My ex-husband & I share custody of our daughter & she has pierced ears, my ex had put some gold small hoop earrings in her ears (she's 3 yrs old & normally she wears studs) & I expressed my concern about them. He told me not to worry & she would be fine. Now I am against the whole thing with babies having pierced ears, but it was done without my consent or knowledge & I never took the earrings out because I wanted to keep the peace. Anyhow, being 3 years old she plays a lot at pre-school & toss & turns when she sleeps. One day I noticed that the earrings were missing & I couldn't find them. My ex wants me to give him $75 to replace them. My ex has a court order to pay half of pre-school costs & has never given me one cent towards it. He owes me thousands & thousands of dollars for pre-school. He also owes my Mother about $800 for misc. things from when we were married. Should I give him the $75? Should I deduct it from the money he owes me? Or should I not owe him any money at all?
2007-10-04 19:50:25 · 16 answers · asked by italian_princess_oc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Any parent who gives a child a gift should not expect 1.) that it will not be lost, and 2.) that the other parent has to pay half. My ex-wife and I split things as needed for our son's sake, but if I were to buy my sons a gift, I certainly wouldn't expect her to pay for half, no matter what the circumstances were. If I were so worried about the loss, I'd ask my sons to leave the gift in my house. I wouldn't pay a thing if I were you, and pursue what he has not paid according to the courts.
2007-10-04 19:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by WingNo19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were the earrings a gift to your daughter?
Were you asked to pay for them when the piercing was done?
or before she lost one of them?
If you answered No then you do not owe him a cent.
Also If you can prove he has not paid child support then take him back to court!
2007-10-04 21:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by AussieLady 58 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't own him anything don't pay him either ask the school if they know what happened to the earrings i wouldn't but hoop earrings on a 3 yr old she could pull at her ear or get it caught in something stay w/ studs it's easier best of luck
2007-10-04 20:01:10 · answer #3 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not owe him a thing. I had my ears pierced young and I lost earrings all the time. It happens. Call child support services ASAP and start a case in your County. They will help you for free. Do NOT feel guilty, do NOT let him manipulate you, hold your ground on this. He is insane. Get some legal help, and remember not to communicate with him unless it is via email so you have records. Go back to court ASAP. Ger his wages garnished.
2007-10-04 19:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by my_son_wants_to_know 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 08:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by ocain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont owe him anything, he brought his daughter a gift and she lost them. not your fault, if you brought her a braclet and she lost it while at school during his care time would you expect him to pay for it? i doubt it, same same.
he should get off his high horse and start to pay preschool fees for his daughter. i would let the courts know he hasnt paid. it his daughter too.
also he should know better, kids are kids and she is little and bound to loose things running around. studs would've been a much more wiser choice, also what if your daughter got them caught on her clothing and ripped it out, dangerous when so young. maybe you could buy her some studs as he brought the last pair.
2007-10-04 19:59:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say not give him the money. There's no good reason for it. Just tell him you don't agree that kids that young should have earrings. If he complains, tell him he can deduct the $75 from his next pre-school payment!
2007-10-04 19:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by kako 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, dont be so nice. I would tell him flatly that when he pays you back everything he owes both you and your mother then you will give him the $75. Until then, he gets nothing. I would also ring the child support agency and get them to enforce the child support....including the money he owes.
2007-10-04 19:55:38 · answer #8 · answered by rightio 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't give him any money at all, instead turn the tables on him and tell him he is the one who owes u money .. don't let him get his way. ... the thing about your daughter wearing small hoop earring is dangerous as the other children or your daughter may accidentally rip the earring off
2007-10-04 19:57:24 · answer #9 · answered by surfergal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You owe this guy nothing. If he insists any further...Tell him to piss in a fan and that you will deduct it from the thousands of dollars that he owes. I mean why not? You probably won't ever be seeing it anyway, right?
2007-10-04 21:08:36 · answer #10 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋