My husband left me for another woman four years ago. After we divorced, I text/email him whenever I felt down because I knew he would understand how I felt. Even though he had a gf and were talking about marriage. One day, he asked me to let him came back because his gf asked him to leave because of me. Will this relationship work on the second time?
2007-10-04 16:32:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Doubtful. How OK are you with being a go-between or fill in? I mean, when he met someone else, you were history, and now that he needs a fill in to get him through, he calls you. It's called being used.
2007-10-04 17:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason your ex-husband came back is because his
girlfriend threw him out .... Not because he "suddenly" realized that he made a mistake and that he REALLY loves
YOU ... But, because he obviously needs a place to stay; and
clearly isn't man enough to "go it alone."
He is a selfish "user" and you deserve so much better!
But you have GOT to believe that you deserve better. Don't
"settle" for the left-overs of the Other Woman!
I doubt very seriously if the second time around will work.
But you sound like you WANT to believe that it will ... Have the
guts to stop deceiving yourself .... This guy is not capable of
a mature and committed relationship. And the fact that you
guys were divorced FOUR YEARS ago .... and YOU STILL have NOT moved on ... means that you are not ready either.
You are willing to "SETTLE" ... than to face being alone for
AS LONG AS IT TAKES to "connect" with a man that is
serious about an adult relationship.
Do you REALLY think if enough people on "Yahoo Answers"
say "Yes it will work" ..... Then ...... it will (actually) work!!!
2007-10-08 16:37:55 · answer #2 · answered by kjh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps, but you need to get some counseling together first before getting back into that relationship. Was he receptive when you text-emailed him or simply humoring you? sit and have a lengthy discussion whether he wants to make the marriage work this time around or if he is going to find another woman to go after eventually. It can be either a very good thing or a very bad thing to get into a relationship the second time around and the counseling may help figure out what it is in this case.
2007-10-04 16:42:03 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Maybahay should actually means: "Siya ang may ari ng bahay!" That is why she has to clean the house and be the guardian of the house while the husband is away. Formerly, housewife stays at home and prepare everything needed by the family, while the husband had to be out and earn the living needed by the family. The husband looks for the "raw materials" and the wife prepares them to be "edible". Those were the days - and that was a very lovely and meaningful arrangements. But times has changed. House just becomes a "sleeping house ' where every members of the family are so busy "outside". Personally, I really missed those days!
2016-05-21 03:55:44 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhmm, you said in your question the only reason he came back is becuse his current GF asked him to leave because of you. Do you think he came back becuase he loved you or because he needed a place to stay. I would say he needed a place to stay from your question
But take from it what you will and good luck with however you want it to turn out. There are happy endings.
2007-10-04 16:43:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read what you typed...He asked you to let him come back because his gf asked him to leave...Doesn't matter the reason...This relationship may work at first, but will end up in the same condition as what caused the divorce...You make better friends than in the same roommates...
2007-10-04 16:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know how these things might work out. He might cheat again and you will be right back where you started. Perhaps you two should have a heart to heart and make sure he isn't just coming back because the gf dumped him.
2007-10-04 16:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by drewxjacobs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer is do you still love him,or can you trust him again.sometimes we want only to see what in front of us but deeper the doubt clouded our brain to think the rigth things,i hope you will not fall at the same mistakes again cause the heartaches can kill you for secand time around, four years been to long, just think it over and over. Good luck!
2007-10-04 16:51:06 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he just needs a place to crash until he finds a new girl friend. He knows he is going to get some from you and have a nice place to sleep and relax. It is up to you but I don't think I could settle for the 2nd in line . good luck!!!!!
2007-10-04 16:42:16 · answer #9 · answered by farmboy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. He left you for another woman and only came home with his tail between his legs because the jerk was kicked out.
2007-10-04 22:43:01 · answer #10 · answered by maggieeld 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no because he may find some one else agin and leave you the second time around. only reason he is going back with you because she is about to kick him out and thirth, he need a place to say afte,r you dig.
2007-10-04 16:38:48 · answer #11 · answered by Sun Shine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋