I don't really know why but I'm just not happy anymore. I recently moved to Chicago to go to college and I feel miserable. I have virtually two freinds since school started. I am naturally an introvert, artistic type of person. I have so much free time on my hands that I retreat into my imagination. Basically I'm like the guy on Science of Sleep. But I'm not having fun. I'm not happy with myself or my life and wonder if all I do is dream. And if those dreams of the future, career, relationships will ever be a reality. I desperately want to make a big change in the world. That is my number #1 goal in life. But my own self doubt, loneliness, unhappiness keeps me from doing it. I don't consider myself unattractive, I have lots of ambition and intelligence. Its just that I constantly doubt myself and have a difficult time interacting with the students at my school because they are all shallow, "lets get wasted every weekend" type of people. And I don't want to do that. Help!
2007-10-04 17:12:43 · 3 answers · asked by skoda_pop 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
You are OK.
2007-10-08 08:38:02 · answer #1 · answered by Susas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For sure don't go along with those people. I do not believe that all the people at your college are like that. You are not and there are surely some more people who are a bit more like you. You might be part of a small minority, but you are not alone.
I wonder why you have so much time on your hands if you are going to school. That sounds very odd. Most college students have to spend more time than they want just taking care of their studies. Other things you can do are to join a club, work for the school newspaper, participate in some group sports activities, go swimming, take up a craft, volunteer at a soup kitchen or a hospital. Don't just think about wanting to make a big change in the world. Start making a change in the world. It can start out small. A CHILD started a campaign to give blankets and warm clothing to the homeless people sleeping on the streets. That grew into something rather large, but he was not even a teenager when he started it. If children can make changes that have big effects, certainly you can too. Pick something that you think needs to be changed and figure out what you can do NOW to begin that change.
It sounds as though you might be depressed. I suggest that you see a doctor or a psychologist to help you evaluate that possibility. Two characteristics of depressed people is that they do not enjoy doing things they have previously gotten pleasure from and they lack the energy or drive or will to do anything even when they believe it might help them feel better.
You do have a lot to contribute to the world so take care of yourself and get started.
2007-10-04 17:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by treebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes just making a major move like yours can depress you. But if you have all that free time on your hands, how about using it to help other people? That would be a good way to meet other likeminded people and also gain a sense of self-worth. If you don't know what you want to volunteer for, call your local United Way for suggestions.
2007-10-04 17:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋