can someone define a breakdown?how it happens?what causes it?could the inability to grieve someone cause it?

Answer 1

I think a breakdown is where someone is at a point where coping and getting on with life is not an option. It is nature's way of giving the mind and body a rest and time to repair to re-energise to cope with whatever it is they are going through. Life is painful and bereavement is probably one of the most painful to bear. People react in different ways and on different time scales but normally the pattern is similar. It is always best to try and talk about problems to trusted family, friends or counsellors, that in itself stops you from bottling up feelings leading to depression etc. With time and support the healing process can begin. You have to be able to look after yourself and take time to eat well, exercise, sleep and relax etc too. If self help does not work then professional help can be arranged through GP.

Answer 2

Defining a breakdown is very difficult, coming to terms with the fact that you are on the edge of one is a revelation too as you don't realise what is happening. It is usually through the intervention of someone who cares or loves you that you find that the only way forward is to go and see a professional.
It can be many things that cause it, the inability to grieve or even grief itself, love too, if it isn't recognised for what it is. I was away for the weekend when my partner had a heart attack and died, and despite leaving messages all weekend no-one bothered to call me to get me back, so I didn't find out until I got back to an empty house and a hand written note. It took me four years of work to settle the estate and a breakdown, and I still grieve.
The only way to get over it is by surrounding yourself with people that you trust wholly not to desert you in your hour of need, family and friends. Grief councelling works, but you never forget, nor should you, and it doesn't hurt anyone to shed a tear now and then. It's a long road back to so called normality, so live life one day at a time and enjoy the rollercoaster ride as best you can.

Answer 3

Anything can cause a breakdown. I believe the medical profession in the UK don't call it that anymore, but basically when we can't cope with something that's happened.

I suffer from depression. Have done for years. I cope with it now, and I'm fine. However, I used to feel guilty as I felt there were alot of people who were worse off than me, and didn't suffer depression. I was told that everybody deals with life differently. Doesn't make you a weak person, just means you're not able to cope.

If you're grieving for someone, you could head towards a breakdown. But don't think like that. Take each day as it comes, instead of looking too far ahead and seeing no change. Tomorrow is another day.

The answer before me.... I'm sorry about your dad. It wasn't your fault at all. You weren't to know the operation would kill him. Your dad would know that. It's just something you weren't in control of.

Good luck both of you

Answer 4

Its when you just get really sad and unhappy. It happens from having alot of stress and not dealing with problems. Not grieving can definenly cause it.

Answer 5

well i for one found the grieving process all too much, outside we seem to be all thunder and rage, inside were lost, confused and we just dont have a clue whats really going on...

i existed like that for 3 years... now, 9yrs later it seems like a bad dream, but back then, it was all too real. to surreal... i persuaded my dad to go have the surgery which killed him. yes, i felt guilty, and still do, but reality says, hey, bad luck, but it happens, and its no ones fault... i may say the words, but do i truly accept it? maybe not. all i know is my dad died aged 62, and i still miss him.,

Answer 6

depression, neurosis
anxiety causes it
inability to grieve is a symptom