My boyfriend of a year cheated on me TWICE. And he still claims that he LOVES me and that he will never do it again.
Guys: why do u do this? how can u hurt soneone so bad and make it obvouis that u dont give a damn and still claim that you love them?
And say that u will never do it again when you've cheated twice!!?
2007-10-04 15:12:48 · 22 answers · asked by nicoℓe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The brains of some men are capable of - or defective enough to - separate physical intimacy from emotional intimacy.
Such mutants find it easy to say that the physical intimacy with one "didn't mean anything" while pledging their undying emotional commitment (they will use the word "love") to another.
Virtually all men understand this mutation, but only a few delude themselves into actually believing that it is a valid way of living and that women should some how accept it as normal...."boys will be boys"...."all men are like that"...."it's just the way nature intended for us to be"...."it's normal and natural"....
What is really amazing, however, is that there are just as many mutant female brains that actually BUY THIS LUNACY!
There's a variation on a very old saying, my dearest Nicolle: Cheat on me once, shame on you. Cheat on me twice, shame on me.
I'd say that your delusional boyfriend should be discarded. Don't worry about him. He'll find someone soon that will actually believe him. In the meantime, try and find someone with some standards and some class. You deserve better than your wasted year with this loser.
2007-10-04 18:01:09 · answer #1 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i bet your really confused about this right? and don't freak out if you by any chance feel he might be lying..b/c he might not be. As you've described he sound like a good guy. Its good in a way that he doesn't want to break the girls heart( that's a good sign). Im sure that since he likes you he'll naturally separate from her losing much connection b/c he is interested in you. Seems to me he's with the wrong girl. I think you should ask him how long (being with her) will take. Don't feel bad nor sad b/c if what you guys have is real... anything could happen! i hope things turn out amazing!
2016-04-07 04:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't shoot me, I'm only the messenger. Guys do this because it is not a question of IF but of WHEN a woman is going to leave either because she has found someone a little tiny bit better or because she has changed the man the way she wanted to and is now bored, or because she needs to know she can still get a guy. That's why only grandmas are faithful.
We know this for a fact so it's just beating you to the punch. We hurt more when you leave and you're going to leave so, since we have a biological clock too we use it.
2007-10-04 15:51:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sarrafzedehkhoee 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If a man cheats twice in the first year he will do it again. You are right in asking how can he still claim to love you. He can't possibly love and respect you and still behave this way.
You deserve better. You owe it to yourself to walk away from this pain.
Without mutual trust, respect and friendship a relationship can not last and he doesn't show any of those things towards you.
I am sorry to sound so harsh but you really deserve better.
2007-10-04 15:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by New England Babe 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well this is hard one because i have been guilty of cheating...but only to find out my wife did it to me and God knows how many other times that she hasnt told me about.....I say forgive him the first time but if he does a second time in which he has leave him...dont be anyones fool. As a guy if a woman let me get away with cheating i would continue to do it...but when you make it a big deal and let him know youre not gonna take the bull-ish he will change up....leave him
2007-10-04 15:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by Mr Confused 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Read the book 10 things women do to mess up their lives by Dr. Laura.
In the book, she blames women for not looking at what a man does instead of what he says. Look at the man does for it speaks more truth about who he is then what he says. Look at how he treats other women in his life and that will tell you how he will treat you.
The other problem is you allow this liar to stay in your life, cause you are more afraid of being alone then any thing else, even if he is not good for you and you think you are not worthy of someone better. There are good men out there, take them while you can and believe you deserve them. Get a back bone, stand up for your self, kick this man out of your life and find someone better that will treat you like you deserve to be treated.
2007-10-04 15:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by PeguinBackPacker 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
While i feel your pain, i have been cheated on, its not fair to blame this on all guys. I know of plenty of ladies who do this as well. I do not believe that a man or a women who cheats really does love the person they are cheating on. I know that when i truly love someone i could never dream of cheating on them. If you don't want to be with someone, than break up before you date others. That guy is a loser who never thought of you and i sure hope you are still not with him. I know it hurts like hell, but i promise there are men out there who are good and loyal. good luck!
2007-10-04 15:17:57 · answer #7 · answered by carriec 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
He know's he's got something good the first could have been an accident maybe. The second time he was taking advantage of you completely thrilled by his conquest. It's a man without a conscience he thinks he owns you take your pride back. I was done the same way for years it's what Aretha Franklin sang about RESPECT without it theres nothing
2007-10-04 15:20:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rusty B 1 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Not all of us are that heartless,immature,self-centered, callous,egotistical,or low down worthless a scumbag as you have on your hands.The reason he did/does this is cause he thinks you will let him get away with it.(like the first time.) And I don't mean to sound mean towards you,but some woman aren't called B!$@#'s for nothing.
2007-10-04 15:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by david b 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
i guess it is just the way young boys are. If there is a solution I don't know what it is. Just try to select someone with a better character if that is possible. Good luck.
2007-10-04 15:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋