get away from her. shes making me more depressed. ughhhh!!! we watched the movie love story last night ( i was actually one of the people who WANTED to see it) and i didnt like it because i thought it was done poorly. it sucked. anyway, my mom said this morning, "well. what did you want to see bombs... " i mean really. just because i dont believe in the fairy tales that help her sleep better at night, im now some monster who likes movies about bombs. is she ******* stupid or what? anyway, my real question is did your mother treat you like this when you said you didnt believe in your religion anymore?
2007-10-06 02:48:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
my dad is similar, except not so extreme. anyway, thanks for reading.
2007-10-06 02:49:16 · update #1
when i say dorming is limited i mean i am not away at college because the dorms are for those on the dean list i just started my college career. and i am in therapy for s.a. and depression. i actually have an appointment today.
2007-10-06 03:05:45 · update #2
Honestly, you will not be happy until you move out. I had simular problems with my parents. I was goth in hs and always dressed in black, black make up, shopped at hottopic, ect. I never really 'lost my faith' as you describe, but i had my issues. I was accused of being a satanist and all sorts of other stuff. The issue here is you are an adult in college and you need to act and to be treated as such.
My advice is to get a job and move out. There will be problems with your family but eventually you will have a good realtionship with them. I think everyone goes through this stuff at this age.
2007-10-06 06:07:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No this is not good it if u dont have any relegion what is the cause of your life . Islam says that Allah (God) have created everything 2 worship him. If u have no relegion onb which base u r living u just dont beleive God . Then i ask u how have u been created ? I am a boys of 16 i advise u 2 accept Islam cause there is no way 4 man kind to save them on the doonsday other than Islam if u want 2 know other thyings about Islam Plz contact me & just a simple thing that people say Islam Is a bad relegion if it is it so why r more than 1000 people specialy women are accepting Islam in a single day.
Umair Aftab
Pakistan
2007-10-06 03:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by UMAIR AFTAB 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-02-10 18:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you're right and they are wrong. You only have to listen to the World News to ascertain that virtually all evil and unhappiness in the world is caused by religious people, whether its Islamic fanatics killing and maiming decent hard working men, women and children in London or New York or Russia, or the Catholics V Protestants murdering one another in Ireland solely because they are of different Faiths or what is currently happening due to Buddhism in Burma or. the miseries caused by the Hindu Caste system in India or......?
2007-10-06 02:57:36 · answer #4 · answered by cimex 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you. Religion is nothing more than a clever way to make money. It has gotten to be a really big time business in this country. If you doubt me turn on the TV come Sunday morning and see how many are delivering the word to you, for a price of course. Isn't it amazing how many people are duped?
2007-10-06 02:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. G. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read Bertrand Russell, " Why I Åm Not A Christian "
Eric Hoffer: The Temper of Our Times.
Also Aldous Huxley. There is nothing wrong in not being religious.
2007-10-06 02:57:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i honestly believe that now that you have grown up and left home for the first time (poss) your mother realises her little baby is no longer a little baby. regarding your religous beliefs thats totally at your discretion and no one elses and your mam will eventually grow and accept this. regarding your depression seek professional advice. maybe the way you are situated in the dorm with the lack of space and poss privacy is adding to your depression?.believe it or not all parents when their children are away from them poss the 1st time act in a very similair fashion believe it or not they really care about you
2007-10-06 02:59:02 · answer #7 · answered by carl j 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, I've had some rather bad reactions too. One called me "bitter" my mother laughed at me. I reminded her that I don't laugh at her ideas. Anyway, we don't talk about it anymore, but I'm on my own and not an easy target.
Your going to have to endure but only for a short time in your life. Find a way to brush her worse comments off as funny. Stick to who you are.
2007-10-06 03:11:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't subscribe to religion anymore either. suggest best way for your problem is to shut up. discussions or answering back wouldn't do any good, it will only prolong your agony. let verbal cues in one ear and out the other. that goes for what you think of her, too.
as to your needing space, you're 18 and its normal. you're not a kid anymore and they have to be made aware of that. there's lots of ways to go about this. choose a path that's within your moral and conscious limitations. don't try for something that's beyond you or put you in a situation that would only make a mess of things. i joined the workforce early in life and i got my space.
take care, and don;t overdo things.
2007-10-06 02:58:07 · answer #9 · answered by sheikhlaodum 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was always raised that faith is a personal thing. my father is catholic and my mother is wiccan and neither trys to sway me toward either faith. you are NOT a bad person in anyway if you dont believe as your parents do. the only reason that they feel the way that they do is because their faith stresses that you are going to hell if you believe otherwise. and just because you are depressed it doesnt mean that it is all because you are not catholic. tell her you are depressed because they wont accept your decision and treat you differently because of it.
2007-10-06 02:56:51 · answer #10 · answered by xxx_kakia_xxx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋