ok been together a year been married 3 months and at first we had sex all the time but now i want sex all the tima and he only wants it 2 or 3 times a week why is this think he may be bored hes only 3 1/2 years older so his sex drive should be close to the same of mine, is there somthing wrong or is every thing normal....?
2007-10-04 13:43:41 · 9 answers · asked by Mrs T. 2009 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
does he work a lot? it could be he is tired or stressed. sometimes men have a really high sex drive and then it dies down sometimes it isnt good or healthy. but 2-3 times a week is pretty healthy. if your concerned talk to him about it and just ask him wats goin on...try askin him things that might turn him on or surprise one day when he comes home from work or wherever as soon as he opens the door be there in a robe and just seduce him. and if things dont improve you might want to talk to ur family doctor becuz a lot of men have some testerone problems and it affects their sex life.
2007-10-04 13:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by bballbabe725 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, have him buy you a pregnancy test - or you buy one - and get that settled right away so you don't have to worry about it anymore. You can't know if you are pregnant unless you take the test or get your period. Cramping and soreness can mean you are pre menstrual or have other causes so that alone doesn't really tell you. I'm not a lawyer but it seems it's not illegal if you are 16. I did a yahoo search under "Law Sex with a Minor Florida" and that's what the sites I looked at said, but again, I'm not a lawyer. So I don't believe he could ever go to jail for having sex with you. If he were 24 or older and you were 16 it would be statutory rape. Of course in any case if it's consensual someone has to report it for it to be a problem. I don't know if you could move in with him or not but do consider if this is a good idea to begin with. If you aren't pregnant you might not need to tell your Mom but for your own sake please don't have unprotected sex again. It's a pretty high price to pay - being pregnant at 16 and having a child or having an abortion at your age isn't a great idea. While it's good to be forgiving I think you need to change the "boys will be boys" attitude and speak with your boyfriend about how important it is to always use protection. It sounds like you have a good relationship but it's possible that it could end and that would leave you in an even more difficult situation if you got pregnant.
2016-05-21 02:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's usually the reverse but don't worry, it will get worse. Sometime after the kids are gone and your in your late 40's early fifties, it will change again.
There's going to be an adjustment period and you'll both find your levels but it is still pretty early. I had visions of wild sex every night AFTER we got married since it wasn't happening before. That didnt happen either but such is life.
This is more normal or at least it was at the time. Now she is more available and I am less interested but we still manage pretty often. Don't fret over it too much or the problem will seem worse. Just tell him how often you are in the mood and maybe things will change. Men aren't necessarily real fast on the uptake. Talk to him.
2007-10-04 13:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by Ret. Sgt. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing you were not having sex before marriage and that he was not a virgin and you were? When you first start having sex all you want to do is have sex, but eventually that cools down and you go to wanting sex all the time to your real sex drive. It's normal for couples to have varying sex drives as well. His might always be lower than yours. It's normal, especially these days when fewer young women are sexually repressed. We know that 'good girls' do it too!
And that myth about the sexual peaks? Well, with societal attitudes changing and accepting the female need for sex, 30 isn't going to bring on some crazy sex drive in most younger women. Naturally, we begin to enjoy sex during our teenage years, just like the boys.
2007-10-04 14:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by some female 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is something wrong 2 or 3 times a week is wen you have 15 years of marriage
2007-10-04 14:05:18 · answer #5 · answered by Gigi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everything is quite normal. Only thing is you're still living in fantasy land and he is living in reality. He has outgrown the newness of marriage and has other things to think about all day other than getting laid.
2007-10-04 16:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmmmm if hes a man and don't want sex from u he's either gay or getting a.s.s else where, face it its the truth
2007-10-04 15:44:55 · answer #7 · answered by uloseallurmarbles 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The honey moon period is over?
2007-10-04 14:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by h&t_oct282007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you got married, DUH!
2007-10-04 13:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋