Saw cell phone bill with several calls lasting 4 hrs to "friend" how do I handle this?

Question

bf of 6 yrs and I were going thru his bills. We will routinely do this. Stamped sealed then went about our day. Later in the day he left to pick up his son and asked if I would straighten up house, take trash out etc. When I gathered up the trash I saw his cell phone bill was in the trash I had not remembered if he had paid that. I get the bill, the envelope was open. I looked to see if the bottim half was torn off and pd,much to my surprise there were several calls lasting 3/ 4 hrs a nit. Lasting until 2 am There were many calls at different times. Since the drive is 2 hrs to get his son I fumed for 2 hrs. When got back I asked him to explain. The story was it is a girl that he sees when he does work at her office. They evidently talk about people she talks with on the net. "No big deal" I new he worked at this office, but obviously not the whole story. He wuld call me at nite "on his way to bed" but obviously caling her. i am fuming and he thinks I am too jealous. opinions pleze

Answer 1

myself .... i prolly wouldnt have said a word and waited to do a little more investigating ... GREAT idea here .... if they are just friends then asked him to invite her over for dinner . that will tell you all you need to know ... good luck to you !!!!!

some may say its "OH SO TOO JEALOUS" but believe me when i say i have seen it turn from "just friends " to much much more ... not me but a friend of mine .

Answer 2

When a person spends that much time talking, they are usually getting to know a person much better. Why would he want to talk/get to know another female better when he has a girlfriend already? I think he likes her and he enjoys her conversation and no telling where this is going to lead. I don't think they had sex yet. Once he has sex with her the conversation will go from 3 hours to 30 minutes to 3 minutes depending on what he is saying. 30 minutes could be checking on her and asking her how her day was. 3 minutes could be meet me at such and such at a certain time.

You don't have any evidence as far as him cheating, but he is a step away from it.

Answer 3

My theory is when the words "no big deal" comes out of their mouth, you can just about bet it's a BIG deal. If is wasn't why was he hiding it from you? Call the # and let her know you know what's going on. He may not like it, but, so what, he's the one who's talking to another woman till all hours of the morning. At least you'll feel better for standing up for yourself. He obviously isn't going to give you the truth, maybe she'll spill the beans!!

Answer 4

Having friendships with either gender is not cheating. Do you have any evidence at all that this is anymore than a few long lasting phone calls? Yea, sure they were late at night, but a lot of people don't sleep well and stay up at night. It's not as if sex can't be done in the middle of the afternoon. He hid it from you because you're obviously more jealous than you are reasonable.

Answer 5

The fish is really stinking up the room here. Find out who she is and where she lives. Then when he says he's going out, take a ride over to her house. See if you find his car there. If it's not far, you can make drive- bys everytime you get a chance when he's not home. I suspect you'll find his car parked at her residence one of those times he's "out". Try checking at lunch time..Afternoon delight is very common with close co-workers.. Take pics with a camera phone or digital camera of his car and license plate. Confront him and try and let him expain his way out of that! If you're after the truth, that might work. Or, jot down the phone # and send a text message from his phone (when he's asleep) saying "she knows about us, and I need to ttu. Meet me at my car in the morn before work at ___" (time). After he leaves for work, follow him and park where you can watch. See if she comes to meet him. If so, then walk over and say Hi to them both. They'll know then who sent the message. Or, one other thing u might wanna try> call her, make up a name, and say you're having an affair with ___(his name) and I'm pregnant. Then tell her to back off! Use a friend or relative's cell so he won't know the # when she tells him. He'll have to try to convince her that he isn't having an affair with somebody else. lol After that, what you decide to do is up to you.. Good Luck..

Answer 6

I'm sorry but it doesn't sound right, talking on the phone to another woman for several hours!! Sounds to me like something is going on there. You are right to be jealous, go with your gut instinct and tell him how you feel, ask him to be honest with you. You will get it out of him, or at least be able to tell if he's lying!

Answer 7

after 6 years he should of told you this is .i know him for a couple of months should i be jealous what a sneaky snake.here you are going to bed and thinking he is as well and hes on the phone with a married women or a taken women obviously.why would she be on the phone so late as well.lose him!!!!!

Answer 8

i have been cheated on and my first reaction is yes it is a big deal find that bimbo and ask her what she is doing with your husband let her have it!!! It is not ok and you have every right to think just what I know you are thinking....then change the number or get rid of the cell...we did

Answer 9

Open your eyes!! those are just clues...your boyfriend has NO business talking to another woman non realated to him for more than 10 minutes!!..advice? advice is what you ask when you already know the answer but you wish you didn't........
if it smells like a dog, barks like a dog, runs like a dog, has fleaslike a dog...it is probably a dog!

Answer 10

He may may or may not be telling you the truth. You should have called the number and spoke to the female, then that way you would not Ive to wiry about anything.