i have married to man for last 2yrs, it is a love *** arrange marriage. i love my husband very much, he too loves me but he is not ready to live his parents, his brother and his wife always tries to create misunderstaning between both of us. i am a working women whole day i am out of house, my sis-in-law is a housewife in the afternoon time she comes to our place and also create misunderstanding about me in my in-laws mind. some time i feel to kill her and her husband and even my in-laws who tries to keep me and my husband away from each other. Help me friends i am confused
2007-10-04 18:24:04 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to leave that family and just be with ur husband, move away and live separately from ur in -laws.
If your husband wont stand for you u better leave him. I had exactly same situation and i left and now 2 years I am happy and met a great person, I am always number one for him.
2007-10-04 18:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by lady in RED 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you love your husband very much. But does he too love you? I doubt. Or maybe that he loves his family too and cannot choose between the two.
Whatever it is he should think about it in a practical way.
Staying seperately is much better than staying in the same house with ill feelings.
If you stay away from your family, you will leave in peace and the relations also won't spoil further.
But what does your sis-in-law wants? is it because you didn't bring dowry or something (coz you mentioned in the first line ...demand for money) Then she seems to be a very old-fashioned mindset lady.
But if your husband is not interested in dowry...then no one has the right to taunt you about it.
2007-10-05 01:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by lynette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you certainly married into a hornet's nest, didn't you? Normally, I hate to give ultimatums, but your husband is just going to flat out have to choose between you and his parents. He is a grown man now and he needs to stop acting like a little boy. He made a commitment to you. That's where his loyalties should be. He's the one who needs to straighten out his family, not you. He needs to tell them clearly to mind their own business. It doesn't sound like that's going to happen any time soon though. Have you thought about going for marriage counseling, either with him or without him? Also, I would change the locks on the house so no one can come in without my being home.
2007-10-05 01:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing hard, u choose a good cituvation (time) discussed with ur husband and u can solve this problem easily.urs decisions is important , every body can advice but that all are not in practical.
2007-10-05 05:49:42 · answer #4 · answered by sasi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get a divorce and live a happier life. Don't fill your heart with hatred, well not for them anyway.
2007-10-05 01:57:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to another city.
2007-10-05 01:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋