i want to get married by the age of 25. i'm almost 21 and i don't have a boyfriend right now. is this a reasonable goal?
2007-10-04 12:52:58 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I got married at 33 years old
Why do people presume that they need to set a year or date to get married.
Are you also going to set your self at date or year for also having a baby.
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When you get a boyfriend and you want to spend the rest of your life with him then you will possibly get married.
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Let life take its own course.
By all means guide your life but don't set hard and fast dates for when things will happen it can only lead to anxiety and distress.
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2007-10-04 13:15:06 · answer #1 · answered by Big R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa baby girl, hold up! Don't make a goal of when you will be married or you might marry the wrong guy just to meet your goal. Also, guys can tell when a girl is trying to "push" marriage and it's a real turn off to them. You need to relax and take your time to get to know the guys you meet. What harm would there be if you meet "Mr. Right" and marry him at age 30?
2007-10-04 20:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by MBA-MsBadAss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's reasonable to give yourself any sort of time limit. When the time is right, you will know, but maybe it's not supposed to happen for you until you're 26. What's the harm in waiting an extra year? In that sense, what's the harm in not making it something you have to have accomplished by a certain age, but something you wait to do until the time is right (you've met the right guy, have enough saved up for the wedding and honeymoon you'll really want to remember for the rest of your lives together)
But I know what you mean, and I think that five years is still plenty of time for you to meet someone and get married.
Just make sure that someday, if you're 24 and single, you don't agree to marry the first person to ask you just because he asked. Make sure he's the one you really can see yourself with forever.
2007-10-04 19:59:11 · answer #3 · answered by nameless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. You don't have to set an age goal to get married. Don't hurry up on life. Just take your time. I admit i got married at the age of 25, its because i have found the right person and we've been bf's for 4 years. we have been through a tough times also before we got married and it was proven that he is the man that i am going to spend the rest of my life. JUST TAKE YOUR TIME. that's all i can say to you.
2007-10-04 19:59:46 · answer #4 · answered by chuminera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A reasonable goal would be to have a BS by the age of 25. Or to have a great career. But to be married? You can't predict when you are going to fall in love or with whom. Why don't you just live your life and when it happens it happens.
2007-10-04 20:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by Carebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put too much pressure on yourself by setting a goal like that. You may end up rushing into something with someone who isn't your perfect match. However, if you do meet the guy of your dreams then yes it is reasonable. I met my husband when I was 22 and got married a year and a half later.
2007-10-04 19:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Lauren B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would certainly hope that you will not be settling for someone just for the heck of marrying or having a big, fancy wedding. Because that is what a lot of women want when they reach a certain age and they see their prospects shrinking and this usually ends up in divorce and a lot of sorrow. Marriage will happen when it happens. You must know that marriage can be good and it can also be bad, so don't rush into something just for the heck of it.
2007-10-04 19:57:36 · answer #7 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 23. Had my child at 25 and divorced my husband at 26. I would suggest on holding off on setting an age when you think you should get married.
Second marriage at 38 will last forever.
2007-10-04 19:57:02 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's going to happen if YOU don't get married by the time you're 25? Is the world going to come to an end?
2007-10-05 01:02:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be just wait for the perfect person you are not in a hurry get to know him well enjoy your relationship and if by 25 you are not ready to get married Don't and wait a little more.. Good luck finding your future HUBBY!!! Just think positive & achive your goals ")
2007-10-04 19:57:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is silly to try to pin yourself down to an age.
You are 21. Tomorrow you might meet someone that you will marry when you are 23. Or you might not until you are 30.
By trying to pigeonhole yourself into a particular timeframe you risk setting yourself up to accept someone that you may not be right for. Just take it easy.
2007-10-04 19:59:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋