Why do people have kids then moan that they don't have any money?

Question

Ive just read a question about stay at home parents, and how they dont have any money, they cant afford anything so they should be paid a wage for doing the job they do

You wouldnt go out and buy a car if you couldnt afford the repayments?
Yet children will bleed you dry for the next god knows how many years!!!!!
I cant stand people who moan about not being able to afford things just because they have children!

Isn't it quite simple?
Dont have children if you cant afford to support them

door.uk
yes thanks for taking the time to ask!
I have one son, i work part time, my parent works full time
we are working class parents

lol sorry partner not parent :)

Answer 1

When it comes to buying a car, you have to make an effort to pick one out and pick out financing. To make a baby it is a simple as not taking the extra step to use a condom.

The same mechanism that keeps people poor, causes them to have more children. It is that simple. They keep up with their selfish needs, and don't focus on the important things. Thus sex is given a higher priority than education.

As a result, uneducated people, that work low-paying blue-collar jobs have the most children. Educated, white-collar, highly functional people, usually have none.

Answer 2

I think part of the trouble is that in our materialistic society, people have a hard time distinguishing between want and need. Sure, providing for a child's needs is expensive, but it's the wants that break the bank.

Many child care items can be purchased used for a lower price, but people are scared to death of putting their child in a used car seat or crib. Thrift stores and bleach are your friends.

As far as the teen years, they should be starting to learn fiscal responsibility, and you can provide that by explaining the budget you're on and what type of choices you have to make about the money you spend. Not buying frivolous stuff just because it's in style will eventually make sense to them.

Answer 3

In their defense, a lot of them may be exaggerating their lack of money either for attention or just because they like to exaggerate in efforts to be humorous or for whatever reason. Also, a lot of people don't think about how much money it takes to raise kids. If everyone thought about that before having kids, most people probably wouldn't have kids and the population would quickly begin to drop. (lol, Okay that's probably an exaggeration).

In many cases, it's not that they can't afford to take care of their kids. It's just that sometimes they get overwhelmed by how much cash they have part with in order to keep a home and family going.

Answer 4

I can see your point, but most people have children because they are in love and want to create this wonderful little being.

yes, they are expensive, it comes as a bit of a shock just how much they do cost, especially if one of you has to drop hours in work,but thats part and parcel of having kids.

We have one daughter and i wouldnt swap her for the world, it has been a struggle as ive had to go part time in work so I can do things like take her to school etc, but we knew that would happen, and i would like to point out that we dont actually claim any of those tax credits, not because we earn too much (I wish!) but because we can just about manage on our current income, and really dont feel right claiming benefits.

Most people simply dont realise how much it all costs - prams, car seats, cots, clothes, nappies etc. i think maybe if people knew the true financial and emotional cost they would think a bit harder, but its very hard to ignore hormones and the biological clock and think about things like that in all honesty.

We wont be having anymore, because we cannot afford another one. i would have to give up work completely which would really put us on the edge of financial collapse, I refuse to live off benefits, I would rather work and have one fab child than pop out loads of kids and have no money.

I dont think that stay at home parents should be paid a wage, who would pay it? Though I can see their reasoning, trying to entertain, educate and look after kids while trying to do the washing, ironing, dusting, cleaning, vacuuming, shopping, and all the other daily chores is extremely difficult and anyone who has not had kids cannot possibly understand how stressfull it can be. Its a 24/7 job and you hardly ever get any thanks, you are just on your feet all day long rushing around.

Thankfully ive got my job to keep me sane, but when I am home in the school holidays, I find it very hard work.

There is a lot more involved to having kids than most people realise, and its easy for you to criticize, but imagine if you were working hard all day long with no thanks and no wage, i am pretty sure you would feel like having a moan too!

I agree with what you are saying, but try telling your raging hormones you cant have a child because you cant afford it. Its eaier said than done, and until you get to that point, you wont really understand what its like.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

Some of us could afford to support our children when we had then, but no one can see the future. I was a full time driving instructor, but discovered that I had cancer and could no longer work. If anyone wants to swap their highly paid job for staying at home with cancer go ahead!
I was making a point that lone parents aren't as well off as some people would think. - But I don't go around moaning about not having any money.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

The root of the problem is that stay at home parents are viewed by our society as LAZY, LAP OF LUXURY, WORTHLESS people...when in fact they are making the ultimate sacrifice to be with their children. AND YET, they get slapped in the face not only by society in general, but by their very husbands and wives who also somehow view it as a lazy way out.

I'd like some of these people to spend ALL day with their children EVERY DAY and tell me after a week that if feels like a vacation.

Problem is that we SHOULD stay home with our children instead of farming them off to strangers. Problem is that it is a totally thankless job, and people are getting RESENTFUL that others view them as such.

The solutions IS NOT FOR the GOVT. to pay them any money, that's just plain RIDICULOUS, but we definitely need some kind of attitude shift in general in our society.

Answer 9

i totally agree and i have kids its so hard now a days having kids is one of the most exciting things in your life yet it costs a fortune to kit them out society has gone mad i mean £500 for a pram whats that all about,shops know to hit you where it hurts cause buying a pram is an essential thing and car seats are a safety issue and yet they cost a bomb its totally ridiculous,i have a friend who has one wee boy and would love to have another child but she wont cause she cant afford to

Answer 10

Because rational thought goes out the window when two people decide to bump and grind. Many people think the idea of having kids is great but they don't really think things through. If they did then we wouldn't have so many unhappy couples and battered children.