Hi
My wife and I have been married for a little over a year. During this time we have never lived together as husband and wife. We have spent three weeks together. A week at a time. One week during the honeymoon. A week in December and most recently a week in June. My wife has filed for a divorce. I do not want a divorce. I want reconcilliation and for God to save and restore my marriage. My wife lives in Canada and me here in the US. I was denied entry into the country becasue of an event that occured 20 yeasr ago. We needed $1000 to complete a form that would get me into Canada but I could not raise that money and my wife did not want to help me. As I said she wants a divorce. I have researcehd the scriptures on divorce and remarriage exhaustively. I do not want to spend the rest of my life a single man. I am in my early 40's and this is my first marriage, her's too. I want to be able to remarry if the divorce goes through. Can I remarry under biblical grounds? Did my wife and I have a real marriage in the eyes of God? I feel like I am an innocent man. I did not commit adultery, abandon my wife, verbally abuse my iwife. I have been faithful and true to my wife but she wants a divorce so she can find someone else. I have been called to ministry and will this divorce prevent me? I love my wife and want to stay together. What can I or do I do?
2007-10-04 12:07:58 · 12 answers · asked by gregctee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think, religious as you are, it would be best if you seek a priest and talk to him. he would know what to say according to your beliefs. He might help you annul the marriage, as she is the one leaving you and showing no solidarity,
So don't dis pair. Look for help in your community.
2007-10-04 12:19:04 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyes 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow. I think you are a good guy. biblical grounds or no your wife has suddenly made up her mind. That then would make her an adulteress if she gets involved with someone else. Also the bible says that if you believe and your spoused does not you should stay because you are the one who sanctifies the family you have God's covering. If the non believing spouse wishes to leave you are to allow it. (don't have the reference sorry) Yes I do think you were married in God's eyes. That being said I too believe God can and will restore. You still have a freedom of choice and so does she. It would be her choice to follow God in this and you have no control over that. Yes I think you can still do ministry not many denominations will deny you. You can remarry unless God says otherwise and he can bring you a mate ask Him
you pray seek God first is always what you do! one more thing read Jeremiah 29:11 and know God is for you!
2007-10-04 19:39:44 · answer #2 · answered by just duky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey it sounds to me like there never really was a marriage except for on paper. If your wife wants a divorce and is set on getting one then you should let her go. Obviously she does not feel the same way about you as you feel about her and that is one sided. Marriage is a two way street wholeheartedly or otherwise it will crumble. I know you love your wife and you sound like a good man but just because one marriage does not work out does not mean "GOD" does not have a plan for your life. Be happy that you were able to have an experience with this woman and don't cry because it's over cry because the relationship happened in the first place. Do what god has called on you to do honey and please believe me he will send the woman that he has for you in his time not yours! Good luck.....You deserve the ultimate happiness......
2007-10-04 19:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by Flyyasever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop man just stop. You married someone you knew for 3 weeks. That I would bet a dollar you met on the net. I can tell by what you type you have deep seed mental issues. Then the religious overtones is just really creepy. You sound more like a stalker then a husband.
You really don't know the women at all! Let it go man and stop letting some 2000 year old book run your life and stop looking to some man in the sky for advice.
Get the yellow pages and call a good shrink and get the old head fixed before you even think about dating.
2007-10-04 19:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by moscow1677 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You want God to help you with this? Uh-huh. So...how's that working out for you so far?
Listen sport....obviously whoever you spoke with or deferred to when you took this woman as your wife provided you with the wrong advice. Try this..."God helps those who help themselves". Get it? This is your ball of crap. God isn't going to do anything for you on a physical plain. You need to file...divorce her and chalk this up to a poor judgement call. So you married Jezabell. Big deal. Find a nice lady in your parish or congregation. Guys like you always make out. Even if its the second time around. The religion keeps you on the straight and narrow. Not that I'm knocking it...its a fact Jack.
So..beat it. File...quit waiting for the Almighty to smite her or change her mind. Ain't gonna happen. Only you can make this happen. Good luck in the future. I'm sure you'll do better next time around.
2007-10-04 19:16:24 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about the circumstances as to why you were married in the first place and knew you wouldn't be living in the same country, but that's not the point.
God is a forgiving God. While He does not want to see you get divorced because it hurts him to see you hurting I know that if you ask forgivness for what has happened he's going to be okay with it. Just don't make a habit of this...
2007-10-04 19:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by FLAGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am sorry but its not a marriage. i dont know about god or anyting like that but in my eyes you dont even know that person. a week here and there is not even a relationship make forget about marriage. and no you didnt do anything wrong with your wife simply becuase you dont even know her and didnt live with her. sorry to say but you are not really married to anyone. its all a big scam...
2007-10-04 19:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, but you can't make someone love you. I feel bad for you but it looks like you have been conned here. I would think under the circumstances you may qualify for an annulment.
2007-10-04 19:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, get over the religion man. You won't go to h*ll if you divorce and remarry. She doesn't want you anymore.
2007-10-04 19:12:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You know this is the best answer: I once had a neighbor that was born in Peru, her parents adopted her when she was just two, each time I see them, their joy shines through and their house is filled with love, love makes a family, oOOOoO, loves makes a family, love makes a family
2007-10-04 19:18:32 · answer #10 · answered by mr fugi 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋