There is no way to say this w.o. anyone freaking. My young friend (16) and husband's best friend (24) are dating. About 10/11 months now. They met each other thru us (no intention of them ever dating PERIOD!). She is my best friend's sister. I never approved of it but hoping it wouldn't last. She always believed to be a virgin till marriage. Well he has changed her. She is very outspoken now and more confident. Well I found out 3 weeks ago they started to have sex back in July. I COMPLETELY FREAKED! I see her as my little sister. And since her real sister never steps in to guide her. I told her I feel that she is going through this all the wrong way and it makes me feel like I am loosing a little respect for her for hiding this and completely doing opposite as she has always said (hypocrite?). Well of course she resents me the typical teenager reaction. BUT I LOVE HIM & NOT EVERYONE REGRETS THEIR VIRGINITY!!! All I have to say IS PLEASE! Now she is completely avoiding me. Was I wrong?
2007-10-04 19:29:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
All in good intentions! I don't want her lust (there is no way its love!) ruin it for her. We have all been there and just don't want to see our friends too. I don't know how to fix this. She has completely insulted me now and I am not a parent I don't know how to fix teenagers.
2007-10-04 19:31:39 · update #1
You weren't wrong in telling her how you feel,you were just looking out for her and making sure she's safe.But some people have to see their mistakes on their own her included.You tried telling her how you feel and she got angry,the important thing is that you tried.But in this case,you'll have to let her learn this lesson on her own.
2007-10-04 19:48:42 · answer #1 · answered by demonfirelife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're able to already comprehend that Christians and Muslims have extremely diverse perspectives on the God-hood of Jesus. because of the fact the you oftentimes occurring the Christian view of Jesus, and your life got here jointly, turning to the Muslim faith (Islam) does not be solid - because of the fact you're able to continually be conflicted. you apart from could comprehend that the Bible says to not be unequally yoked. appears like the Quran has the comparable sort of message for Muslims, so save your friendship with the girl easy and casual. You and he or she can't get married the way issues are (and could stay, imho).
2016-11-07 07:47:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to be more worried about this 24 year old man taking advantage of this 16 year old. He can go to jail can't he? He's way to old for her right now. Your husband should be backing you on this. Do her parents even know? Or care?
2007-10-04 19:35:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have similar problem with my cuz . i dont know if they are having sex or not . but if i knew they were i would tell the guy he needed to stop seeing her or i was going to go to the police. i would also let the parents know the whole story. i woudl not care if it made her made or not. it would be for her best good. a 24year old with a 16 year old is federal not state and it would be on his record for the rest of his life. he would have to always reg. as a sex offender. let him know for his on good. she has no say in if he gets charged or not it is up to state.
2007-10-04 19:48:54 · answer #4 · answered by cgncf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her do her own thing, you learn better when you pick yourself off from the ground
and no 8 years is a lott that guy is pretty weird he should be acting his age not his shoe size and your friend well she should learn not get fooled
your pretty cool for caring but sometimes distance is needed for up coming disasters
good luck i hope all goes well for you
2007-10-04 19:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were not wrong, but you cant help who you fall in love with , unfortunatly! The more you say its wrong the more you will through them together, embrace it and she will move on, im certain. good luck love
2007-10-04 19:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by shirley f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your husbands friend arrested for pedophilia. Sleeping with a minor is illegal even if she gave her permission.
2007-10-04 19:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are wrong to tell anyone to do anything if they are happy as they are. If she is happy what's it matter? Life is short.
2007-10-04 19:32:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya, it sounds like this whole mess is your fault....
if you never introduced them this wouldn't have happened...
2007-10-04 19:33:38 · answer #9 · answered by Me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋