Recently after I got home from work early, I walked into my daughters room to see if she was home yet, and I saw her and my son engaging in sexual intercourse. I quickly stopped them and sent them to their rooms, but how am I supposed to talk to them about this? She is 16 and he is 15 by the way. Sorry if the subject matter is abit disturbing but I have never dealt with anything like this before and really need some advice. Thanks
2007-10-04 16:48:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Alright thanks, I'll get them to a counselor immediately.
2007-10-04 16:55:03 · update #1
JESUS CHRIST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! there is something wrong in your household my friend and i don't wanna here about it. Take em to god damn counciling.o god!!!!!!!! ewwww
2007-10-06 17:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They need to know the consequences of their behavior, consensual or not. And how not to get pregnant (worst case, not because of any danger of a birth defect, but just because of there being a baby).
Apparently the sibling bonding mechanism isn't working. It happens sometimes, and it isn't the end of the world (despite some hysterical reactions here), but they need to know that no matter how good it feels, or how convenient it is, it's not appropriate, and why.
The reality is that you may not be able to stop them (like talking the genie into going back into the bottle), but you can take measures to make it less convenient and at least be sure that there's little chance of a baby resulting.
Believe it or not, there are worse things. Good luck.
2007-10-05 05:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if there was consent, or if one of them was being molested. Either way, you really need a family counselor to work through this. Perhaps if it's too embarrassing for them, have each go to a separate counelor. You really need more help than anyone can give you on Yahoo.
2007-10-04 16:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by SoBox 7 · 10⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to talk to them.
Sit them down and tell them that is not tolerable and why. (It causes babies with genetic problems, it is taboo in nearly all cultures, also if one is considerably stronger than the other--physically or psychologically-- it may.be molestation.)
Then they can not be alone together. Ever. You must have someone to supervise them all the time.
If it is financially feasable, I would send them to seperate boarding schools for a year.
2007-10-04 16:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Truth 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to them both alone and get both there stories, the confront them together, then send them to some serious counceling.
2007-10-04 16:58:24 · answer #5 · answered by joeybowiesmom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a counseller/priest talk to them ASAP.
2007-10-05 02:11:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take them to counseling immediately, this is very abnormal.
2007-10-04 16:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
you need PROFESSIONAL help. yahoo cannot help u with this. take them to a counselor IMMEDIATELY, seriouisly. that is very disturbing.
2007-10-05 01:26:20 · answer #8 · answered by emma_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have posted this question before but changed there ages, this is about the 20th time i HAVe heard it >:(
2007-10-04 17:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by Princess Natalie 2 · 10⤊ 0⤋
okay. first sit them down and talk to them. tell them why they shouldn't.
you should get them a counselor(s)
don't let them be alone.
2007-10-04 17:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋