marriage question?

Question

I am married to a great woman and she has a great personality, we have been together for a long time but in recent months she has gained too much weight and now looks like a diabetic walrus that got kicked in the face by a drunken midget wearing platform shoes, she is hideous and if you try to take her food away she will foam at the mouth and throw a frying pan at you!!

What do I do?!

Answer 1

Sounds like she's married to an ***. I would be super nice and hope she doesn't dump you.

BTW calling her a diabetic walrus won't help the relationship. Maybe ask her to take romantic walks etc. Although if I was her, I would run.

Answer 2

There are alot of factors you must eliminate before you can in fact call her a walrus.
1) She could be in fact, diabetic.
2) She may have a secret twinkie addiction (common among walruses).
3) When people are happy and content, they put on weight but it usually plateaus at their 'ideal' weight.
4) Depression.
5) Stress.
6) Thyroid disorder.
7) A myriad of hormone complications or disorders.
8) Birth control pills.
9) She may be testing you.
10) Emotional troubles.
11) Poor time planning (she eats when the adults do AND when the kids do.)
12) She may be pregnant or just have had a baby or a baby walrus.
All these must be eliminated, first. To get to the bottom of this you must first sit her down and rationally speak with her. Take her to the doctor no matter what and say it's because you "care." The doctor will get to the bottom of it quickly and get it straightened out even quicker.

Answer 3

Hahaha, in recent months? If she's gained that much weight in months, she might have a medical condition or at least a psychological one. Get her to a doctor. Most conditions that cause weight gain can be treated, but you're going to need to get her on a treadmill!

Do this: Tell her you are concerned about your own health and your own weight and ask her if she'll start dieting and exercising with you for support. Tell her something like it will bring you closer as a couple and it would be something for the both of you (but don't mention how gross she's gotten.) This should do the trick. If not, print out articles on just how unhealthy being fat is, let her know it's not just about her looks, but her health too. Be concerned for her well-being.

If she just won't stop eating the junk, be prepared to leave her. She's addicted to food and she may as well be a crack head. You don't need to sit around and watch her kill herself do you? (This last one is only half serious. Many times people respond to answerers saying leave a pot smoker or a depressed person, but a fatty? You need to love her for who she is! Yea right! Don't be an enabler man!)

Answer 4

Ouch! So I take it that she is not as attractive to you as she once was. :) Love her anyway! For better or worse, ....all marriages have their good and bad years. Maybe, she is having a bad one for reasons you may not understand. If you believe in God at all, I suggest that you ask Him to help you both through this. What are you doing to make her feel attractive (physically and personally)? Give her some extra money to buy a nice outfit or some new underwear, and then take her out somewhere nice. Be sweet and romantic like you were when you couldn't keep your hands off each other in your skinnier and younger years. Plan more physical things to do together on your time off, but do it without making it obvious that you are displeased with her. Romantic walks in the park or along the river are nice. Be devoted to her. These sorts of things are going to make you attractive to her. Whatever you do, do not look to other images, or Internet sites to full-fill you because it will only damage her self esteem and trust in you and cause another riff in your marriage and that is very painful for a spouse to overcome. Being married for any amount of time is very difficult these days, we need to be the number one encourager for our spouses. God bless you!

Answer 5

You could try the subtle way. Women hate to be told fat. Trust me. I can understand how you feel cos it wouldnt be nice to have a partner who doesnt try to maintain the beauty be it a male or female.
You should maybe drop subtle hints like changing the food she eats. Try cooking for her. Sounds dumb but at least it keeps her away from the junk food.
Maybe suggest light exercises like taking strolls in the park or nearby for at least 20mins a day. In the long run it does help.
This would be better than shafting diet pills at her. But please dont ever tell her that she looks terrible. It makes a woman depressed instantly. Instead praise her, reverse psychology. Tell her that u are concerned abt her weight. But do it very gently. Link it to health concerns. Im sure she realizes it but just needs a bit of nudging

Answer 6

well,it is really a serious problem.you need to do something for it.not to mention her figure but be worry about her health.You know i am also a housewife and really love to cook.I gained a lot and recently i found myself in a bad health so even without consulting a doctor i did my best to control my eating habit and i enroll myself in a workout.it makes me feel better now.the reason why i did this is because my hubby showed his concern for me by not being so arrogant and figure conscious rather, he is very comforting and concern about my health,even telling me now and then that how much i meant to him .in this way i realized that my husband and kids are the most important to me than my foods i eat.try this tecnique and maybe it will works to her also.good luck.

Answer 7

Obviously, you have approached her about this, given the terminology used to describe her. It sounds like "great" is no longer the way you feel about her, so if telling her, you're concerned about her health,isn't working, then try, "I'm leaving. If you don't care what you look & feel like, why should I stay and be miserable too. It may be brutal, but it sounds like you're both close to that.

Answer 8

If you cant beat them join them . because you cant change her. she knows she is large,and if you continuly remind her that would be unloving. If she is a good wife , be happy they are hard to find. I had two slim very atractive wives ( not at the same time this isnt utah ) and they where awfull you should be happy whith what you have.. I think you should show her what you wrote.lol

Answer 9

if ur not fat just like her then help her. exercise with her, limit fat and calories and stuff, make her see that ur unhappy with her appearance BUT IN A NICE WAY any other way will just upset her n lead her more down the bad path

Answer 10

you know,when you take vows it's for better or for worse,sickness and in health,why are you down grading her,instead of you putting her down you should be helping her,maybe there is a problem.maybe with you,did you stop to think and ask her why!!!!!!!.