How do you get along with people you don't really like?

Question

Let's be honest -- not everyone gets along with everybody else. But sometimes you have to try. How do you get along with somebody you don't really like?

Answer 1

The secret to getting along with those you do not like or do not like you is that you and they give each other civil respect that translates into not doing anything that is discriminatory or violates common decency.

To put it plainly, it is the old adage: Treat others as you would have them treat you.

This applies to adults as well as non-adults in the workplace, school, and everyplace where you and others come in contact. This also applies to personal, intimate relationships also.

To let go of all the emotional garbage you accumulate is your choice and you are responsible for your accountable actions!

Answer 2

I work as a security guard and have learned how to stand up for myself while doing so in a polite manner. People tend to get an attitude when I stop them for a couple seconds just to check ID. I am a security guard, a gate keeper, I have to make sure the wrong people do not get in or it will be my job on the line or worse (some sites I protect could be potential targets for terrorists.)

When they do that, I take more of their time doing inspections and checking for more ID. The more attitude they give me, the more strict I get and I do it with my best customer service "only doing my job, sir" smile. If they get too out of hand, I can call my supervisor to handle them and even the police. When they complain to my supervisor, I will tell them I was just checking ID (aka make it sound like I was doing my job.) and tell them what I was doing. I usually win.

The lesson of the story is whenever someone gives me guff, I think 1st if I did something to deserve it and if not then I think of what edge I have over them and how I can use it against them in order to get the message across that being nice works for both of us and do it in a polite manner so I will look like the good guy.

Answer 3

Hi, Mike!
First off, I'd like to say sometimes we're quick to judge, but slow to forgive. Try stepping into their shoes! I don't know about you, but I tend to judge without knowing much on the case.
Optomistic attitudes are also very helpful - even if it's fake. If you have a better attitude, not sour or snippy, the person has nothing to compolain about. If you try and avoid that person, you can avoid these situations.

Answer 4

It's all about knowing when to use honey or vinegar. What I do is spend as little time around them as possible. If I MUST be near them, I say little, giving them the hint that I don't want to engage in converstation. But there are some times when I feel I must get in someone's face and tell them how annoying they are, and give them fair warning to stop their s**t. Some people will only try to irritate you more if you show it bothers you, so you have to know when to use honey and when to pull out that vinegar.

Answer 5

its easy on your behalf to get along and if you show this person that it may be of benefit to both of you to be friends then they might reciprocate your feelings. my suggestion is to show no offence to smart remarks but rather try to talk out the reasons why they are sent in your direction. its often the case that a person may sense you as the enemy for many reasons such as power, better job or just sheer jealousy for god knows what reason even down to having friends one wants or the most vain of reasons. with this in mind i believe when you find a suitable moment open up and clear the air from your side and you may find in time that things will change. dont wait for other person dive in at first chance.

Answer 6

Oh, that's the problem! About "Let's be honest" !
Once that honesty deepens, getting along is relatively very simple. We honestly accept that such people are right now not acceptable to us. Now we have the choice, of keeping away, ignoring, learning to tolerate, etc etc... With these choices, we let the 'situation' decide what is more practical. So there is no 'residue' or 'scar' that would keep nagging us or itching us within! The problem of 'getting' along is not about any outside action. It is more of 'reaction' within. Once this 'reaction' gets out of our way, now, we have the freedom and choice to act !!

Answer 7

I always say, if you don't like the person, than don't hang out with him/her. If I really need to get along with the person, first I will try to look at their good side and maybe I will find some good qualities. Sometimes, when I really try to get along with the person I don't like, I over-try and I get really messed-up. So, in conlusion, if I don't like the person, I never try to get along, but if I'm "forced" than I try to find good qualities, if I don't, I give up.

I hope my answer didn't confuse you.

Answer 8

I suck it up and make the decision to be the better person. It's always hard to be kind to someone who is always negative to you or has characteristics that you just don't like. You don't have to like someone to be courteous to them. I just put on a brave face and deal with it because I know there will always be someone around who just rubs me the wrong way.

For example there is a girl I work with who finds any way possible to antagonize me. She's given me a nick name she knows I hate, she picks on everything about me constantly, and refuses to let up. I just shrug it off the best I can. For 8 hours a day I have to deal with her but in the end I know what she says about me doesn't really matter. She's not my friend and in the end he opinion of me doesn't change the way I feel about myself. I just smile, brush it off and try to avoid her when possible.

Answer 9

Try to find some point of commonality. Sometimes, by taking the time to learn about someone, you find that your original perception of them was incorrect.

If I can't find something in common with them, and I still don't really care for them, I'll treat them like someone I work with. I'll be courteous (without being curt) and polite (without being cold).

There will always be people that just rub you the wrong way. The trick is to realize this & move on. : )

Answer 10

i would have to say pin point what kind of personality they have and get a long on that level and try to maybe find some common interests too. i know it may not be easy but those two things have always helped me out
oh, and also you might be a little bit on the irritable side when dealing with ppl like this so just try to be a little more understanding. also, something i have to do to get through having to deal with ppl i dont want to lol : )

good luck!