So I met the girl of my dreams in class. Caught her looking at me and smiling at me, and I thought "holy ****, seriously" so over the next two weeks or so,I am shy, i get the nerve to talk to her. Nervous, I sound retarded, but I manage to make her smile. Four days later, nervous again, I talk to her and get her number. She gives me her number, and I called the next day.No answer. Called again a few days later, nothing. Now when I see her, she ignores me! it hurts so much, I want to die. I can't stop tjhinking of her. Why would she do that to me? Especially since she knows I am shy and nervous and stuff? this sucks. And I have been through the whole breakup thing a couple times, but this hurts more than anything i ever been through my whole life. I don't know what to do, I have to go to class 3 days a week with her, but i have been ditching classes to avoid seeing her ignore me. Why is she doing this to me? I wanna die so bad, but all I can do is type this..What can i do? Help me.
2007-10-04 20:45:26 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
why should you care? I mean seriously. Why? You're the one giving her all this power. Dude, shes just a girl. I know how you feel, I used to be the same way. You have to learn to not worry about it. She probably was into you, but many girls don't like a guy that has no confidence. You need to not care so much. Shes not going to be the only girl you'll like.
Just learn to be yourself and not be too concerned about saying the right thing. Say what you want. Remember, shes just a girl. Yes, she seems like everything, but fight that feeling. You don't want somebody who cares nothing about you, having that much power over you.
2007-10-04 21:01:34 · answer #1 · answered by the grand super C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are making her control your life way too much, such as ditching class for her sake. You need to take control over things and stop letting her call the shots and rule your well being.
She seems to be either confused herself if she showed you some interest and then ignores you, or simply playing a game. You need to decide if you're going to play along or walk away.
Go to class and do the usual things. Keep in mind that she is only a girl, you will meet many others, and focus on yourself. You are important and too valued person for letting your world completely collapse due to a silly behaviour from a girl you don't even know. And certainly not worthy of using the words "I wan to die". Time heals the broken heart.
Start working on your self, how to approach people and work on the shyness. Being shy can be handicap and there are courses available for learning to speak in front of people and deal with stressful situation.
Tips about that girl. When you see her, just smile casually to her, sending the message "I'm OK, is the problem on your side?" ... which is the truth anyway, for you had interest and weren't playing games.
Good Luck :)
2007-10-05 04:02:29 · answer #2 · answered by Soybella 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls just like to play. This isn't a knock on you, or anyother guy. Some people just really don't think of what their doing. Take your pain, and turn it into your strength. Go to class, don't let her know she got to you, or it will feed the fire. Act like you don't care, and soon enough, she will be forgotten. Do the best you can in school, and show all those girls who let you down that you over came it, and made something of yourself! I've always been the nice girl that got played, or used, and today, all those losers that hurt me, are nothing, and I'm something. I love my life, I'm happy, I'm reaching my goals, and they're stuck. You can do this, just don't give up on yourself!! You deserve the best you can aquire. Keep your head up, she's just another girl. Probably not anything special you need anyways, or it would have worked out. She's out there...and you'll know it when it finds you.
2007-10-05 04:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by TMama 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whoa nicka ... hold up ... this gurl isnt worth all that .. i think you need to hit the strip club .. spend a dollar on a a gurl or two ... cause for real i know your all shy and stuff .. but these gurls are a dime a dozen son.. theyre everwhere.. i dont mean to come across all like i got all the game in the world ... but listen first thing you need to do is over come this shyness .. and strippers will help with that .. if you dont have the $$$ for strippers...just holla at any gurl you see one the cut .. or in the halls ... in the parking lot you think looks good ... i mean really whats the worst these gurls gonna do ? give you a snobby sneer? turn there nose all up in the air atchya ? whats the best thing that could happen? they could respond to your confidence and become your sex slave for the weekend??? yea break out of that shell turtle boy ... no offense...but for real holla at um all !!! use some shappy azz line on um.. " did it hurt? " when they say what " falling from heaven" but remember to be a lil' prickish aight... pick on um .. whatever you do dont pick on the butt though ... make cracks about their legs ... their head even their chichis ... but not the butt... complement the butt .. they like that... anyways .. QUIT BEING SHY NICK
and live in the now with um ... weeks to get the nuts to holla ??? thats what turned her off from ya ..
Luv All you gurls .. Fo Real!!!xoxo
2007-10-05 04:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jayce E 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I know what it feels like, I had my share, I know you just yelling " I wanna die!!" but believe me you are not going to, the is still a lot more to experience. In my opinion she is also learning life and she probably felt flattered by your attention but didn't want to get serious. Try to think of it as just a bad experience I know it is hard but life goes on. And maybe if you pull the same trick on here she will want you attention back, that is how people's mind's works.But you might think it is easy for me to talk, but I would really suggest you don't take it personal the problem is with her.
2007-10-05 04:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by trinicy2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She just changed her mind, its no big deal, girls do that you know. Nothing worth dieing over. She may start to like you again next week.. Be happy and ready, she'll come around and if not, maybe someone else will notice your smilling face and it will draw them in. You know that in life, you win a few and loose a few. If you've only lost lately, WELL then, you've got alot of winning comming your way. Don't miss out by dieing over the one that got away. Chins up....
2007-10-05 11:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, let's start with this: rejection isn't fatal. Do you want to be envied or pitied? Pity doesn't get you anywhere. Hold your head high, go to class, and ignore her. Look for someone with more class and honesty. If she didn't want to talk to you, she should have had the courage to tell you so, not to fake you out by giving a number and then not answering. Ignore her and look for someone with good character.
2007-10-05 03:50:27 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else. You sound so hurt and lonely, it makes me sad.
She is probably in a relationship. The best thing you can do is to talk to her, find out what's up, and quit skipping class. School is more important than some girl you don't know. I am really sorry you are so unhappy.
Talk to some friends or family, or a counselor, please.
2007-10-05 04:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Debra S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take a deep breath and ignore her back. you will be fine, and as shy as you are, it doesnt matter. no matter what we allllll get rejected : ) it sucks ALOT yes, but it happens. delete her number, and hold you head high. no slinking around acting embarrassed. you have nothing to be embarrassed about. go and learn your fun stuff in class and remember that she is not the right one for you.
2007-10-05 03:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Kate 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it , either she really doesn't want to know you or she is playing a game she enjoys .
In either case their are plenty of other girls , find another and don't fixate on any of them .
At your age you should be playing the field .
2007-10-05 03:53:22 · answer #10 · answered by shannow5858 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋