I just got out of a 1 half year of a bad relationship. Don’t get me wrong there were good times too but all I can remember is the bad times. Now it has been 6 months and I’m over with the hard part of thinking about him every min of my time, and also not have his face pop in my mind when I wake up. Now I guess I’m just seeing what else is out there for me. But every time a gay try to get close to me I step back. And never call them again. Why is that? Does this mean I’m not ready for something new? Can anyone help me!!?
2007-10-04 19:51:20 · 9 answers · asked by JENN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You may not be. If you're not calling them back there must be a reason. When you meet a guy that just does it for you, I'm sure you'll call him back :) My number one tip for finding the right person, is to NOT look. Everytime I was looking for a relationship, it never worked out. But for instance, after I finally decided I was done trying, my now husband approached me, and I fell head over heels right away! Just take one day at a time, and when your not looking, it will find you. Good Luck
2007-10-04 19:58:17 · answer #1 · answered by TMama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, after the break up you cried your eyes out, you suffered, you went through a day of hating him and the next day of wanting him back, you felt sad and overwhelmed with crazy emotions and now that 'period' is over, this is like ermmm an after math? you don't feel as much pain as you felt a few months ago.. YET you still hold back and you dont want something new anytime soon.. I say you are still not completely over him.. It's not wrong, you know, it's not a bad thing!! Everyone feels that way, jus most people dont voice it out [: so don't feel alone and stuff.. you need time... you need to give yourself time to heal and be able to love and trust and care for someone again.. You can do that... it jus takes time. it's not magic and it's not like in can happen overnight... Take your time.. You'll fell better,, and honestly, it's good that you are not ready for something yet cos if you are still not over him, chances are you might take your next relationship as a rebound.. and that'll jus make you feel worst.. at first, yes you will feel like "i have found love once again [: " but it's not gonna last unless it's true and not a rebound kinda thing.. sorry if i;m not making any sense but i hope you get better [:
2007-10-04 20:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you're just not ready yet.
to be fair to the guys just say to them, " yeah maybe another time I'd be calling you back but I just got out of a bad relationship and need some space. If you see me in 6 months time try me again."
After 2 or three years if you still don't seem ready yet then you have to make yourself call a guy back and go on a date just to snap out of it.
(Go somewhere safe though and don't just hop into bed because of what I've said here.)
Basically your heart will tell you when you are ready.
2007-10-04 19:58:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heartbreaks are very difficult to get over dear , even when you feel as if you totally got over it , somewhere deep in your heart it still lingers around ... there is nothing wrong with you , this is totally normal ...
Start of by getting to know them as friends, start slowly ... call em when you feel like talking .... dont totally avoid everyone ... friendship can be so much better than having a relationship cause there is no such thing as breakup or heartbreaks .... so do things step by step until your more comfortable to open up and maybe get into a relationship with a better person ... tc...
2007-10-04 20:05:39 · answer #4 · answered by BABY GURL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being cautious because you were hurt before. You need to loosing up. You need to realize that all guys are not going to do the same things that caused you so much pain. Give them a break, just don't get too close too soon. all you have to do is ask them to take it a little slower if they get too close.
2007-10-04 21:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your more concerned if the next guy you meet is going to be like the last relationship and your more cautious.
2007-10-04 20:31:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are afraid that you might get hurt by a guy again. just remember not all guys are the same. step up to the plate and bat.
2007-10-04 19:57:47 · answer #7 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't live in the past forever it will just make you miserable you should start thinking positively about seeing different guys
2007-10-04 20:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by dearmeohmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are to scared................
2007-10-04 20:05:20 · answer #9 · answered by sarara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋