How to convince my husband on baby name?

Question

I just found out three weeks ago that I'm am pregnant with our fourth child. We are trying very hard not to count our chickens before they hatch but really want another girl. Our oldest is an 8 yr old girl followed by 5 yr old boy and 19 mo. old boy. Anyway, my husband is insisting on the name Elizabeth Jade as a girls name, but also insisting on calling her by her middle name Jade. I on the other hand think this is stupid and if we have a girl, we should name her Jade Elizabeth and then at no point in her life will she be confused...or people calling out Elizabeth and her having to say, no it's Jade. What is your opinion? And if you agree w/ me, how do I convince my husband?

Answer 1

I'm with you--if you want to call the child by a particular name, that should be her first name. The only time I wouldn't suggest that is if it just sounds really weird in that order, or if you use some kind of shortened nickname (i.e., Liz for Elizabeth). And I think Jade Elizabeth sounds great in that order. As for convincing your husband...I wish I had ideas! Best of luck!!

Answer 2

I agree with you. I hate it when people names there kids something and then call them by their middle names. I don't see the point. If you want to call her Jade name her Jade. It will cause problems for her later to always have to tell people "My name is Elizabeth but I go by my middle name Jade" I don't think it is worth the hassle. Jade Elizabeth is a nice name. I think you should just go with that.

Answer 3

Well, I have to agree with your husband that Elizabeth Jade sounds better than Jade Elizabeth. A lot of people go by their middle names. It is not really that big of a deal. Also, she may decide when she gets older that she would rather use Elizabeth. It is a great name that has many options for nicknames. She may not even go by Jade or Elizabeth. No matter what you name her, friends and family will give her different nicknames. My advice is to not worry about it so much. Congrats and good luck!

Answer 4

If you are going to call her by the name Jade then that has to be her first name. You are totally right that it will only confuse her if you don't. Jade Elizabeth is really pretty anyway!

Just explain it to hubby the very same way you explained it to us as it was very convincing and most of us agreed with you!

Good luck!

Answer 5

I think this is a power struggle more than a name struggle. Why are you interested in starting a fight with your husband at such an early stage? Why not just let it go for five or six months? Don't give him a hard time. First find out if it's a girl. Then let him tell people what he's thinking. Chances are, it will work itself out long before another eight month's go by. In the meantime, I think you should really figure out what's going on between the two of you. What's this really about? Anyway, whatever you name your kid, when she's 12, she'll come to you and say, "Don't call me _____ anymore, call me ________." Look at actresses like Jodi Foster and Sigourney Weaver. They picked those names, no one named them that. So stop sweating the small stuff.

Answer 6

Does it really matter, I mean, when she gets in trouble, you'll be calling her by her WHOLE name...lol...Jade is a cool first and middle name, Elizabeth is beautiful too, remember with those two names, nick names will eventually develop my friends and family and class mates

Elizabeth - Lizzy, Beth, Leesee, Bess, B, Lil E, Abe
Jade - Jay, Lil J, Dee

So either way you put it, she'll get nicknames from everyone

Answer 7

It will be ok. I have 4 children. Girl(12), Boy(9), Boy(4) and Girl (18 months).

I loved the name Keely (Irish for Kelly) and really pushed to have it. But my husband didn't want it. I just shut up about it and kept it in my heart, but I circled it in the baby name book with highlight pen - would put little notes there "love this name", and whenever I sat and wrote names I liked I put it there on the list. When our bubby was born - we decided to call her Rachel (which I really love anyway) and my husband just said to me "would you like to give her the middle name Keely?". So that is her, Rachel Keely. You know, no matter which order her names are in, you can call her Jade (very pretty by the way). Heaps of kids are like that these days. Two of my little nephews are known by their middle names as they have the same first names as their dads - just saves on confusion. Its' not so bad. My husband is known to EVERYONE as his middle name and it's on his passport and everything - Ariel. But his first name is Gary. No, one calls him that - the only place it is on is his birth certificate.

Answer 8

I think you should keep it as is. I have friends and relatives who go by their middle names simply because they don't care for their first name. So say you name her Jade Elizabeth, and when she's older she prefers to go by Elizabeth (or a form of) rather than Jade. She'd still be going by her middle name.
Just my opinion.
Congratulations!

Answer 9

I don't know but you could name her Jade J'aayde and then you won't have to worry about it. but i agree with you. If you name her Elizabeth Jade, she will get alot of Liz and Beth and maybe even a some Lizzie. Good luck!! Oh, you could cry and that might help you get your way. (smiles)

Answer 10

I think it's ridiculous to name someone one thing knowing all along they will be called another. I hate how people say oh how does Sean sound with bob or billy with john... How often do you ever hear anyone called by both names? I have never been called by my middle name. My mom doesn't even remember my middle name. That will be so confusing in school for her. I'd stick with calling her by her first name.