Some times you suddenly get angry and shout at someone? Later realize how rude you were? Do you apologize?

Question

When your subordinate / colleague / friend / parents / brothers / sisters / or even your kids do some mistake which has affected, you suddenly loose your temper and really hurt them with your strong words. Sometimes in the heat of the moment, you would have made some comments really hurting them. Later you realize how rude you were. This happens to all of us.

When it happens to me, I normally go and try to convince that person. Make some jokes, tickle that person and make them laugh. Till I do that I can’t sleep. Sometimes if I am wrong, I don’t mind apologizing even to my servant.

Trust me this has helped me a lot. When I go to office or within my friends circle, I am loved by everyone. Even my enemy loves me. He can’t resist loving me. I am not boasting myself here.However I am just sharing with you that, when you let your ego go, and try to make others happy, they really recognize it and love you later on.

Many a time when I write something like this, I expect people to come out with beautiful answers giving their experiences which could be helpful to us to understand different view point. Instead many come and attack me trying to project the question to be wrong or giving me advices.

Please friends, share with me your valuable views which shall help one and all.

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Answer 1

Now, why does this mannerism in you not surprise me in the least? Oh, Yeah! Your name 'Gentleman.' You are a through gentleman and I believe every word you have said. You may not believe this but I share the exact same traits, maybe that is why I answer most of your questions! The only thing I have a big question mark for, is your saying that even your enemies love you…I can understand you loving your enemies. However, if they were to love you too, why would they still be your enemies???

Answer 2

I lose my temper too sometimes also. You have to understand that it is only natural to get angry, and people do sometimes do things they wish they didn't while they are angry, but does apologizing really help to make everything better? That's the real question. I don't think so. To me, apologies are more for accidents, not something one means to do. I do this too, and I never apologize, but I do try to make up for it in how I treat the person. The old axiom is right, "actions do speak louder than words." A simple "I'm sorry" doesn't cut it with me. I don't expect apologies, and rarely accept them.

So I guess you already understand this because you "apologize" with actions rather than words.

Answer 3

Yes, I have done that a couple of times, but almost immediately realized how ignorant I sounded. I apologized and let them know that I felt like an idiot for going off like that.

I am usually so laid back, that it actually scares people when I get angry like that. It's like "Where did that come from?" I guess I just held my feelings in until I finally exploded. I am one of those people that usually does not care what people say or think. I don't even try to defend myself when people talk bad about me. I figure that if anyone really knows me well enough, then they know it isn't true. The others I could care less about! I just can not stand nosy people, you know those idiots that want to get into your business!!

Answer 4

I am a married man and I may have similar problem. First of all I assume he doesn't hit you. Hitting should be a big red line. Rasing hands on any woman let alone your wife is BIG tabu. As for shouting: have a serious talk to him. Explain how it makes you feel when you are shouted at and explain that if he talks to you about any problem he has with you - you can hear and understand him much better. That's how my wife delt with me.

Answer 5

This one gets a shining STAR! Hey u have left me speechless...with a writer's block since u've covered up almost everything beautifully. Frankly I behave just similar. It's very beneficial to drop the ego & accept one's mistake. But so many people face difficulty in doing so & then one gets to know the worth of this exercise. U patch up; body & mind relax immediately; the atmosphere becomes pleasant for all & so many more benefits.
Nice to know this side of yours.

Answer 6

I know what you mean , I sometimes say things that might be hurtful to one of my kids or blame one for something another one did.I'll apologize for that or for hurting the feelings of a loved one.
As for friends and colleagues I think it's ok to let them think I'm a bit of a pr*ck sometimes. People seem to treat you with more respect when their not sure how your going to react to something.

Answer 7

I get angry when someone realllyy makes me mad, everyone at school think I am the nicest person ever! YEAH RIGHT! lol, when I get mad, I think I need time to myself, because I don't want to yell, and hurt someone's feelings, it has happened a few times, and I felt awful! I apologize and tell them they should have left me alone, and I need time to just be by myself when I am mad. My friends try to cheer me up, it just never works because I just want to explode, and be like get the heck away from me! lol

Answer 8

i get angry just like everyone else and once i realise that i have been rude i cant go on another second without apologising to them and making them laugh and happy again and i get seriously upset if someone else is upset even if i wasnt the cause of it. yah thats me. i am concerned about each and every person in the world even if i dont know them.

Answer 9

hi gEntLE m@n....

dude 1stly i m a person who doesnt get anger easily or temper easily...or who gets annoyed easily....[even i m not boasting here dude...just trying 2 give u an opinion about myself]...ya ...but dude remember...when i get temper...i doesnt see right or left...up or down..i just get blast off....but dude later maybe after 10-15 mins when i realize that i was wrong i do apologize n try 2 convince that person...but dude i have a n attitude 2 say sorry even if there iz my fault or not...coz i believe by saying sorry or by apologizing u dont become big or small...thats it...my whole step family do treat me veryyyyy badly but i give a damn...az i have got 2 enjoy my life...n i dont want 2 waste my life after such stupids n cheapsters....tc...sweet dreamz...bye....

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Answer 10

Yeah i'm like that too, if i say something i don't really want to say they may have hurt them i would be uncomfortable for days, regardless how close i am to the person. i would always try to apologize for what i say if it came out the wrong way.