What should I do with my life?

Question

Please don't answer with follow your heart or anything similar. It will not help me. I've heard that junk my entire life and it's never helped.

My problem is I have no ambition whatsoever. No goals, hopes, or dreams and it's been fine for me up until I graduated High School.

My parents plan on kicking me out unless I get a job which wouldn't be a problem if I cared. I can see why it would be a problem, but it's no motivation for me at all. Nothing that happens to me seems threatening enough for me to care. I feel like I'll have to hit rock bottom on the streets before I care about anything which is something I don't want it to resort to. If they told me to leave tomorrow it wouldn't be problem and I really wouldn't harbor any ill-will. They just have to say the words, but they never do.

I'm very much content with whatever happens to me which is something I see as a problem. I need to 'want' something.

Answer 1

maybe it's time to terminate this sad life.

Answer 2

See a therapist. It could help.

Write a list of everything you have ever enjoyed doing and see if you can find a job that works something on the list into it. Like if you enjoyed playing soccer in third grade, look into coaching jobs or after school programs where you could play soccer with third graders.

Just start doing things and you may find that making yourself busy you figure out you do have some ambition and you like having to wake up in the morning and live up to your commitments.

But I really do recommend some counseling if you feel like you need to hit rock bottom before you'll get motivated. Maybe they can figure out why and head it off so you don't have to.

Answer 3

I wonder if your parents will kick you out - the problem is, it's so dangerous out there on the streets, wherever you live, it would be reckless of your parents to do that you; especially since you say you have so little drive.

As the saying goes ''you sometimes have to be cruel to be kind''. It sounds like your parents have provided a good home for you and you're well fed. I didn't know what I wanted to do with my life and my Mum got a solicitors letter to make me move out.
It was probably the best thing she ever did for me - as it made me stand on my own two feed. Being independent is a great feeling - maybe you should look at it from this angle.

If you had you're own place, you could have loads of girls round - not have to worry about tidying it up all the time if you don't like tidying and your parents go on at you about it all the time etc., you could have your life on your OWN TERMS - think of it that way - plus I think your parents would definitely be proud of you - ok?

Answer 4

I really don't know what to tell you. I was in the same boat by the time I was 16 and living on my own. Really what turned my life around was that I got pregnant. I started living for my son. Now at 22 I a married stay at home mom of 2, and am enrolled in online college courses. I decided that what I want to do is open a small bridal shop.
Obviously telling you to get pregnant right now is not a good idea, but that is what helped me. You have to find that one thing that you really care about. I would say to join the army in the meantime, but you probably don't want to go to Iraq so nox that plan in the but. Do you have and hobbies or interest, see what kind of job or carrer you can make out of that.

Answer 5

wow,reading this i felt as if you were asking me directly.something not of this world has brought this question to my attention,believer?i never was ,so please take this answer to heart,because,i was you.no motivation no will ,impulsive(not that you are)lol,i never wanted anything because then i would have to actually do something,i would say "i want that" oh i got do that to get it,never mind i don't want it that bad. the first step is the hardest and you've DONE IT! now,change your mind&, your way of thinking.instead of thinking that you have no will say i am willing!, figure out what THRILLS you, what gets you going. make a list of options (do able) ones,then figure out where you would like to be out of those options., i hope you would let me continue with this more but before i go on i want you to respond and tell me if you want me to. think about it and get back to me. i feel so anxious,like i can help this person(you),i feel pressure like i need to say the thing that grabs you and opens an all new door .

Answer 6

You're a unique individual. Your life is as precious as mine. If you don't have a goal or dreams but I don't think you are hopeless. Since life is very precious, and you don't seems to care for it, here's my suggestion. Why don't you spend your life helping others? Take the example of your parents who cared for you since infancy up to these days. Who will care for them when they reached old age? Can you be the one to care for them? Think of yourself, you did not grow big as you are now if not for them. Its your turn to repay back what they did for you. The most you can to help and make them happy. If you can do that, you're one of the blessed individual here in this world. The time to start is now.

Answer 7

i was like this. The only reason i ever did anything was because i was expected to. then one day i met my husband, and i wanted to be a better person for him. I started doing a degree at uni, and putting more effort into something.

it's hard, every day i still have to try. i have to require more of myself. i still have my 'whatever' days, where i just want to do nothing, even getting out of bed seems like too much effort. it's not easy.

i didn't realise that there were other people out there like this. i'm not depressed, i just, don't really care about stuff. you know? Even the desire for a baby hasn't been enough to motivate me to get healthy and get the house sorted out, or get into a routine. i just mope about not being pregnant instead of DOING something about it. So, if you figure it out, let me know.

Answer 8

Examine what you do with your day to day life. If you spend most of your day on the computer then follow a similiar career route. If you go to the gym look into some trainer type courses. Really need more info to help you out?

Answer 9

Are you going to college? If you go to college you'll be able to try lots of things out, see what you like, and build a career off of that. If you cant think of anything that is really interesting to u, just do the biggest moneymakers, learn business or something

Answer 10

Well,try working in the supermarket or gas station. Come on,it just for temporary and be smart to your life. Earn some money for yourself and find a good place to live..

Answer 11

Try taking those personality and aptitude tests you see on the internet all the time.
Or if you have any hobbies, see if you can get a job related to one of them.