Is snoring a bad reason to divorce your spouse?

Question

My husband snores And it is so bad, I have been tempted to take a large pan and bang it in his face. I have been sleeping in my child's room for over a month and I know that this will only create another problem. My husband doesn't seem to acknowledge his snoring problem, but It really is affecting my overall sense of happiness and I don't know what to do. Should I leave him?

Answer 1

I am very sensitive to annoying sounds whistling drives me crazy.
If you are seriously considering leaving because of snoring, I think it means you want to leave, snoring no snoring it doesn't matter.
Seriously, I have an employee, whistles all day long, I dream of firing him but I haven't and I wont he's a good employee.

Answer 2

Ok. i know my husband would be stubborn enough not listen if I told him he had a snoring problem. I'd try to see if the snoring is less if he sleeps in a different position on his side or something. If that works then everything will be better. Also try to go to sleep before him. so that you're deep in sleep and maybe you won't wake up if you're far into sleep.
Or he may be one of those people that only snores when they're dead tired. See if he can take a early evening nap and if that makes the snoring a little less.

Answer 3

I believe what you are going through is called "transference". There is a problem (s) in your marriage and you are afraid or unwilling to confront the issues so you have transferred all the anger and hurt to the snoring because it is the most obvious problem.

Moving to separate bedrooms hasn't resolved the
issue, and it should have if snoring was the problem.

I don't think you are really an aggressive and abusive person. I think you are frustrated.

This is one of the times when counseling will help identify what is the real issue and then you can work for a resolution. If your spouse doesn't want to go with you, go by yourself so you can learn how to deal with problems, and live the happy life you once had.

Answer 4

Well I've never heard of the court allowing snoring as grounds for divorce. Want him to acknowledge he has the problem? Tape him while he sleeps. Snoring could be a sign of medical problems. Could be his sinuses need checking, could be a type of sleep apnea, snoring sometimes accompanies overweightness. If he is a drinker his snoring will be heavier. He could have lung/bronchial problems that cause him to snore. Won't know if it is any of these things unless he sees a doctor. You need to sit him down and say something like "I'm concerned about your snoring because it could be a sign of a hidden medical problem and I want you to be healthy. Please make an appointment with the doctor to disucss this problem". In the meantime there are "breath right" strips as well as anti snoring spray which work fairly well.

Answer 5

Wow!! Don't do that pan thing, totally inappropriate. There is this nose band aid sold at the drug store that you put on the outer nose to keep it open to stop snoring. Another thing is to observe when he is snoring, I wondered is he lying on his back if so try to get him to turn over on his stomach. Don't do it mean but a gentle nudge when he is made aware of the snoring, he will understand and turn over which will solve the problem. Now, if he's loud like a freight train and doesn't hear you the nose band aid may work. Best to you.

Answer 6

This falls into that funny little "for better or worse" category.

Would you think he'd be fine to divorce you if you lost your boobs to cancer? Or if you got in an accident? I would think you would hope your loving devoted husband would be there.

However, this is a serious problem. And it is a medical one. Tell him (NICELY) that you love him and you are concerned for his health. There are things that can be done about people with sleep apnea (which this maybe is?). This will make your life better and his.

Divorce at something stupid like snoring is incredibly selfish. Are you gonna tell your child you left their father because he SNORED? Your kid will HATE you for that.

Answer 7

If he doesn't think his snoring is bad, tape it and play it back for him. My husband does the same thing. I get up every morning and put the curtains back on the windows where he's sucked them off during the night, just kidding. But it's close to being true. Unless, there's another reason you might want to divorce him, I think, you may get laughed out of court with that excuse. Try those sticky nose strips that stick to the outside of the nose to open it up. They work for my husband when I can stick one on after he's asleep. Good luck!!!

Answer 8

My husband has THE loudedst snore... ever. But he also has sleep apnea so he uses a loud breathing machine as well. At first, I didnt get much sleep at all. Now, I have my blessed ear plugs. I absolutely LOVE my ear plugs. I use them even when he's not home. When I put them in, all I can hear is my own breathing. It is so soothing to me that I fall right to sleep every night. I used to lay awake for a long time, but now, thanks to my ear plugs, I get lots of restful sleep. I got a whole package for around $5 at Wal-Mart. Good luck..and don't divorce over snoring...that's silly.

Answer 9

LOL...take a large pan and bang his face. C'mon sweetie...if you were going to do that I'm sure you have plenty of other reasons than snoring.

I do it. Used to do it terribly when I was younger. Causes? Some are overweight, exhaustions, heavy drinking, smoking or some physical problem that a eye, ear, nose and throat man can fix.

In the meantime...is it a PIA to sleep in the other room. yeah. But....any real complaints about him or the marriage other than this?

This is easily fixable. Unlike some of the problems other simpletons display here.

Answer 10

Don't divorce because of snoring.
Have him go to a doctor and see if it can be corrected.
If not, then you can sleep in another room....but it doesn't mean that you can't still be intimate. But try the doctor first and go about this logically.