I'm 23..I was born and raised in America but my parents are of Lebanese decent but have been here for over 40 years.. My parents won't let me marry a guy I have been in love with for a year now because his parents are not from the same village as my parents. We (me and him) are both Lebanese and have the same religion, but come from different villages (a village I have never seen because I've never been to my parent's country). What do you think?
2007-10-04 18:10:47 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He's 24... we've known eachother for more than a year but have been dating for a year..
He owns his own business and makes great money and I have an awsome job too in the Finance field..
2007-10-04 18:17:28 · update #1
A lot of people asked it's only been a year and were already thinking about marriage.. Well yeah, we want to settle down and start a family. We're not the type to mess around with 100 people until we settle down. You know what I mean?
2007-10-04 19:06:38 · update #2
You're in America, and you're an adult. You get to choose who you marry, you're parents don't.
While I can't imagine how difficult your situation is, I would strongly suggest that you don't give up your true love just because your parents are being old-fashioned and backwards.
2007-10-04 18:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You guys are thinking about marriage already? wow that's crazy but congratulations.
I have a lot of arabic friends and some of them have the same problem too...well not exactly the same but similar. For example; my friend (he) lebanese marrying a canadian girl. It took them 2 years to convince the family to accept her (but they're not married yet, just engaged). My other friend (she) lebanese, her parents won't accept him because he's spanish but same religion. And still didn't work out yet....we will see.
As for me, I've been seeing this girl for two years now. She's half egyptian/half greek and i'm half white/asian. She's already thinking far ahead into the relationship and she tells me "I don't want to lose you" and she also said "If you really like/love somebody you will rebel against your parents" But I don't know if her parents are going to accept me...i know her mom likes me because she said "he's educated, very respectful, polite, well manner, good looking, same religion, very cultural etc...) so i know her mom might accept me, but her dad on the other hand jeez...See? I need your help as well lol :)
2007-10-04 18:41:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a legal adult. Because you don't come from the same village is ridiculous. The fact that you are both Lebanese and of the same religion and that you love each other are EXCELLENT reasons to marry. Happy Wedding!!
2007-10-05 01:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dani Bosco 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your all grown up you have to choose. Is pleasing your parents more important to you than being with the man you love? I was born and raised in America as were my parents and their parents so this sort of situation is completly outside of my experiences and my understanding. I have no concept of what your parents would do if you married him without their concent. The question is can you live with the consequences if you marry him without thier permission and can you live with them if you don't marry him. Choose the path that will make you happiest. Good luck.
2007-10-04 18:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by Aurora 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too controlling of your parents. Parents can be such a pain when it comes to things like this. I know it will be hard to do, but you could marry him anyway and move away from your parents. My brother had to do that when my parents didn't like the woman he was marrying. My mom and dad are very traditional people. The problem was though they never accepted her as their daughter-in-law and there were problems. That was why my brother moved away from them. Your guy sounds wonderful. I wish you all the luck in finding the right answer. I know this is very hard.
2007-10-04 18:13:41 · answer #5 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Uh, do your family values run into yours. If they do, then do not do it for you will regret it later. Otherwise, you are an adult and are capable of making your own decisions, and sometimes those do not include what our parents want for us. That is why we are not them and they are not us. They may have culture meanings but those do not have to be yours. It is your life and the goal is to move out and live life after 18 and fly away with all that your parents have given you along with what you are going to learn on your own.........good luck.
2007-10-04 18:15:50 · answer #6 · answered by beachgirl90 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are in America, you have the freedom to do what you want. Leave and marry him. What can they really do to stop you?
The worse thing I know is to disown you. If this happens, you have to make a decision, him or your parents.
Can you stop true love?
Wars have been fought over love. Yours man not be an easy war, but a decision of your heart.
2007-10-04 18:17:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you are 23 and should give the relationship a little more than a year before deciding to marry anyway. Maybe if you gave yur family some more time to adjust to te idea of the two of you together they would relent.
2007-10-04 18:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to avail yourself of the laws in this country that state you have the Legal right to choose how you live your life after your 18th birthday!!!
This is the U.S.! At 23, Your parents don't have the right to say SQUAT! The Only thing You lack is the Guts to tell them that!
2007-10-04 18:17:25 · answer #9 · answered by thart090 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are American and an adult. Marry whom you please. Your parents do not have a choice. Make yourself happy, not them. If you love him and he loves you in return then spend the rest of your life with him. So what if you are not from the same village. HELLO, AMERICA.
2007-10-04 18:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋