I met a neighbour last year and her son hung around with my son, me and her son were talking and he said that his mum needed a good friend, so the next time i seen her i asked her in for a cuppa, she agreed, we got on like a house on fire, and everything was rosy, she was coming over everyday, eating here, her and her son, (im disabled) and she said that she wouldnt helping me, by doing housework because my daughter was at college all day, i offered to pay her and she refused, so i said that i would feed her everyday and that is how i would pay her for the work that she was doing.
We had a birthday party for my other son, and I seen another side of her, she had a few drinks and the I heard her life story, after that every time she had a drink thats the only thing that would be talked about, she went very possesive, telling me when i could go out and when i couldnt, also she went very weird with my daughter evrytime we talked she would butt in, if we had a disagreement she would butt
2007-10-04 23:48:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
in and my daughter was getting really annoyed with her, and she told me, but i hadnt realised until she said it, by this time she was in our house from 9 in the morning til 10 or 11 at night falling asleep on the sette and other annoying things.
Then me and my daughter went out, without her and she went really funny wouldnt speak to us, and said that she felt offended because she weren't included when all me and my daughter was doing was spending time together, she hasnt spoke to us since and ignores us in the street, her choice, like we're bothered, what we found out was she treated everyone like that, a few other neighbours said the same, now she stays everywhere apart from home because nobody wants to talk to her.
What would you do?
2007-10-04 23:54:34 · update #1
She,s got a drink problem it seems,maybe because she,s lonely or some other reason.
Treating you like she did was wrong in everyway.
But she needs help from a doctor or someone else.
Ask internet doctor what should be done.
You treated her fair-but you can,t win them all.
2007-10-05 02:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your new found friend has some very serious issues. It is apparent that she likes taking control of other people lives and it's not healthy to be in a relationship like that. I would be very cautious as to how I would handle this situation. Obviously, she is unstable and not mentally all there.. You should gently explain to her that her services are no longer needed and that you have a relative or some other person who will be there with you to do the chores. This will lead her to believe that you will not be alone in case she get in crazy ideas.
After that, don't let her back in your home. She doesn't sound like the type of person who can reason with.
2007-10-05 01:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by thekingschild2 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you've become her life, try and break the routine gently at first but put a bit of distance between you you don't need to blow her out just let her know your her friend but you also have a life outside hers, many people act weird with drink, if shes there every day you obviously get on well or you wouldn't have encouraged it so i would suggest maybe once or twice a week you do something without her you said you were disabled, so i don't know how mobile you are, if you can't get about get in touch with enable or similar group and see if there is a coffee morning or something in your area
hope all goes well, remember familiarity breeds contempt
2007-10-04 23:57:44 · answer #3 · answered by suzy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is time to get her out of your house. Tell her point blank,with someone else there, that you don't want her cleaning house anymore, and that she needs to stop trying to control your life. If need be get a restraining order against her so she cannot come to your house. She sounds like she might be a little unstable, and jealous of your family. Make sure you tell your daughter what is going on and ask for help.
2007-10-04 23:55:54 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just leave thing's how they are she stopped talking to you. She is in the wrong and your neighbours agree. If she speaks to you just say hello and leave it at that you don't need friends like that.
2007-10-05 00:01:32 · answer #5 · answered by prettymadonna 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be honest with her, and no wonder she doesnt have friends, she acts like a loon.
if she continues get a restraining order!
2007-10-04 23:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by legally blonde 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ooo.what a gr8 story!!tell me more!!!!!!!
2007-10-05 01:18:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋