what is love to you?

Question

do you know how to love and how to keep it from dying?

Answer 1

Honesty committed to another,communication.
Respect and truth always.

Answer 2

Love... millions of people have loved, but when the question arises, what is love? they start looking here and there -- perhaps somebody knows. You can love, you can experience, but you cannot say a single word which will be a definition of your experience.

If you say, "I have fallen in love," somebody can ask you, "Where is love? What IS love? Is there any scientific proof for it? Can you logically explain it?" You will have to shrug your shoulders. And the person can say, "If it cannot be proved logically, scientifically, then it is not. You are living in an illusion; it is all dream stuff."

But if you go on this way, what will be left finally? Just a materialist chaos -- matter with no meaning, matter with no destiny, great speed but no destination. Then life will be just an accident, a chance phenomenon. There will be no dignity in life. The dignity comes from those mysterious realms which you are calling unreal.

You will have to change your definition of reality. They are far more real. The higher is far more real than the lower -- although the higher becomes more and more invisible than the lower. The mud is more explainable than the lotus; the lotus has something of the quality of a dream. The mud is mud; there is no question of beauty and there is no question of poetry, any love affair with it. There is no question which cannot be answered about the mud; the mud is utterly real. That's what you call reality -- the lowest.
But hidden in the mud is a lotus, and one day that lotus arises. Now, the lotus has something which is dream stuff poetry, music, beauty. Now you are moving higher; now something will start looking unreal. Unless you are ready to allow this mysterious to penetrate your being and to permeate you, you will deny it. Then you are trying to reduce the lotus to the mud again. Then you are saying the lotus is nothing but mud.

That's how scientists go on answering. If you ask, "What is man?" they say, "Man is matter and nothing else -- nothing but matter." If you ask, "What is this world?' "Nothing but matter." If you say, "What is love?" "Nothing but biology. nothing but the chemistry of the hormones." If you ask ANYTHING, it is reduced immediately to the lowest denominator -- because only the lowest is graspable.

The lotus has moved into a dimension which is not available to science but is available only to poetry, is not available to the scientific mind and the scientific approach and the scientific methodology, but is available, immensely available, tremendously available to the poetic vision.

Now the poetic vision is thought to be nothing but a dream. The poet is a dreamer; poets are called 'lotus eaters'. But the poet has moved a little higher. The scientist lives in the mud. The poet IS a lotus eater, he has become a lotus.

Answer 3

Love is absolute, unconditional trust, absolute belief in, and absolute dedication to, another individual,-- usually of the opposite sex, and to keep love from dying you have to maintain unconditional trust, believe in, and remain dedicated and faithful to that person. "Unconditional" is the key word.
That means to keep it from dying you always give more than 100%, accept quirks, mistakes, imperfections that the other person might have, or make, and you MUST also allow them to GROW in your relationship. Nothing in life remains static. Change must be allowed for.
Relationships that are based on these principles grow stronger in the face of adversity and hard times.

Answer 4

For me, Love is blind, and yet it watches us silently, without us knowing that it can see us, in a sort of surreal way, and then it attaches itself to us, sometimes making the greatest speakers stammering buffoons, and the greatest minds brainless vegetables with it on their backs.

It's weird, and I'm a 14 year old girl experiencing infatuation, which is an imitation of Love.

Answer 5

love for me is Finlay being able to lay my head on his ch east at the end of the day and knowing no matter what El's happens in my life ill have someone to stand beside me its like someone taking half of all the crap that life can throw my way, i dont have to carry everything on just my shoulders anymore iv got some help he helped en power me ,he helped me find my strengths and loose those fears, He gave me back what someone El's stole for so Meany years, and it all came so natural i know its love more than love its friendship trust kindness this kind of being never dies.

Answer 6

Love is an allergic reaction to the proper lighting

Answer 7

For me every time I found love money parted it. Like my ex leaving me for another guy for security, he could help her financially and take care of her all I could do was love her which isn't enough.

Answer 8

first you must learn how to LOVE your-self so you can value your own life then loving and value others will follow that will continue the flow of LOVE

Answer 9

wow, that is a tough question, love is abstract so it has many differnent meaning is that the true unconditional care for a person.

Answer 10

being there for someone no matter how much they mess up,but not putting up with them running over you.the best love that you can get is God's love,because it never dies!