How do women want to be loved? What does it take for them to be happy with their spouse?
2007-10-04 18:15:23 · 12 answers · asked by csn_zm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well this is a question that can be perfectly answered with one book, The Five Languages of Love. It is a wonderfully written book that has saved so many marriages, and gives you both the opportunity to find out just how to love your spouse to the fullest extent possible. Check it out. Both of you read it and discuss which love language suits you. Then you can work with that love language. It takes work, but it just could save your marriage. You can pick it up for about 12.00 and I loved it. The man who wrote this book knew exactly what he was doing. Not every woman is the same, and you may be expressing love, just not her love. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-10-04 22:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by Just a girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Different women want different expressions of love at different times. I know it's frustrating! I'll bet she might tell you what she wants one time, expect you to know that the next time, and then the time after that if you guess the one thing she said the first time, by the third time she wants something totally different. Worse than that, sometimes women expect you guys to be able to tell the difference, like "You should know what I want and need!" *LOL* I know, as I've done this to my husband before. Evil, evil woman! ;-)
I'd talk to her seriously about it and just tell her that you're not a mind reader. I mean, say it in a nice way. "Sweetheart, I love you and I want to make you happy. Can you tell me three things in particular that would make you really happy right now?" Have her tell you the things that you COULD do that would make her happy...not "Well I want you to stop bothering me." The actions need to be positive ones, and they need to be something that can easily be fulfilled in the present time. It can't be, "I want you to stop talking to your friends."
2007-10-04 19:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound very concerned, and that is an act of loving right there.
But the only person who can answer this is your wife.
Tell her you really want her to feel loved and cherished by you, and how can you show her so she'll know and feel it.
I recommend "The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate."
It could just be that you aren't speaking her "language." Once you figure out what her language of love is, you will learn to speak it and she will feel loved.
That is assuming, of course, that the reason she doesn't feel your love anymore is not being caused by depression or something psychological.
2007-10-04 18:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is genuinely caring for the other person, more than yourself. In God's words it is "love your wife, like Christ loves the church...the church being those that he died for!
Woman want to be listened to.....appreciated for the things they do.....appreciated for more than just how she looks, but who she is...for her abilities, and what she is good at. She wants to be a "partner" in your life.....She want to feel protected and know that you are there to take care of her...when she is ill, she wants you step in a help take care of her, just as she would do for you.
They want their husband to come home and listen to how was her day, and share with her about yours....she wants to feel included in your life. She can feel very rejected by a man who comes home, plops in front of the TV, and doesn't communicate the rest of the night....then wants attention in bed!
Men often give romance, attention, etc. "until" they get married...then they figure they don't need to bother anymore, when women need that romance all their lives.
If I were going to guess....add "romantic moments" romantic notes, romantic get-aways, romantic gestures...like flowers for no reason at all....dinners by candlelight....children sent to grandma as a surprise....etc. Thoughtful things will go a very long way. Personal letters of how you feel about her....
And marriages need work all the time.....they are always in motion either growing or not....so give 100% for her, and she is the "responder"....she will respond to what she is given...it is her nature to do so. And having a personal intimate relationship takes work!
2007-10-04 18:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by samantha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women want to feel passion. They want to look at their man and want to jump on them. They want to look into their eyes and feel that there is no other guy who can give them butterflies the way that they feel at that moment. They want to not want to get out of bed in morning because they would rather snuggle and cuddle the boy laying next to them. They want passion.
2007-10-04 18:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by dewgrl3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is a reason that she doesnt love you anymore. maybe she isnt that into you. that is a possibliltiy. women like to acording to their needs. figure out if you are meeting her needs. hope that helps.
2007-10-04 18:20:45 · answer #6 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to sit down with them and have a long talk.
2007-10-04 18:17:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her and laugh with her. The key to every womens heart.
2007-10-04 18:17:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
be spontaneous, usually does the trick.
2007-10-04 18:19:53 · answer #9 · answered by skeezbucket 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to her.
2007-10-04 18:18:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋