I just got hired and I've been working temporary. I got offer a lower wage position during my temp service and he advise that I shoul djust stick with the temp job to see how it goes. I did listen but I made the decision right! Now my husband taking all the credit for if it wasn't for him I wouldn't be where Im ar right now? Is that true or is it just wrong? Im just so like whatever punk. I work hard to be where I am at now not because of just his little advice right? I just need some feedback if he is really if right or wrong.
2007-10-04 14:39:16 · 15 answers · asked by worried 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
neither of you is right or wrong - this is a time to celebrate and be happy you got a job. Staking claim for something in a marriage is a sign of some type of competition. WHY? you should both be helping each other indivudually ,and as a couple , to make your situation the best it can be.
you did all the work to hang in there and get the job, so you got the job not him. He should congrat YOU! and keep his mouth shut about any part he took in deciding what to do.
you can learn from past decisions you (both) made but at any given time you must assume that you (both) made the best possible decision you could have made given the circumstances and knowledge at the time of the decision.
Congratulations! Job well done, soon you will get a raise and you both need to decide how to save/spend that extra money. Marriages break often for fights over money. You are in the same boat, do not let one of you put a hole into it - lest both of you will sink.
2007-10-04 14:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by realme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The important thing is that you got the job!
Your husband gave you an advice, it made sense to you.
I dont see why there should be a right or a wrong here.
Seems like your husband just want to be acknowledge, so why dont you tell him it was a good advice, thank you honey.
Dont make a bid deal out of it, there is enough reasons to fight in a couple without adding to that.
Save your energy for when you will really need to argue your point of view on an important matter.
It might also save your couple !
2007-10-04 14:48:04 · answer #2 · answered by annelle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but are you serious?
If this is the kind of battle you pick to have with your husband you either have too much time on your hands or a really crummy relationship.
This fight sounds like something a couple of teenagers would be p.o.'d about.
Really - it's not about who's right or wrong - it's about how you treat each other. If he is putting you down by taking credit for your work then you need to set him straight and let him know how you expect to be treated - and then afford him the same kind of treatment, too. Try to both understand each other and work it out.
If you get stuck in trying to prove who's right and who's wrong then your marriage won't last long...
Good luck!
2007-10-04 14:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Mirage 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am 100% on your side on this one! No matter what advice he gave you, it was "you" who made the decision...."you" who did the work and "you" who stuck with it and gave it your all! This to me sounds like a situation in which he wants to take full credit for saying a phrase or two. So, you are right...you did the work so you take the credit. Good luck to you and I hope this helps!
2007-10-04 15:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is wrong, remember he is the one who told you to turn down the offer, right! I don't see where he get any credit for it, when you're the one made the choice to accept the offer. And I hope you move up the ladder in the wages department. Oh my the way, when you do move up in the salary department, keep it to yourself....wink! way to go and good luck!
2007-10-04 14:49:00 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not your hubby proposed that you stay at the job, you did the actual work that impressed the bosses enough to hire you out of the temporary position.
2007-10-04 14:41:44 · answer #6 · answered by Daniel T 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GEEZ - do you two always bicker over such stupid stuff like this? If the little boy wants to play "look at me" and act all puffy over BEING RIGHT, then let the baby have the candy - he WILL get over it.
You would be amazed at how much time and ENERGY it wastes to pick at each other over who is "right" and who is "wrong" - - what is WRONG, is feeling the need to prove anything anyway!!!
2007-10-04 17:34:56 · answer #7 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not the reason you got the job. He sounds like he may have a tad of an inferiority complex. It sounds as if he's trying to steal your thunder.
2007-10-04 15:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by bonnieboobabe 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that you are not sure of yourself in your own mind and he is using that to make himself feel better. Even if that means you feel worse. Know inside yourself what you have done and you are worth. Then it doesn't matter what anybody thinks.....including him.
2007-10-04 14:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by tlbrown42000 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep you got it right YOU WORKED HARD. He should be happy that you're doing well, why would you two even argue about this anyways.
2007-10-04 14:44:51 · answer #10 · answered by lucidwillow 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋