HI, tonight is been a horrible night! I know my husband for 1 year and 9 months we had a daughter 8 months ago everything was perfect before we had our baby we used to have sex almost every night, I mean wild sex! and it seem to e that he loved it, well After I had my baby we had sex maybe 3 times a week, but is been like 4 months that we only have it three times a month!
He comes from work watches TV for like 30 to 45 minutes then he eats then play the play station, spends a little bitof time with our baby! then do homework for like 2 hours then gets in the shower, he goes to bed sometimes and doesnt say good night! and today we had and argument because he doesnt want to do anything with me, and he says that he's very tired and needs to get some sleep for next day to work! I told him that sex is very important in a marriage and he said that it is not important to him, and I say that he was very wrong and imature for saying that, because sex is one the the things that keeps marriage!
2007-10-04 21:32:00 · 8 answers · asked by Ursula M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sex is one the the things that keeps a marriage alive! anf he said that I was the childish one cause I dont understand that he's tired and we should have sex early, but we live with my parents, so we cant have sex early! and the baby doesnt sleeps until 12:00 pm, so we cant do it anyway, I dont know whats wrong with him, I feel like he doesnt love me or see me atractive! I know hes not cheatig on me but a man cant live without sex either! Help me please!
2007-10-04 21:37:05 · update #1
I dont like to be the one who always starts the sex! when we have sex he goes straight to you know where, Im sick of it, I wish he was the one who kisses me all over, but no Im the one who does all that, I have talk to him about it many times, all he did tonight was left the room and sleep in the couch didnt say good night to our baby either like everyother night! is wierd cause Im his 3 girls that he has sex with,
I am a very sexy woman Im not fat, I dont know what Im doind wrong!
2007-10-04 21:47:14 · update #2
There could be other things disturbing him. Maybe by asking for sex turns him off. Why not try to lure him for a relaxation date. Like to the movies, dinner then see how from there. Its quite tough for a guy who comes home from work and then shagged and still think of sex. Men's sex drive are abit strange at times. They just lose interest after a while. But you could try turning him on in other ways like taking a shower together. Just snuggling and being close. Men do like that. Hug him. Dont need to initiate sex. It will come automatically after a while.
2007-10-04 21:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by NG W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right as to the importance of sex in a marriage, but it is difficult for an outsider to determine why your husband is not interested in having sex with you. There are the obvious possibilities (him having someone lese, him being too tired from work, etc.). But from my own experience I know that for a man the fact that his wife & lover is now a mother changes the perspective. He sees you (andpossibly himself) in a new role, you are now a family rather than a couple, and that may for him sever the association between you and sex. Just an idea... Perhaps you could try to talk with him about this. It's definitely worth every effort to bring sex back into your marriage!
2007-10-05 00:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by cyranonew 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about taking the xbox away and getting a friend to watch the baby while you both go out for a nice evening? he's probably missing the quality time you used to spend together that may move thngs along or atleast for a night. um go to a hotel for the night something different.
2016-05-21 06:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend going to see a marriage counselor or ask your husband to see a doctor to see why his sex drive is suddenly so low.
2007-10-04 21:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kleineganz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I wish I had a wife like you. I married a woman who has your husbands sex drive.
why do we always seem to marry a sexually incompatable partner?
2007-10-05 07:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are yes the honeymoon is over. Now its into reality.
Perhaps he's getting his fill elsewhere?
Perhaps he was really Gay!
Perhaps he wasn't ready to get married and can't handle the commitment.
2007-10-04 21:36:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a trip to the pleasure store and buy yourself a toy. When he see's your having fun by yourself, he'll want to join in.
2007-10-04 23:03:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweetheart , but it sounds like hes having sex ...
2007-10-04 21:34:32 · answer #8 · answered by Jayce E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋