would you still get married.. and why .. also how long have you been married.. i was married twice.. the first did not last a year and the second lasted 19.. if i knew then what i know now i would never have gotten married.. first one cheated. the second a control freak that nearly turned me nuts..
2007-10-04 12:44:10 · 12 answers · asked by vis 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what i learn was to think before i act..
2007-10-04 12:51:17 · update #1
23 years of marraige that just recently ended taught me that had I waited until I'd finished a college degree and lived my life a little...I wouldn't have married him. Although I wouldn't have my two wonderful kids either.
2007-10-04 12:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by mamapoulette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I knew then what I know now I would still have married things have been hard and really awful but I know why I loved him and still do. Now there are these sweet little girls that look like us too nothing in the world will make me regret that besides there could be even better things in store. People are not all bad even when they hurt the ones they love there is sufficent time and grace for healing everything! I am glad to be his wife it will be five years in Feb. That will also be the one year marker for my discovering his adultery. I am not afraid of the future now we will succeed or fail but I am no worse for having loved and served he is a good man with a few mistakes and even I get that!
2007-10-04 20:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by just duky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a hard one to answer. If I knew I would have years of love, devotion and caring and then, in one instant, that be taken away by him cheating; don't know if I would. To tell the truth, I might live with someone rather than marry them if I had known what would come after so many years together. That's the trouble with cheating, it makes a mockery of what you thought you had before. So, guess I'd stay single.
2007-10-04 20:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew then what I know now I would have been kinder and more understanding to my husband. We have now been married 9 years, got married after 9 months together and I was 5 months preggo to boot. I was 21, he was 23. We have matured, grown and made our life together. I wouldn't trade that for anything. I only wish we had BOTH had more patience in the begining, but perhaps our marriage wouldn't be as strong as it is now if we hadn't lived through the other crap.
2007-10-04 20:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first marriage lasted for 5 yrs but was only together for 2.5 he beat the snot outta me on a regular basis.SUre most women would say no I wouldn't have married if I had that prior knowledge.Me though yeah I'd do it again because the lessons I learned from that "practice"marriage helped me be who I am today.No I'm not grateful I was beaten but I'm grateful that it made me a stronger person and to be more aware of the men I chose from there on in.
I"ve been married happily for 10 years in my second marriage I wouldn't change a thing...
M.G
2007-10-04 19:51:32 · answer #5 · answered by Malia G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I love my husband with everything in me and I would marry him again. I still have butterflies in my stomach when we talk on the phone or when I see him after 4 years together and married for almost 1. He is amazing in every aspect of the word. I thank god for placing him in my path and allowing us to become husband and wife. It was the best decision I have ever made and I would go through all of those bullshit relationships just to get to him in the end!
2007-10-04 19:58:47 · answer #6 · answered by Flyyasever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no i would not have married my second husband again, because it brought me just heartache and no happiness. i was married 10 years, and wish i had known how he treated others he was married to, before i committed. but too smart too late, too old too soon. we will always be able to look back when all is said and done and see where we made our mistakes, but unfortunately this is not something we can ever see when were in love. we will never know anything about them at first, as they hide it so well. they allow us to see only what would draw us to them, and they keep secret the bad things, until after the wedding when its too late to change your mind.
2007-10-04 20:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
100% yes I would.
Married 8 years.
Boogie time!
p.s. it took you 19 years to realize he was a control freak? I think you likely knew that when you married him.
2007-10-04 20:20:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Humph! Mine lasted...no...'has lasted' twenty three. Not inlcuding the 2 years we lived together with her three daughers age 9, 11 and 12. Of course I was 26 and she was 38. Got grandkids now.
So...where'd you go wrong? Seems you've made some poor choices all around. What have you learned from this? I'm curious.
2007-10-04 19:48:49 · answer #9 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i would not have got married. the frist lastest 6 months second 18 yr both cheaters. so no way live together that the way iam going
2007-10-04 19:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by sweetbaby672000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋